Confused and frustrated

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   Posted 3/13/2008 12:03 AM (GMT -6)   
I am confused and frustrated.  I do not know what to think or how.  I work as an apartment manager, and have been at my job apx a year.  I really like the owners and get along well with her.  This is the first time I have ever done this type of job. I got the job because I knew her.  They have been very good to me and I will always be grateful to them for taking a chance on me. Here is where the confusion comes in.  They have always told me I am doing a great job.  In fact I got an e-mail from her the other day telling me they liked that I sent them some reports showing who has paid and who have not.  Well, tonite I went over to their house and we went over the reports.  We have this one tenant who lost his job last Nov. and got behind on his rent.  He got caught up and has kept in touch with me.  He is now doing a job where he is not home very often.  He hasn't really paid that much.  We have sent him several eviction notices but he sends some money.  They were going to send his file to an atty. this week but we got two checks from him last week in the mail.  So, they decided that they would hold off, but tonite was a completely different story.  I work really well with her, and I usually do with him, but it depends on his mood.  Sometimes you cannot reason with him.  She gets upset with me also at times, but you are going to get that with any boss.  I can talk to her most of the time.  Tonite they both got on me some.  I suffer from ADHD and anxiety.  They are both aware of that fact.  Maybe I am just too naive doing this job.  I try to see the good in people, but they keep telling me that people lie, and not to trust anyone.  I see their point but sometimes I feel people are being honest with me  I just get so mixed up inside at times.  I plan on staying at this job until they sell the place, but at times I feel they would be better off with someone else.  Sometimes I don't know what to do or think.  I try to avoid things that will upset me.
Thanks for listening.

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   Posted 3/13/2008 6:39 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Chelsi

It sounds to me like they are frustrated with the whole business and unfortunately you are an easy target.

As with any job,if you feel like there are things that need to be corrected then I would talk to them about it. If you feel more comfortable then send them an could simply start out by asking them if there is anything you should be doing different...and then throw in there that you got the feeling that they were not happy with the way things were being run.

If they are happy with you,and are just taking their frustrations out on you,then hopefully that email will make them realize what they have done.

Sometimes people don't realize that they are doing is frustrating and I have a hard time with it myself..if my current boss is in a bad mood (which is often) she will start nit picking which drives me crazy...

Good luck and let us know how it is going.

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   Posted 3/13/2008 9:41 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with 'Shy, this could have just been a bad day for them. So let it go in one ear and out the other when you are around them. I think that the email is a good idea.

I know that it is hard when your boss does that to you. I had a moody boss before, and on the bad days it was horrible. I ended up looking for another job. That could be something you could do in the meantime if this gets too stressful.

Good luck and keep posting.

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   Posted 3/13/2008 12:50 PM (GMT -6)   

I agree as well. It sounds like 'a bad day at the office' syndrome in which case I would let it go over your head. Thats not to say that taking it out on you is right (Whether you are an easy target or not) but I would not worry about it. Try talking to them when they are in a more receptive mood.


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