Post Edited (njguy) : 3/23/2008 8:19:37 PM (GMT-6)
Although we do have a lot of under 20's here, there are still a lot of people who are 40+ as well. Perhaps people who are 40+ dont advertise their age as readily! lol
Please dont think that your problem is any less serious than anyone else here. We look at each problem individually... we dont measure them against each other and decide that one deserves less or more attention. The only thing we do is respond to some posts quicker than others, but everyone gets a response.
Im glad that your wife has had a good couple of days. Has your wife been queried for Bi-Polar Disorder? There is a genetic component to Bi-Polar Disorder so its a possibility.
All the best
P.S Can I ask how you hav ended up with 2 screen names? lol Did something happen to the first one?
Hi Karen, Darren and all others who are so nice and caring ...
>>P.S Can I ask how you hav ended up with 2 screen names? lol Did something happen to the first one?
Well, to be honest, after i read my initial post, as part of an existing different thread, i thought i had wayyyyyyyy too much personal info on it ... and one of the mods suggested i start a separate topic ... so i thought it might be best to also create a more generic screen name ... my wife does frequent some chatboards (i don't think this one, but ...)
and the last thing i'd want is for her to find me discussing all this out in the open, essentially ....
but being tired, anxious, nervious, etc ... i started this thread with my old sign in ... but next time, i did remember to use the new one! ;-)
i can be such a twit ...
anyway, my father-in-law was bipolar ... i believe my wife was tested years ago, and she wasn't found to be ...
again, sorry for being so rambling, but i guess my real question is ... once she has been on medication, does it necessarily mean she should be on it forever?
and again, just because we've had torrential rain for days, it doesn't mean that the next shower we have after it clears will last forever ...
again, thanks folks for your concern ...
I am glad to see you are back and that you are truly concerned about your wife. Depression is one of the hardest disorders for people to understand as it shows up in so many ways. I know you want to help fix your wife but she has a Mental Health Disorder and the best you can do is be there for her and don't push her into talking when she herself has no idea why she is the way she is.
Get her to professional and let the therapist work through her problems with her. Has she ever seen a Pdoc and recieved an official dx? If she is not able to have a trusting relationship with the first therapist or Pdoc, find a new one. Don't give up on her. That would be my biggest fear is my husband giving up on me.
I am so sorry you are going through this...coming here and talking about this as well as sharing it with others is the best thing to do. But please remember to keep your wife's confidentiality . So my best advice is talk to a doctor or even a therapist about your own issues and how to handle living with a person who has depression.
You sound like a man with a good heart. Take care
I know it is very difficult to get some people into therapy but there are other therapies that don't go into your past but help you handle the here and now. Any chance you could get some info on therapists in your area and what kind of therapy they do?
I am sorry for your problems but please stay in the moment and keep your faith in the healing process.
Take care of you and help your wife if she will let you.