I understand how facebook works since I use it myself and I dont think that it is that higher risk, although I do have to admit that there are always risks when sharing information over the internet. In my opinion, if the guy is going to be in your class next year, I dont see the harm in talking to him since he is going to see you in the autumn anyway. I guess your parents are just really worried about you and want you to do well, but I dont see that their reaction was justified in anyway. As far as I know, you are old enough to make your own decisions so there should be a certain level of trust. I dont believe that parents have any right to snoop around their childrens interent accounts once they get to a certain age. Do you make sure you log out of these various websites? Have you thought about changing the passwords?
Remeber we are always here
Thank you to both of you for responding. My mom does not know my passwords. Neither does my dad. I had my AIM open when I went to the gym, and my mom saw someone messaged me (she saw the window come up). I slept at my grandma's last night because I was very disappointed in my parents. I came home today and my parents seemed nicer.
A few days ago I e-mailed my ex-friend from school and told her I knew she told the program director I was depressed. I told her that if she really cared about my life and well being she would have confronted me about it and not have told me to leave her alone all of winter break. I told her I didn't understand what her motive was..if it was to help me or kick me out of the program but that it didn't work and I'm coming back to school in july. I also emailed her boyfriend (whom I also used to be friends with) and told him I saw him that I saw his pictures on facebook and I think him and his gf (my ex-friend) look really cute together and that I hope his gf talks to me again. He didn't respond. My ex-friend e-mailed me about an hr later and told me to "leave her and her friends alone or else she'll put a restraining order on me so I can't come back to school and that she told the program director in Dec. I was depressed because she cared about me but now she doesnt want me in her life and that won't change." I immediately started crying and responded saying that I will leave her and her friends alone (eventhough I emailed her and her bf once since I left FL 4 months ago) and that I know she didn't care about me, if she did she wouldnt have threatned me and done what she did. The other friend she's talking about is the other Jewish girl who used to be my friend but now is siding with her and I emailed her a few days ago as well asking her why she stopped talking to me but she never responded. I never did anything to these girls. We used to be so close. One day in December she told me to leave her alone because she didnt want to be around sad people all the time and was sick of me complaining about school. She used to consider me her best friend in FL and we were very close. I'm really sad. I feel like there's something wrong with me and that's why they're not talking to me. :-( I'm scared to go back to grad school because I know I'll see her, her bf, the other Jewish girl, and the other guy who used to be my friend (but used me for car rides to the grocery store) in the hallway and cafeteria. I have some friends there, and I know I'll make new ones with the first yr class since that will be my class but I'm scared to run into these 4 old friends. :-( I don't know why they don't want to be my friend anymore :-( I never had this problem with friends before. I'm still close with my friends from high school and undergrad. I don't understand why now in grad school? After I read my ex-friend's email/threat I burst out crying and drove around the neighborhood. I parked my car in a parking lot and cried again. I felt like just giving everything up :-( Just giving up grad school because I'm scared of failure and losing more friends and running into those 4.
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 4/2/2008 8:43:34 PM (GMT-6)
You said one really important fact in your post that I think you should focus on. You said that you will make new friends when you go back to school and I believe that you will. You will have a whole new life when you go back. So I don't think that not having these girls in your life will matter that much. They hopefully will be so busy studying that they wont bother you.
Confused you are changing. You have changed a lot since you first started posting. So prove them wrong just llike you can prove your parents wrong. Go back and do the best that you can. You can't let these people get in the way of your dreams. Just keep trying your best and you will not fail.
I believe in you.
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 4/3/2008 6:29:40 PM (GMT-6)
Just think, you have summer to make any decisions about school. Find yourself a job and go from there. You have options. You are very fortunate that you can choose what it is that you want to do. Follow your heart and you will know what that is when the time comes.
Life is going to go on no matter what you decide to do. I really think that getting a job is a good idea. I think that it would be good for you also. Then you will get a better sense of what you want to do with school. Sometimes you have to take things one day at a time.
You will be making new friends when you go back to school. If those girls couldn't handle your moods then maybe they weren't such good friends afterall. They said that you are never going to change. I know that you have changed and that you will continue to. So when you get back to school, focus on learning. It is so important to put that first. When you have time to socialize, you will have made new friends. So this will all work out for you. All you have to do is try. Look what you have been through and then look at all the oppertunity that you still have. Now is the time to go for it, but one day at a time. Or it will get too stressful.
I know that you can face all of this. Put a little faith in yourself to do the right things. You can do this.
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 4/8/2008 6:23:37 PM (GMT-6)
Thank you for editing your post some more. I am glad that you understand.
It sounds like you are going to be able to make some wise choices and I am really happy for that. You are too special to be doing otherwise.
I am happy that your friend respects your wishes. Maybe you will end up having a relationship with him. If that is what you want. I hope that it all works out for the best. At least you will have a friend when you go back to school. Somebody that you know. It will be good for both of you.
I hope that you have a wonderful day. Take care and keep posting.
Thank you for your support. I saw my psychiatrist yesterday and she told me that really how I was feeling is just depression and part of my personality. She does not think I have anything else. I am very careful with that dental student. I don't talk about sex with him anymore. School is the number one priority for me, and if him and I end up liking each other alot and start dating, we will take things slow. He told me school is the number one priority for him too and I believe it.
Last night, my sister came home for the weekend from college. As soon as she came home my parents offered her soo much food. My parents and I had fish and vegetables for dinner. But when my sis came home they offered her fish, vegetables, left over macaroni and chicken. I asked my mom if I could have some macaroni too and she said no. (my sister is about 20 lbs lighter than me). After she said no I almost started crying. I then said well you guys didn't offer me any other food at dinner. Then my dad started shaking his head at me. I then started crying and just went to my room. My parents thought I was making a big deal out of nothing and that I was jealous of my sister. I explained to them I'm not jealous of her, I just don't like how they treat me compared to her. They said that they treat us the same and the only reason they offered her the leftovers was that she didn't have any last night since she wasn't here. I did not believe that story. 2 summers ago when we went to Greece, they told my sister she could have ice cream and they said I shouldn't. I just started crying. Am I overreacting? They say that I am. My dad told me last night you're not coming to Greece next month for your cousin's wedding if you are going to act like this. And I said...act like what? Defending myself? And he said I was too emotional and always cause drama. I started crying more and just slept. Do you think I was right to argue about how they were treating me? Do you think I overreacted?