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Ransom
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   Posted 4/3/2008 2:41 PM (GMT -7)   
I am 22 and I've suffered from depression for many years as well as an overactive imagination. The two seem to tie together.

Most of my life I have felt very alone. To compensate, I have always pretended there are people around me. Most of the time they are people I don't know. I find myself doing this at home, at work, at school, in the car, etc. I even do this when I'm out with a friend sitting in a theater. It's not so much boredom as it is loneliness, I think.

During times when my depression is really strong, I pretend people I don't know are around me and want to help me and care about me. People that have gone through the same problems. These fantasies last about 5 minutes each, but I end up repeating them.

For example, I found myself very upset at work yesterday. I imagined that two people came into my office, saw that I was upset and began talking to me, asking me questions, etc. I even imagined a conversation between the two that I wasn't supposed to hear. Now, this was only a few minutes before I got off work so it didn't last very long. However, instead of continuing this, I started something new as I walked to my car. It was the same two people, but I was just meeting them...again. They were by my truck and rode home with me.

Now, that was a very brief example and it sounds insane to me, I can only imagine (again =P) what you might be thinking.

Basically, I find myself pretending throughout the day that people I don't know care about me. It has really started to bother me, so when I catch myself doing it I try to stop, though that never works for very long.

I guess what I'm wondering is if anyone else has this problem or if anyone has a suggestion as to why my imagination might be this strong. I do have other creative outlets. I draw, paint, play two instruments, I'm a photographer and I've been writing screenplays and poems. I just don't know how to control these "imaginary friends" of mine.

Please help if you can.

ShynSassy
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   Posted 4/3/2008 2:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Ransom

First of all I want to welcome you to the forum,so glad that you found us.

My opinion is this: you have found a way to escape,you are not hurting yourself and people don't catch you talking to yourself,so I would think that as long as you realize this is just a form of escape,and not real then you are ok..

Now,are you being treated for your depression?
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Ransom
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   Posted 4/3/2008 2:56 PM (GMT -7)   
I'm not being treated right now, though I have thought about returning to therapy. I am very much against psychiatric medications due to personal expriences and things that I have witnessed in other people. My depression was at it's worst when I was in high school and eventually lead to me dropping out and using various narcotics to escape. I reached a bottom and joined Narcotics Annon. After that, things slowly got much better. However, in the past year I have found myself becoming more and more depressed. These lapses, on average have lasted no more than a few days, but are getting more severe and closer together each time.

ShynSassy
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   Posted 4/3/2008 3:10 PM (GMT -7)   
I understand your decision,but therapy I think would really benefit you at this time in your life.

Also,they do have alot of natural supplements like St Johns Wort ect,I myself have not tried them,but just from this board it sounds like it does work.


Just something to think about....
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Post Edited (ShynSassy) : 4/4/2008 5:13:10 AM (GMT-6)


djdaz_1985
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   Posted 4/4/2008 2:39 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ransom,
 
I agree with Shy. If you are not hurting anyone and you recognise that this is a form of escape, I dont see it as a huge problem. As for meds... there are a lot of natural meds but please make sure you ask a pharmacist before taking them (Especially St Johns Wort) since there are a lot of interactions with everyday stuff. Returning to therapy would be a good idea, I think.
 
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   Posted 4/4/2008 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
I agree with Shy and Darren,

As long as you know that these people are in your imagination I guess it is okay. Though if you feel it getting more and more real, then you need to talk to somebody about it. And I agree that you should go through some sort of counseling. You are carrying a heavy load right now.

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bookworm21
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   Posted 4/9/2008 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   

OMG, I do the same thing Ransom! I've always been like this, for as long as I can remember. Sometimes I completely make up people or I imagine myself with others in my life or from TV or something in an unreal situation. I'm so glad I'm not alone.

I know it's not harming anyone, but it's so annoying b/c I know it's not normal and I could be doing so many productive things with that time.

(p.s. I was Dx w/ depression a year ago at age 18 although it probably started in junior high)


 


threegirlpeaches
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   Posted 10/3/2008 5:51 AM (GMT -7)   
confused  Hi...I'm new here...I stumbled across this post in an effort to find out what's wrong with me....if I'm crazy or not. I'm thankful to be finding little snippets of info that says that I am not alone with an overactive imagination. I feel like a freak, but I'm beginning to think I might not be.
 
I went through a number of things as a child. Sexual abuse at the hands of my grandfather....I was only five and not his only victim. Emotional neglect from my parents...especially my mother. I suffer from trichotillomania....pulling out of your hair. Have dealt with that since about age 8. Now I have shaved my head repeatedly over the last four years in an attempt to stop...which has not stopped...and wear wigs now. My grandmother's death when I was 14 spiraled me into a 3 and a half year depression. I have been mildly depressed since. I am 29 now. I have been married to a man for almost ten years who has abused me emotionally, physically, and mentally. Not to say that I haven't done the same right back.
 
I feel like I have been out of touch with reality since a child. I know kids are supposed to have active imaginations but mine took the cake. I would pretend like my parents died or abandoned me and I would be adopted and taken in by the perfect caring parents. Sometimes I would actually even act out some sexual fantasies redface   as a pre teen and younger. These "plays" would be acted out with all the granduer of a stage play...props and everything. I distinctly remember somehow wrapping myself in a blanket like a baby one time as a child....probably around 8....and pretending I was the baby of someone at my church. None of this has stopped and it occupies at least one half of every day for me. I do it at home...at work....in the car....the only place that I don't do it is at church.
 
I am very careful not to let people seeing me do it, but I can't stop. I "pretend" everything....from my husband dying and someone taking care of me and my three daughters...who are real by the way and do not have as active an imagination as me....to finding my high school sweetheart and marrying him....I'll act out the courtship, the wedding, the everything....the love, the talking, the hugging, kissing...everything. Unfortunately, sexual fantasies come into play too....never with anyone else....just me....no-one ever sees it but me. My children are not being abused....these "plays" never put anyone in danger. They just soothe my mind. The bottom line of all of them come down to being loved and cared for by someone.
 
I've been trying to find out what's going on and I want it to stop.....therefore the effort to find out what's wrong with me and to squash it. Thanks for listening and if anyone knows any resources to help me, I would appreciate being let know of them. Like I said, I'm not hurting anyone besides maybe myself...not physically but emotionally and mentally....but I want to live a normal life where I can find alternative means of soothing myself.

Post Edited (threegirlpeaches) : 10/3/2008 6:58:30 AM (GMT-6)


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   Posted 10/3/2008 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Threegirlpeaches,

First of all, welcome to HealingWell and to the depression forum. I think that you will find a lot of caring and support here.

Are you seeing a counselor or anybody to discuss this? I think that it would be so encouraging if you were to find a counselor to discuss this with. They would be supportive and help you through this with the objectiveness that you need.

And of course you have us. We are here for you too. I am sorry that you would fantasize that your husband would die. You must be very unhappy in your marraige which does not make you a bad person, this is just the way that you feel. You said that he was abusive and anybody would want out of that situation.

Try to keep your children's best interest at heart. You may have to leave your husband to be happy, but not just in fantasy, but in real life. Anyway, if you go to counseling, they would help you through this. You deserve to be happy, not to just dream about it.

Best wishes to you, try to get some help. And keep posting, we are here for you.

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   Posted 10/3/2008 10:39 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello threegirlpeaches

Welcome to HealingWell.  Wow, you have a lot going on.

First of all no one should ever have to be abused either verbally or physically.  I fear your esteem is so low and your trauma from your childhood on so big that you need to be in therapy.

You have many intense issues.  I agree, you should think seriously about leaving your abusive husband and get your girls away from him.  He may abuse them and what he is doing to you is certainly making and impact on your girls.  Children are much wiser then we think and they pick up on little things quickly.

There are safe houses for women of abuse.  I am going to post some numbers for you to call.

Child Abuse Hotline | Support & Information 800-792-5200

Crisis Help Line | For Any Kind of Crisis 800-233-4357

Sexual Assault Hotline | Up 24/7 - In English & Spanish 800-223-5001

NDMDA Depression Hotline | Support Group. 800-826-3632


National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE

Also, you do need to see a physician so please do follow through. We are here to support you but we are not professionals.

Kitt


 

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threegirlpeaches
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   Posted 10/3/2008 8:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the support and the tender caring hearts. My husband and I will be filing for divorce in February. He and I are just as bad to each other. Sometimes I'm worse...sometimes he is. I can't lay the blame all on him. He's a fantastic father and when we are getting along....he is a best friend. We both agreed sometime ago that it would be best for the children and us that we not be together. Unfortunately fianances have made it impossible for us to separate yet. The children are not abused. They seem so happy go lucky most of the time and that's what gets me through....my girls and our church. The girls and I have a very strong faith in God but sometimes I need some extra help.

As I said in my previous post, this imagination stuff is not hurting anyone but myself and the only way it's doing that is that it's exhausting and I just worry that I'm not sane for being this way. It's therapudic to know that I am not the only one going through this and not the only one looking for answers. I am not alone and that helps. It gives me hope....
threegirlpeaches


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   Posted 10/3/2008 9:06 PM (GMT -7)   

threegirlpeaches

I am so glad you explained a bit more as I truly was concerned about you. I am glad you and your husband have a plan and please don't feel that you are losing your sanity.

You are under a lot of stress and stress can cause all kinds of sx.

You are so right, never give up on Hope and believe in yoursel as you are truly a worthy person.

Keep posting and vent away.

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bookworm21
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   Posted 10/15/2008 8:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Can anti-depressants help with overactive imagination? It's been getting out of control; instead of getting things done, I'm off daydreaming and in la-la land. It's driving me nuts.

threegirlpeaches
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   Posted 10/15/2008 8:42 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone...just wanted to check in. Things have been going a little better in the last week or so. I have had alot of time on my mind so I haven't had as much time to overimagine. I have actually gotten back in touch with my high school sweetheart(in real life lol) and we are talking again every single day for a week now and planning to meet up with each other soon. That takes my mind off of my imagination for a good part of it. Just keep thinking of me and praying for me(for those of you who do pray). I'll keep ya'll posted. :)
threegirlpeaches


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   Posted 10/16/2008 10:01 AM (GMT -7)   

threegirlpeaches

It is so good to hear from you and to know you are connecting with an old friend.  I am so proud of you.  Keep posting updates to us as we love to hear the good stuff.

Hugs

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stkitt
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   Posted 10/16/2008 10:16 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello ComedyDork 

I believe there are some specific AD's that target anxiety as well as depression.  You over active imagiantion is similiar to Anticipatory Anxiety.  Try not to watch news or serach internet alot on your issues as you are sure to hear or read something that will feed fuel to the fire of your over active imaginaiton.

Have you tried any therapies yet.

I am here for you so keep posting and know we care.

Kitt


 

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bookworm21
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   Posted 10/16/2008 10:26 AM (GMT -7)   
When I was in thearpy for my depression last year, I think my therapist used cognitive-behavioral. But I don't have money for therapy right now. All of the overactive imagniation is positive, but it's unrealistic and getting in the way of reality; and when I hit reality, I become very sad and the littlest things make me cry. I hate it.
Does Prozac target anxiety and depression? I have some leftover from earlier this year but I'm afraid my parents aren't going to let me take them. (And I kind of don't want to take them due to the fact that I'm already taking so many meds b/c of UC)

takehope
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   Posted 8/6/2016 4:59 PM (GMT -7)   
Imagination can be a great distraction from depression and obsessive dwelling on specific issues but it can take over. I made up a story that I would focus on to distract myself from major problems during a tough phase but the escapism was addictive. The story did not actually involve me - that was helpful.
Ultimately, I could only shake off the story by killing off the two main characters in my mind's eye and although that was sad, it worked.
My advice is:
rework your escapist story into a story about other people - not you; that will distance you somewhat from the action
then create a plot line that terminates the story. Perhaps the people who have been kind die but give you very kind parting words of advice
finally, you need a project that will help to distract you from your addictive story. If you leave out this last bit, none of this will work. The project can be reading, walking, setting out to learn something, helping out someone else with a problem, cleaning, gardening, knitting, colouring in, artwork - anything.
When story sneaks back say to yourself - what a shame those people died. But I can hold onto their words of wisdom.
Good luck.

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   Posted 8/6/2016 5:26 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Takehope,

That was some interesting advice and it is appreciated. This thread is eight years old though so I don't know if you are going to get any responses.

Feel free to post on another thread that is recent, or even start a thread of your own. That way everybody can get to know you.

Welcome to the forum. I am glad you found something that works for you.

Hugs, Karen...
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