My friend nees help but I don't know how

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lzbrooker
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   Posted 4/7/2008 10:44 PM (GMT -7)   
sad My friend has been diagnosed with depression and she is feeling like her life is falling apart.
She can't afford meds and her husband is not understanding about this. He has supported her for the
last 30 years and she hasn't had to work. They are not rich because his rate of pay is not high. He always wanted her to get a job but she didn't and now she realizes that she needs to but is not qualified for many jobs. She is very proud and says her current health situation makes it hard for her to concentrate. She is a perfectionist and is beating her self up endlessly about her situation. She has lost a lot of weight, kids all at college so she's home alone all day and now her husband works late. I hate seeing her like this and don't know what to do to help her. I've been praying for her and help her clean her house a little because she says she just sleeps all day of watches TV. She always asks me for some money too which I don't think is going to help if I give it to her. I am not rich but have been working for the past 10 years. Her own parents live far away and could die but she said she has no money to visit them. I don't know what to do for her and am pretty worried about her.
Any ideas or suggestions?

djdaz_1985
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   Posted 4/8/2008 2:37 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi there and welcome to HealingWell,

I agree that your friend needs help. The main thing that you can do for her is to be there when she needs you and understand that there will be times when she wants to be by herself. Try and encourage her to talk but dont force her. The things you do round the house are a great idea and im sure she appreciates it. I agree that if you keep giving her money then it doesnt help her in the long run but I know what its like to se a friend in need and I dont think I would be able to say no. Has your friend applied to the state for financial aid? One of our other moderators ShynSassy knows a lot about this. I am in the UK and hence I dont know much about US law and benifits.

Please keep us updated as to how you and your friend are getting on.
 
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ShynSassy
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   Posted 4/8/2008 5:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi LzBrooker,

First of all welcome to the forum,we are very glad that you found us.

I agree with Darren,being there for her is one of the best things that you can do. It is hard to help someone with depression.

It does sound like she needs to get herself to the doctor, maybe you can suggest she researches the local hospitals there to see if they have any financial programs. Here,if the hospital is owned by the County,they have programs that help people with the services including the meds.

But,short of forcing her in the car and taking her,there is not alot you can do but just what you have been doing.

She is lucky to have you as a friend!
Shy


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Chronic Depression, Panic Attacks,Anxiety Attacks,Anorexia

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ShynSassy
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   Posted 4/14/2008 5:12 AM (GMT -7)   
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Please remember,I am not a professional..I am just a person who is also fighting depression.

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