I take effexor too. I take 375 mg a day. I took it for a long time and finally was increased to the highest limit. I took wellbutrin for a while too. I had a few side effects that I didn't like. It started making me nervous and everything tasted wierd. I didn't like the smell of them, they smelled like sulfer. But not everybody has the side effects that I had. So maybe that would be better for you. That is if you like it better than the effexor, actually I even took the two of them together. But I stopped the wellbutrin. Doctor put me on adderall. I like that much better. It helps with weight and gives you energy. I am taking another good med for depression called abilify. It is actually for bipolar, but it works as a mood stablizer for me. Also helps with obsessive compulsive thinking. I had went up on the dose and I couldn't sleep so I am back down to 5mg I believe.
Are you thinking about going to counseling? It has really helped me a lot. I see a psycologist, but have been to social workers and other type of counselors. I also see a psychiatrist who does the medication part. It works out well.
I hope that you feel better soon. I know that it is no fun being depressed. I am a lot of the time, but just take things one day at a time and you will do fine.
Hello there, I am Kitt and I swear it is a woman thing.........I have had best friends for years and all of a sudden they turn on me. I have never figured out what happened. It is so hurtful to believe in someone but please understand it is not you. It is your friend that owns the problem for whatever reason she has changed her ways.
You have so much going on that I would like to see you take care of yourself first. Tell yourself what a wonderful person you are, no one else can define who you are. Only you can do that. Love yourself and keep on going taking small steps at a time.
There may come a time down the road when this friend will sit down and talk her issues out with you. I wsh you peace and happiness.
Take care of you
Good Morning Sheryl,
My doctor gives me samples sometimes, would yours? They get plenty of them and I wonder if they would give you some.
I have thought about trying the topomax. I guess for weight loss. My psychiatrist was telling me about that.
I gained a lot of weight when I got fibromyalgia. I think it was from not being able to move around like I use to. And my blood pressure went up. (though I don't think that it did with wellbutrin). But the nurse said pain will cause the blood pressure to rise. And you know how the pain is with the fibro. I think that I read some of your posts on fibromyalgia forum. Am I right?
Are you sure that your income is too high for help? With the two children, that helps. But I am sure that you have already tried, so that is kind of a stupid question. Sometimes it is hard to get help. If you have a community mental health program, sometimes they can work with you for therapy. I sure hope that you can get it. You have to think of yourself. With counseling, you can improve so much on other things, maybe that would help you find a part time job. Or atleast make things easier for you in the long run. I wish you the best with this.
I hope that you have a wonderful day, just take it one day at a time, things do work out. That light will start shining brighter for you and the tunnel will get shorter.
Keep us posted,
Maybe you can find a part time job during the hours that your husband is home during the day, then there will be somebody there all of the time.
I know that getting a job is much easier said than done. I wish that I could work, but with the fibro and the depression together makes it impossible. Plus with the wages around here, it wouldn't pay to work. I am farther ahead staying home. But I really do wish that I could contribute more than I do.
I did make breakfast this morning, so that was good. I do so little around here. My husband does most of the cooking. I cook very seldom. I am lucky if I can get any housework done. I applied for disability, but I was seeing a physicians assistant instead of a doctor and they totally disregarded her records and things that she filled out on me. I thought that was crazy. But that is how the system works. I couldn't believe it.
I will say a prayer for you and your family, I will pray that they can understand you better, have you ever had them read anything on the forum to help them understand? Especailly with the fibromyalgia? I hope that they can come to terms with what is going on in your life. You never know though, your son might suprise you. Have a talk with him and let him know the responsibilities that he will have if and when you do go to work. A serious talk, what is expected of him... Also your husband, he will have to help more around the house if you work. He might decide that it is better off if you stay home. You never know.
I wish you the best of luck with this. I hope it all works out good for you. Take care, keep posting.
Have you applied for disability? I think that you should get it. You definately sound disabled, I don't see how you could work.
Your husband doesn't sound very compassionate about your health. That is sad to me. He shouldn't be pushing you to work. I don't think you can honestly, but I guess that you might feel like you should try. So that is up to you. I don't think it fair of him to constantly be pushing you though. If you take care of the home, I think that is all that you should have to do. And that is if you can do it. I can't do much around here and my husband never complains. He waits on me hand and foot when I have a flare up. But I guess that not everybody is the same. Does your son help around the house? I think that he should have some responsibilities also. He should be helping you.
I get a little angry when I feel somebody is being mistreated in any way. So I guess that is the part of me that is coming out right now.
I hope that you can find a job that you are comfortable with. Try to not stress over it, that just causes more pain and depression. Take care of yourself. You have to do that before you can take care of anybody else.
I really hope that you can be able to give them some chores to help you around the house. Especially if you get the job. I wish you luck on that and I will be praying for you.
Even if they can pick up after themselves. But you could give them each one thing to do to start out. It is better that they learn it now so when they get older they will know what is expected. No one gets a magic wand to do it. So like I say it is better that they learn now that when they grow up, they will know.
I hope that you have a good day and are feeling good. It snowed here last night. The ground is white again. But by Monday it is suppose to be back up in the 50's again.
Take care, keep posting.
Do you think what i wrote back was inapproriate? All I asked wa sfor her to tell me in person/phone. We were really very close freinds.