i have often thought that maybe he does need some individual couseling of his own also, but he says that he dosent. He says that he was depressed at times but that he isn't anymore now that we are seperated. he says that he is just angry with me alot of the time. i know that i am thinking of him alot of the time but that is the way i am. i am also thinking of myself by doing the seperation thing. i am trying to find myself again. to make myself better and get my confidence and independence back. i seem to have lost everything in the last 2 years of depending on him for everything.
now he didn't seem to interact with his son very much before and now he has to interact with him every other weekend.
my biggest thing in the rambling mess was how else do i try to help him get a better understanding on what i am going trough with this depression that seems to go on forever.
I am headed toward committment with my wanderings. :) My husband does not understand the depression and there are times he is beside himself trying to figure out how to deal with my depression but he is still supportive and will even go to the physicians with me and speak up on my behalf.
I think you made the right choice by seperating for now. You must do this for you and your son thow, not for your fiancee as he needs to deal with his issues and first he must accept that he has issues and face them.
You sweetie need to work on you and how to move on with your life and your sons. Someday you and your fiancee may work things out but right now you are being very wise and brave and learning to advocate for you. I am very proud of you. I know it is heart breaking when people don't understand but we here all understand so stick with us.
I am sorry that your husband is being so stubborn with this issue. He could at least compromise in this situation. Is he actually going to be farther from work too?
I would assume that you are having second thoughts on getting married, due to his attitude. I can't say that I blame you, this could be just the beginning.
I hope that things work out good for you. I know that you are trying very hard. But it takes two to tango.
Keep trying to do what is best for you and your son. That is what is most important. Hopefully he will get some help with his moods.
Just remember that we are here for you.