Dear at a loss,
I am sorry your having problems but I am glad you found this wonderful site. You will find many warm and caring members here what your going through.
My biggest concern is you son's abusiveness toward you as this is never right. There are many signs of an abusive relationship. The most significant sign is fear of someone you are close to. Other signs include a person who belittles you or tries to control you, and feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation. Would you be willing to share a little more about your situation?
Also please seek help, see your PCP to discuss your feelings and see if you may be a candidate for mediction or therapy.
Again welcome to HW and the Depression forum.
Hello at a loss,
I am happy that you found us, you are not alone anymore. You will find some very kind and compassionate people here with a lot of information to share. You will be glad that you visited us.
I am sorry for what you are going through. Did you want to elaborate on the illness of your husband? Either way I can imagine that it is hard for you. And I am sorry that your son isn't helping the situation. Maybe you should sit down and have a talk with him and explain the difficulty of your situation. I hope that he comes around in his ways.
So welcome to Healing Well. Please keep posting, we are here to help as much as possible.
Are you going to any type of therapy to help you through this? It might be a good idea to get somebody to help you at this time. Talking is a good way to find some solid ground to stand on when everything is so shakey.
Take care, Keep posting,
Can your husband get on disability? Or is he already? I am sorry to hear that he is in such a state that he will be in a wheelchair.
As for your son. Maybe it is time for him to move out. You can't keep taking all of this abuse. I think that you should file a complaint on him with the police. You can't keep taking the abuse and you definately don't deserve it. This just isn't right and it makes me so angry to hear of such a thing.
You should be able to get some help from the department of social services. Does he get insurance to pay for his meds and doctor appts?
I hope that you have him on disability, because that would help you a lot. If not, that is something to persue.
Keep posting, at least here you can get it off of your chest and feel better. We are here for you.
You call the police the next time he touches you and you sign a warrant against him for assault. How old is he? You are in personal danger and if he is allowed to continue, the abuse will escalate. You need to take care of you. Also you can toss him out and get a PPO against him.
I know this sounds harsh but if your son hurts you, you will lose your ability to help your husband and make a home for you and your husband. Any friends, or family to call on to help you?
May I ask how your husband hurt his back, is this a workman's comp?
I am so sorry this has happened to you.HugsKitt
Oh At a loss,
You are so very welcome. That is what we are here for. To try to help eachother. So keep coming back and let us know how things are going for you. We really do care about you.
I hope that your situation works itself out soon. Can you try to get free help. It is there you have to ask for it. You need to go to your local mental health and ask for free counseling. Or ask your doctor about some help. There are resources out there. Look through the phone book, or on the internet. You will find help through this situation.
Best wishes for you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.