Post Edited (yana) : 4/25/2008 6:03:36 PM (GMT-6)
Don't do anything to hurt yourself, you haven't done anything wrong. Your boyfriend has a problem and you are just frustrated because he is being defensive.
I am going to give you some numbers to call just in case, okay?
708 366 9066
800 443 4673
Now if this gets to the point where you can't control your urges, call somebody or call one of these numbers. Do you have access to a crisis center where you can talk to somebody?
I want you to see this so I am going to submit it, but I want to talk to you further.
I want you to know that you are a very special person. I love the way you word things when you write, you are supportive of others, you are kind and compassionate. You have all of the qualities of a wonderful person. I think what is bothering you is like what use to bother me about my first husband. There was no communication...
I would always want to talk things out and he didn't. He would either get defensive or treat me like I was stupid. He was also very posessive and jealous of me. He was so bad that he made a line across our driveway so he could tell if anybody came in our yard. He would check the star 69 on the phone as soon as he came home from work to see if anybody called me. I got really frustrated and would hurt myself just to feel something. Also it got me a result and I was in control. So you don't need that. We will help you. But you have to take care of yourself, before you can know what to do about your bf. Are you in any counseling? It always helps to have an objective ear in these situations.
I want you to remember what you wrote about the forum and take your own advice. Come to us, we are here for you right now.
Luv and hugs, Karen
It sounds like the communication problem is starting to get out of hand. Have you thought about sitting down with him and telling him that you know? It sounds like something is going to have to give soon. Have you also thought about discussing the consequences it has on you?
Just checking in on you. Let us know how you are doing.
Please remember Yana,
We are always here for you. So don't hesitate to post when you feel the need. We will support you in any way that we can.
I am so sorry for what you are going through right now. If you want to elaborate, feel free. I will be around for a while. I might step out, but I will check back.