"Healing is an energy phenomenon. Hope is another word for Healing. "Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are""Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve""Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."
Hi confused, Perhaps some of these problems may be that you guys are having a break in communcation? You previously were in an abusive relationship, sometimes there are no words to describe what you may of went through. This would of changed the way you view and respond to men/relationships regardless if you got counseling afterwards or not.
By you saying that in your next relationship you "bullied" the guy this would be a huge tell-tell sign that before you had no control of your life/relationship then over compensated in the next. This is really pretty common with women who have been abused.
Now, I dont know?...are you feeling some lack of trust when he goes out with his friends? Or do you believe that he spends too much time with his friends? By what you have said it seems he is really into you and wants to help. However, it also sounds as if his time with his buddies is important to him and he wishes for you to be mentally/emotionally okay with it.
I understand it is difficult, I have come out of several abusive relationships myself. The most difficult thing is not falling back into that pattern of men and mentality. You deserve to have a normal relationship and be happy. You are worth it.
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Well, 'confusedli' you have been given some fantastic advice..think maybe you need to give counselling a little more time to be effective - it works for some and not for others...and it takes a lot of hard work and soul searching to get it all out...
Here's what I see from your post...you are afraid..afraid to let your guard down and 'love' someone and let yourself be 'loved'...all completely understandable considering what you have been through.
Time to start knocking down the brick wall you have built for yourself - little brick by little brick, and start living. Easier said than done I know :)
Remember that to love someone else - first you have to love yourself..relax and enjoy this relationship..when you feel yourself starting to be snappy for no particular reason - try questioning yourself as to why...could it just be things that have happened in the past - and if it is remind yourself that it's just history doing its thing - take a deep breath and move on :)