Flea sorry about everything that is going on. It's a good sign that he is going to a Psy. Dr. and T. and good for you too. Try to hang in there for awhile if you can. It can take some meds 4 - 6 weeks before they really start doing what they are supposed to do. Everyone is right when they say don't forget to take care of yourself one thing I have found for me is that I need what I call ME time. No SO, no kids, no friends, nobody but me. It gives me time to really relax and forget about everything, if only just for awhile.
Good Luck, Keep smiling
My husband quit and left his job on Monday and told me this Morning. THis is so so horrible! I too am on my wits ends...Now I am the breadwinner? I don't even know what to do with him....When we talked this morning he said that he wants to leave..like stay at a friends house or something for a while...I don't know. I thought yesterday would be a good start but bam! I get this news. Is this what depression is all about? Just lose so much hope that you won't care about your responsibilities? I have been supportive the last month or so but I don't know if being supportive is helping him. I think that seeing me just reminds him that I am a responsibility and he cannot take that.
Hey Flea. That really sucks. I feel for you. Guess he is more down and fed up and can't handle work. Don't give up on him. Research, find out everything you can about depression and how to handle it. Maybe he should join an online group too. (doesn't have to be here, since you are here and we are helping you..that's not fair for you...You need our help and advice to get you through this hard time.)
He has to keep up with therapy...It's a slow progress...Just love him and be there for him. Don't expect much, and know that he loves you...Just that right now the depression has taken over and is running his life. This isn't about you...Don't ever think that.
Hugs and Keep posting!
Flea, Sorry to hear about him quiting his job. Maybe you should try talking to his Psy Dr. and T., (I realize they can't give you any information) but maybe you could let them know how bad he really is in case there are other steps they can suggest. For me, it was the hospital, which I just got out of after 9 days. I was also told to go to out patient intensive daily therapy to also help me. There are alot of different options your husband just has to find the right one for him.
At first I really didn't want to, I had already made my plans to end everything because I could not cope anymore. In the hospital they were able to change my meds, all of them, and watch me to see how I was doing with each change. I also had to attend therapy sessions, group and individual on a daily basis. I am doing so much better but my Psy dr. wants me to attend more daily therapy sessions on an outpatient basis. I don't know if it was just being able to totally get away or if it is from the change in meds but I do feel so much better, I'm still down but every once in a while I catch myself in a good, long over due laugh. I do know that since my meds were changed some of them have not taken their full effect so I am still waiting for that as well.
Sorry you are going through so much right now :(
I agree with everything Red had to say! I think if you can get him to see a CBT therapist and he wants to feel better that would help get him back on his feet. He may need some antidepresant meds in the meantime too.
My Dear Friends,
My marriage has turned to the worse. My husband (who the psychiatrist diagnosed with bipolar) wants a divorce. We've only been married 6 months. He's 31 and I am 25. No kids for either of us. I feel numb, my eyes has been swollen from last nights crying...my husband does not want to take time till his meds works...he wants out of this responsibility and I am so lost.
Sorry to hear this :(
I agree with everything boo said and advised!