Hi there Staveandor..You sound like a really nice guy, emotional, caring and huggable are great qualities
Our first love is one never to be forgotten, and believe it or not she probably misses you too - but, she did the right thing moving on and setting you free. We cannot stay in relationships without the right feelings after all..that would be unkind and living a lie.
You have your whole life ahead of you - and yes there will be other ups and downs, but hey, that's what makes life interesting. Take a step back from yourself and see how much you have grown as a person over the last 2 and a half years...you've learned heaps about relationships - and in time you will heal and move on too.
(By the way - it's the times when we are not looking for someone in our lives that you can guarantee that someone special will come along )
I wish you well.
Thank you Shy, and with all you have going on. I am online now. I took a nap.
Stave, I just read all the posts and I am truly sorry for what you are going through. It is very painful to get over a breakup but I know from experience you will do it and you will be fine. I think the advice others have given you to keep busy is very good. Trying new things occupies your mind and you never know who you will meet. I do think it's best if you try to avoid the places that remind you of your ex. That sets you up for feeling sad. And at your young age I am sure you will find love again. There are many nice girls out there that I am sure would love to be with you. You sound like a very kind and gentle person. Just remember to take things slowly. It might not be the best time to rush into a new relationship but if you can, go out in groups where there are your friends and maybe some girls to join in. Get to know some girls in a friendship basis for a while. Grief is the price we pay for love. But having loved it will make you open to finding new love and giving it time your sadness will eventually go away. Please keep posting and know that all of us in this forum care about you. Let us know how you are doing.