I am not near as sweet as Karen, I would just kick this so called friend to the curb and move on. I belonged to a group of 4 of us and the one who always wanted to be in charge was snide and and down right nasty sometimes. I put up with her, because that was just she was. I had done everything with and for this woman for 20 years. The 4 of us went on trip to Arizona and the whole time we were there she was very controlling..................she decided when we would eat, where we would go and always a tension underthe surface. On the way back to the air port in Phoenix, she made the mistake of taiking a pot shot at my daughter..................Boom, it was all over. I did not need this toxic person in my life. If she had probroblems she owned them.
I did not confront her but I just quit talking to her . We all worked together. She is obviously very unhappy in her life and by putting others down she felt like a very important person. You can pick on me, but never on my kids.
I know the pain you feel, I gave the babyshower for this gal's first child etc, how could she go after the juggular. Well I did not care anymore, I was just done with plaing games.
You will have to decided how you want to react but remember you are a good and kind person and your friend has a big, stupid mouth.
Try to keep only positive friends in your life. Ones you can count on and even just one good friedn is better then 50 lousy friends.
Hugs at youKitt
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
Hi Grammargirl, Thanks so much for your post. You are right in what you have said and I am certainly distancing myself from this "friend." I understand about the other friends as they are part of the group but I will not mention it to anyone. Besides 2 of them live out of state so I rarely see them, only the occaisional correspondence. This friend I am sure will be dying to call me after her daughter gets married next week. I am not going to answer the calls. She loves to talk and we have been very, very close in the past. I know she will want to give me all the details of the wedding and show me pictures. I am going to ignore her as long as possible. I think I still need to keep her somewhat as a friend as we are all part of the same group and go out for birthdays, etc. One of the reasons I talk to this friend so much is because she calls and keeps me company so that helps me with my feelings of lonliness. Also, my son is getting married in a little over a year and I am going to have to include her or I could lose the others as friends. I am sure she will have plenty of criticism of his wedding which is going to be a very simple close family and friends wedding. Well, I have just rambled on as usual but it does make me feel better when I get all my feelings out. Take care and I hope we can post each other again.
I am so glad that HealingWell meets your needs and helps you get out your frustrations and feelings.
Also I respect your decision to keep this person in your life but remember my lovely lady, only you can control you feelings, she cannot. So do not let her comments into your head, let they flit through and right back out again.
The miracle of your existence calls for celebration every day. Eat cake and feel good. I will share a piece of cake with you.
Kitt, thanks for the piece of cake! It is the best I have had without putting on a pound. Thanks also for being there for me when I have needed support.