Depression and Booze

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1,000Tears
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   Posted 6/19/2008 8:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Does anyone here drink to smother their depression?  I had trouble for 4 years with addiction, im recovering now.  What a long hard road this illness is
 
 

ShynSassy
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   Posted 6/20/2008 3:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Tears

I was in the dark hole for awhile with that..but the problem is you still wake up the next morning with the depression and then you have to add a hangover to it.

Have you been to the doctor yet? You really need to get some help to beat the depression.

Living like this everyday is not going to make things better at all.
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   Posted 6/20/2008 5:17 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Tears,

I just wanted to welcome you to the depression forum. I agree with Shy and Hoping. Getting that alcohol buzz is only a temporary solution and actually being it is a depressant, it just makes things worse. I hope that you can find a better solution to your depression.

We are here for you, so write anytime. There are a lot of us who have been in the same boat as you, so we understand.

Good luck, keep posting.
hugs, Karen...
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stkitt
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   Posted 6/22/2008 5:08 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Tears,

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression and you have received wise advise.  I just wanted to welcome you to this great group of members.

Stick with us and let us help you.

Kitt


 

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rzg
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   Posted 8/19/2008 10:47 AM (GMT -7)   
I drank away my depression for a solid 17 years until a couple of weeks ago. Being able to finally talk to my wife about my depression and childhood trauma after 14 years of keeping silent I felt a weight lifted and no longer had the urge to drown myself in alcohol. I know I was never an alcoholic but it sure felt like it sometimes.

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   Posted 8/19/2008 4:06 PM (GMT -7)   

Great topic.  rzg, bless you and I wish you great success.  Please keep posting and start a thread just for you to talk about your challenges and let us help you.

Sincerely

Kitt


 

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   Posted 8/19/2008 5:49 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Tears,

             I hid my depression and childhood traumas for 20 years, for me alcohol was the only thing to kill the pain and bad memories, but i foundout the hard way that the drink eventually costs you everyrthing you love.

             I'ts a hard lesson to learn, but i am learning, i havent had a drink for just on 2 years now and with help i'm slowly getting through my problems. The forums here are an awsome way to start the process, even though the first step is always the hardest it does get alot easier step by step.

             I'm always here if you need any support or advice, along with everyone else here as well. Don't be scared to reach out..

 

    HUGS to ALL.. smilewinkgrin


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tilly20
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   Posted 8/21/2008 12:57 PM (GMT -7)   
i have a partner that is depressed and he has started drinking. not all the time but when he is at his worse he will go on it for days and takes his depression out on me. he then cries for two days feeling guilty for what he done and said that says he needs help but it never gets to that stage. he went once to councling and thought he was cured. its so frustrating cause i know he is a good person and its the illness talking when he says the bad things but how do you encourage him to actually follow treatment through

KC9AOP
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   Posted 8/21/2008 4:46 PM (GMT -7)   
I have had awful marital problems for years now. To just withstand the toxicity I turned to too much drinking. I never did become an addict but I did get into the dark hole. I can empathize with the numbing of the nerves, but in the end it made no contribution to fixing things.

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epvitale
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   Posted 8/22/2008 6:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I found myself drinking more (a relative term since I am not a heavy drinker usually 1 or 2 beers/wine a week) to deal with my wife's infidelity. I found it "the only way" to numb the anger, rage and feelings of stupidity and foolishness. I found that when I took action I started drinking less. Doing something strictly for your own health and well being can be extremely therapeutic. For me that action was kicking my wife out and starting therapy. Please look into seeing a doctor. A safe, non-judgmental environment is a haven to identifying, understanding and taking actions upon those feelings that are keeping yourself from living a happy, healthy and productive life.

Remember we are here for you. Good luck.

EP
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FeelingGood
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   Posted 8/28/2008 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   
I drank to smother my own depression for about 10 years -- until I got a DUI. The road is very hard at first but please keep in mind that is the conditioning of your past and society. Drinking relieves inhibitions and is a great social lubricant... when you quit, it is natural to feel a bit depersonalized. There is a process of getting to know one's self again.

To share my own experience, when I quit, I started going to sleep earlier and getting up earlier. The key was exercise -- as long as I could go running/biking, I was fine. It was lonely for a while and then I noticed something. There is an entire world of people that do not drink. I went to the same coffeeshops and cafes I used to however because I had shifted my entire life up 2-3 hours each day, there were new people. Healthy people. Who didn't drink.

Something else happened. As I struggled and fought and was lonely and sad, friends started reaching out to me. I didn't initially see the improvement in myself but they did. And it inspired several of them to drink less. Then I had more to do.

Long story short: keep at it. It's worth it. There are some lonely times. Times when you see people going out and may question yourself, 'I feel fine. I can go and have 1.' If you can, great. If not. Stay home. Go to bed. Take a bath. Sign up for a marathon. Do whatever you have to do to quit drinking compulsively. Maybe someday you can drink socially. Maybe not.

Through a lot of research and soul-searching, depression often comes from focusing too greatly on the self. Find a greater purpose and chase it. There is a saying in Yoga, do your practice and all things are coming.

Do your practice and all things are coming. You are not alone. It is a long road now but it gets shorter with each step. And remember, the world loves you and needs you.

getting by
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   Posted 8/28/2008 1:54 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Feelinggood,
 
Welcome to the HealingWell depression forum.  You will find that there are a lot of wonderful, kind and caring people here. 
 
Thank you for the post.  It is wonderful to see the good advice that you gave.  I know that stopping drinking is hard, I have wittnessed others do it and it is a whole change of life style.  But as you said, you end up changing the times of day that you do things and end up meeting others who don't drink.  It is a whole nother world out there now.  Thank you for your wonderful advice to Tears and the others.  I am sure that they appreciate it too.
 
Have a wonderful day,
 
Hugs, ...Karen
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rzg
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   Posted 8/28/2008 7:48 PM (GMT -7)   
FeelingGood said...
I drank to smother my own depression for about 10 years -- until I got a DUI. The road is very hard at first but please keep in mind that is the conditioning of your past and society. Drinking relieves inhibitions and is a great social lubricant... when you quit, it is natural to feel a bit depersonalized. There is a process of getting to know one's self again.

To share my own experience, when I quit, I started going to sleep earlier and getting up earlier. The key was exercise -- as long as I could go running/biking, I was fine. It was lonely for a while and then I noticed something. There is an entire world of people that do not drink. I went to the same coffeeshops and cafes I used to however because I had shifted my entire life up 2-3 hours each day, there were new people. Healthy people. Who didn't drink.

Something else happened. As I struggled and fought and was lonely and sad, friends started reaching out to me. I didn't initially see the improvement in myself but they did. And it inspired several of them to drink less. Then I had more to do.

Long story short: keep at it. It's worth it. There are some lonely times. Times when you see people going out and may question yourself, 'I feel fine. I can go and have 1.' If you can, great. If not. Stay home. Go to bed. Take a bath. Sign up for a marathon. Do whatever you have to do to quit drinking compulsively. Maybe someday you can drink socially. Maybe not.

Through a lot of research and soul-searching, depression often comes from focusing too greatly on the self. Find a greater purpose and chase it. There is a saying in Yoga, do your practice and all things are coming.

Do your practice and all things are coming. You are not alone. It is a long road now but it gets shorter with each step. And remember, the world loves you and needs you.



Thank you for sharing and posting these words. Very inspirational to me. It is stuff that I already know but to hear it said as well as you put it makes a difference.
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