If you are really good friends with your friend, then try having a subtle word with her. I'm sure she will understand. You wont be completely on your own that weekend... you are still going out on Thurs & Sat yeh? Think of Fri as a resting gap between outings and watch other peoples fireworks from your garden. (You do have fireworks on July 4th right?!)
I know what you mean about needing some new friends--I'm in the same boat.
Hmm, you said that the bookstore opens on the 4th (I'm assuming July). Maybe you could spend your day there and bring a book back home to read before the fireworks start? Or if you don't want to spend the entire day at the bookstore, you could rent one of your favorite movies and watch it. (When I'm feeling bad, I always pop in a dvd of my favorite movie or tv shows and that usually makes me feel better).
Thanks for your reply Comedy, it makes me feel better when people respond to my posts. I guess we are in the same boat about finding new friends. I think I am going to try new classes in the fall and see what there is to occupy me. I always manage to find things to do at various times but it is usually by myself. I am going to try to get out today just to get out of this house! My son is going to drive as my back is hurting very badly today so don't feel up to much - i'm looking for a new house plant and then I think we will rent some movies. Maybe a few hours out will help me with the lonliness. I feel I try so hard and never seem to succeed in the way I hoped to.
Hi Erik, you always have such wise answers. I will try to follow your advice. Sometimes I am my own worst enemy. And as my therapist tells me "don't invite trouble." I just have to keep these things in mind. Did go out with my son and I got a new zebra plant with yellow blooms for my porch. That made me happy. I also went to the video store and got 2 movies so my mind will be occupied tonight and tomorrow. I will try to take one day at a time and worry about the 4th of July on the 4th. Thanks for being such a helpful friend.
Aurora, any chance you might still run into the 89 year old man? I am kidding.
But then again he might have a son who's available. Kidding again-- I'm really with you. I'm older than you are and I wouldn't do it either. I'm at the age where a man my age is no longer appealing. (Except for one who left me brokenhearted)
about volunteering. I volunteer two different places. It helps during the week, but it doesn't help for the weekend. My friends are all married and no one is ever available on the weekend.
I've been trying to find a solution for about 7 years. Am deciding there is none but to get through the day minute by minute.
I'm ready to become a nun! A nun in a monastery might be more fun!
Hi Korissa, You may have something there about joining the nuns. As long as it is not an order that takes a vow of silence! The friends I have that I go out with are either divorced like me or are widowed. So when we can we get together. Forget married friends. You might get a lunch date and one of mine is good for an afternoon phone chat. I think the friends I have made on this forum are better than most of my other ones. At least we all understand each other and can help one another. Thanks for your post - lets keep in touch.
Hey there, no plans at our house for the 4th so I will be around all weekend if you want to email me please do.
Hey Tuesday is Chat Day and I will not be home............would you check on it and see how it is going. I will post a reminder.
Thank you, that would be a great help. Taking Granddaughter on overnight tomorrrow to a waterpark hotel. I can do it.............
Thank you my friend and know I am here for you
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Thank you Willow for your very sweet reply. I know you have problems too and it must be hard with your husband's situation. Thanks for asking me to email you. I will take you up on it. In the meantime take good care of yourself.
Many hugs, Aurora