Hi there and Welcome to HealingWell,
There is nothing pathetic about a story where things get on top of you. It happens to us all from time to time. I think you need to be selective about what you are worrying about. Your brother sounds like he should be old enough to worry about himself. Im not saying that you shouldnt care about him, but while things are bad for you at the moment, try and limit the number of things on your mind. Money is a common worry for people. Whether its money for medications, money for living on or redundancy / job loss. Is your husband actively looking for work? If so, he could be in a job in the next few weeks.
Thank you for the supportive comments. I will check that website out.
Hi Abb, I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now. Sometimes it's hard to see your way out but there may be things you can do. First of all, I agree with the others that it is best to take care of your own things right now. Your brother may have problems with his girlfriend but if he is old enough he will need to solve his issues himself. When I worry about things I shouldn't take on my therapist tells me not to "invite trouble." You mentioned church. And that you didn't like the couselors where you can get therapy. Do you have a minister or priest, clergy person who can give counsel to you? Years ago when I was getting divorced I didn't know where to turn. I was left with a 9 mo. old and 5 yr. old. I called my minister and he helped me through a very rough time and his counseling was free. So that may be an idea for you. Also, is there a dental place that can do your daughter's braces on a payment plan? I was very ill 3 yrs ago and am still paying medical bills but I called the hospital and drs offices and asked to be on a payment plan and that has worked out so I still have money for my other expenses. These are just suggestions and I don't know all your circumstances or what part of the country you are in but it might be worth a try to see if you can work something out. I wish you the best and hope you will keep posting so we know how you are getting along. Everyone on this forum is so helpful and caring.
I am a 51 year old woman who has been on paxl for 12 years, anti depressants for 18.
I can't speak for everyone else but each time i have weaned off of them, and i encounter multiple stressful situations,
i have a complete breakdown. I have one daughter living in L.A. who is so busy, and on Zoloft herself, she can't be of
much help. My husband is here when i need him, but otherwise clueless.
I just started back on my paxil (generic) about 5 days ago, after being off of them for 5 months. I absolutely
cannot function without them. I was suicidal 18 years ago, and within 2 weeks of being on a tri-cyclic called PAMELOR,
I was almost 50% myself again.
I am not PILL POPPER. I can only speak for myself.
I just know that the horrible depression im going thru right now is almost unbearable. I too, abb was thinking about checking into somwhere, where i could have people all around me, just taking care of me. I'm dreading tomorrow, when hubby has to go back to work and i'm all alone.
Where i live it's 114 outside right now, so that doesn't help at ALL. I'm a fresh air, outdoor person, and this heat and having to keep the house locked up and dark is killing me as well as my depression.
My back is killing me from sitting around all day, but i just can't get out it's too darn hot. I'd pass out, the way i'm feeling.
How are you feeling abb?