Thanks to both of you...so much!!
At this point it is such a struggle because he won't talk to me on the phone and has just shut us out witht he exception of his brother. The first couple of times they spoke on the phone he was very rude and short on the phone but at least this last time, he made the effort to call here and talk with his brother and was nice to him. He does have a job down with his dad and seems to be happy about that..
My middle son is so much more open and struggled with some depression in the past and we were able to get him help and back on track..he is pretty open emotionally and easy to talk to, and before his brother left, he told him how much he was going to miss him etc and my oldest just told him to stop being so whiney and emotional
I don't blame him for being the way he is, he has a lot of anger and I don't know how to help him..I know some teenagers just have more of a struggle than others..As far as his dad goes, I think he will watch out for him okay, but he has been a bachelor for a very long time and it is going to be an adjustment for him to have a teen with him, plus they have never been close. I have tried to explain to him that our son struggles socially and somewhat academically but he doesn't seem to understand what he is in for..There are no rules there and my son can do pretty much whatever he would like to do, which is part of the appeal.
I worry about how he will do in school, will he make friends, grades, classes, he will be a sophomore, and here he went to a non-traditional school and has since elementary school, down there they don't have such a school. His dad is going to let him get his license and I don't think he is emotionally ready..I think he is too impulsive and quick to anger. I have lost a lot of sleep lately!