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Aurora60
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   Posted 7/3/2008 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Well, here I am posting again about the 4th holiday and feeling very sad and lonely.  I have a few things to do this weekend but nothing on the 4rh.  I am trying hard to stay positive but I have been sick all week so don't know if I can get out tomorrow to do anything like go to the bookstore or just out for a walk.  I can at least see fireworks from my street so wll do that if I am up to it. I went to the Dr yesterday - have been having low pelvic pain which I shouldn't have at my age. I have to have an ultrasound next week so that will show if anything is wrong.  She doesn't think so and that eases my mind a little, still there is that nagging thought in the back of my mind. How are other coping with the 4th?  If you are alone or don't have plans I would like to know how you will overcome the lonliness. I have a good new book I have been wanting to read so maybe that will take my mind off of it.  I think I will try to get out of the house or I think I will just sink into despair.  There is something about getting out even for a few hours that lifts the sadness. Any thoughts would be very welcome.

stkitt
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   Posted 7/3/2008 8:07 AM (GMT -7)   

Dear Aurora

You have a thread on this topic or am I mistaken?

http://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=19&m=1167729

I know you are feeling lonely and I am too as I sit here alone right now and feel a bit sorry for myself but I know if I let it get the best of me I will be miserable all weekend.

I guess I watched to many Hallmark commercials as I thought that was how life would be but in reality it is not.

So I take it one day at a time and I try to stay in the moment, I know I am sensitive and I need to let go of things or I am the one hurting and the rest of the world keeps on turning.

I hope you feel better and can get out and walk and do the book store.  I would do the book store with you as I do love to read.

I hope you have a good weekend and that you will have some laughter in your days.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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getting by
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   Posted 7/3/2008 9:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Aurora,

I don't have any plans for the weekend. My step daughter was suppose to come up but the plans got changed and she isn't going to make it.

Thinking about picking strawberries this weekend, but other than that, nothing. Honestly it is just like any other day to me. I am not much for the holidays. I like my life quiet and simple. Though I know that at times that can be unhealthy.

I hope that you are able to do something to lift your spirits. Keep us posted.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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Aurora60
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   Posted 7/3/2008 9:45 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Kitt, I know I aready posted a thread on the 4th.  I guess I just needed to write to try to make myself feel better and to occupy my time.  I am going to have many other weekends alone so I am just going to have to get used to this and make the best of it and try to make plans ahead of time.  I do have so many things to look forward to in the fall so I am just keeping that in mind that things will improve. Maybe someone will be in chat this weekend and I can join in.  Thanks for your help.

Aurora


getting by
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   Posted 7/3/2008 3:25 PM (GMT -7)   
Brian,

I am honestly not following you around, but just had to chime in on this one.LOL...

One of my doctors once told me that just being with nature puts you in a meditative state. That seemed so ironic when you mentioned getting one with nature and meditating. And you are right, it does connect you with the rest of the world.

Maybe you couldn't meditate when your ex was there because it is such a personal connection. You might not have been able to focus. But one time when my hb and I were out in the woods hunting for morel mushrooms, I sat in this valley and did my meditation. He told me that 30 minutes had passed by while I sat there, when to me it felt like five. I spend as much time with nature as I can. It is actually everywhere, but I like being out in the woods or by a lake or river. I love the sound of the river.

Have a great day
Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 7/3/2008 4:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Aurora,

I will be around all weekend so maybe I can post and get some people into the chat rooms.    You too, just post your in the Depression chat room and give it a bit for someone to join in.  I will watch for your post.

You are welcome to use the site to post your thoughts anytime if it makes you feel better. :-)

Remember it is not just the 4th of July , it is Independence Day so revel in your  independence.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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Aurora60
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   Posted 7/3/2008 7:49 PM (GMT -7)   

Thanks Kitt, I will post or enter the chat room over the weekend.  Just returned from dinner with a friend and we had a very nice time.  The first day of a long weekend is always hardest for me and I have gotten thru this day and survived without too much lonliness. And it is later at night where I am so will watch TV and read some new magazines. I hope to get to the bookstore tomorrow but am not sure I will. The pain I am having is really bothering me.  I am beginning to think I have a UT infection but no burning when I go to the bathroom so I just don't know. I don't get the results of my urine test until Mon.  The Dr. gave me a prescription pain med but i'm afraid to take it.  It is one of those nsaid pain relievers but it came with all these warnings and that's enough to scare the daylights out of you. But if the pain is bad tomorrow I wil take it. Take care and i'll keep posting and going to the chat room to see who is there to talk to.

Many hugs, Aurora


stkitt
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   Posted 7/4/2008 6:32 AM (GMT -7)   

Aurora,

So glad you had a nice dinner.  Well it is the holiday and I am here on the puter..................no plans, have to do some chores, give the dog her bath and visit with all of you.

The day will go by fast and before we know it today will be tomorrow.

Hope you feel better. I use Pyridium for pain of burning with UTI.  You can buy it over the counter in the drug store. It is a urinary tract analgesic that helps relieve the pain, burning, urgency, frequency and irritation caused by an infection.  Pyridium will turn your urine orange......so if you choose to try it don't panic at the orange color. Again I am not a professional but this does work well for me.

It is an old med and used to be only available by RX.

Talk with you later.
Kitt


 

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Aurora60
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   Posted 7/4/2008 8:05 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Kitt, thanks for the info.  I have used pyridium in the past and do have some.  The problem is I have no urgency and no burning, just normal going.  What I have is low pelvic pain.  The Dr. did not feel anything when she examined me and doesn't know yet if it is a UT infection.  I'll get test results Mon. and have my ultrasound Mon.  In the meantime I still have this pain which is keeping me from doing things.  I am going to keep my plans for tomrrow though cause I will go nuts if I don't get out.  I am staying home all day today I decided so I can rest and maybe I will feel better.  Right now i'm taking Advil for pain.  I am afraid to use the prescription the Dr. gave me. Talk to you later. Will check the chat room.

Aurora


sheryl=jk
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   Posted 7/4/2008 11:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Well I hope you have a good Fouth  no matter what you do.  I hope your pain subsides too.
I have a problem where i cant stay or up past 7. even tho i get up at 7.
i thinkits a depresseion thing, it gets me out of living for a little while.
So i wont be watching any fire works, maybe i willl have hubby video tape it for me.
But we are having a nice dinner before they leave. :-)
 
God Bless,and have a Great Day!!.......Love.....Sheryl
xcema,hypermobile,Chronic Bronchitus,Fatigue,Positive ANAFibro-05--Had surgery on left & right knees 06, Interstial Cystitis-06 spondlylosis/disc degernation severe arthitis lower back -08,implantedInterstim-06 hysterectomy & IBS-06 Arthiritus-04 Depression-04GERDS/ Hiatial hernia -07   Anxiety-07 Gastroparesis-08--Occasional Migraines
 Reglan,Protonix,Prozac,Wellbutrin,Erthomyicin,klonipin,occasional phernergan, loratab, zanaflex  marrried 2 children, 1 with mild autism, Bipolar(8),  Abilify, Buspar, Celexa Son(13) is bipolarw/migraines, Topamax, ZantacGod plz grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference..." Plz help HW to help others by donating: http://www.healingwell.com/donate/


Aurora60
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   Posted 7/4/2008 7:53 PM (GMT -7)   

Brian, Harming yourself will not do any good,  This is not the answer.  If you don't want your gf to email you don't open her emails. Better yet, cancel your current email address and get a new one that she can't find.  Only you can break the cycle of hurt from her. I feel bad for you as you are upset but you will get thru this.Keep posting and let us know how things are going.  Take care of yourself first.

Aurora


sheryl=jk
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   Posted 7/5/2008 4:01 AM (GMT -7)   

I agree withh Auroua, its hard and i ve been there, where a boyfreind would still call and its was the hardest thing i had to do was not answer the phone he would plead with me on theanswering machine to answer the phone but i woulnt. You cant open her emials if its gonna make you feel this bad. and hurting yourslef not gonna help either ive been down that road before too, have scars, but i w really wish hadnt done it now.

we just care about you and dont want to see you hurt yourself.


 
God Bless,and have a Great Day!!.......Love.....Sheryl
xcema,hypermobile,Chronic Bronchitus,Fatigue,Positive ANAFibro-05--Had surgery on left & right knees 06, Interstial Cystitis-06 Spondlylosis/Disc Degernation Disease severe arthitis lower back -08,implantedInterstim-06 hysterectomy & IBS-06 Arthiritus-04 Depression-04GERDS/ Hiatial hernia -07   Anxiety-07 Gastroparesis-08--Occasional Migraines
 Reglan,Protonix,Prozac,Wellbutrin,Erthomyicin,klonipin,occasional phernergan, loratab, zanaflex  marrried 2 children, 1 with mild autism, Bipolar(8),  Abilify, Buspar, Celexa Son(13) is bipolarw/migraines, Topamax, ZantacGod plz grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference..." Plz help HW to help others by donating: http://www.healingwell.com/donate/


getting by
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   Posted 7/5/2008 8:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Brian,

I am sorry that I had to edit and delete some of your post. But you do know the rules. I wish that you weren't letting your gf cause you to feel so bad. Only you can change the way you feel about her emails. You really need to be able to control your emotions. They are hurting you.

I can't remember if you go to counseling, but I think that would help you sort these things out and help you find the answers that you are searching for.

Please continue posting but try not to be so graphic in your posts.

Thanks,
hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 7/6/2008 6:50 AM (GMT -7)   

Brain,

You do not have to open the emails from your girlfirend, just delete them and let it go.  Or go into your email and put her address down as spam and it will go to your spam account. You are a good person but you will feel better if you just don't open the emails.

I am sorry your upset but along with Karen I must warn you of the rules, please no more posts along the lines of what you posted this morning.

We have members as young as 13 on the boards.

Discussions of suicide or self-harm that are deemed negative and therefore potentially injurious to others are also not permitted.

We are here to support you and we care about you but we are not professionals. In no way am I trying to be tough on you.  AS I have said before, I have lived some of what you are going through.  I know where you are coming from.  My prayers for you.
 
Gentle Hugs
Kitt
 

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It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~

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