Hello, this is Kitt and I suspect you are reacting to the situation and are feeling very hurt so the "Stinkin thinkin" thoughts have snuck up on you.
I do not know why your Father is acting this way but I agree with Shy, invite him over and find out what is going on. BE assertive, tell him when your were excluded from the wedding it made you feel very sad and depressed. Tell him only how you feel, don't start blaming him...........or it turns into agression and both parties get upset and nothing is accomplished.
You are a wonderful and special person, do not let how other peoples behavior or what they say dictate who you are. Only you can allow them to hurt you. Believe in yourself and if your thinking of up-rooting and leaving town do it for the right reasons and take your children with you.
They have done nothing and they would rather be with you then anyone, you are their Mother. Love is what they need, the love of a Mother.
You can do this, I know you can.
Gentle Hugs to youKitt
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
Hi Kitty, I agree with shy and Kitt that you should try to talk to your Dad. Try to get him over to your home without his wife knowing. Be honest and tell him how you are hurt. He needs to understand that things can get very hard for you with having medical conditons. You mentioned you have children. Are you getting child support to help you with finances? The father of your children is resposible for supporting them until they are 18. You can probably go to legal aid to get help with this if he is uncooperative. You also mentioned the ER that doesn't treat you well. Is there another hospital in your area where you can go or is there a clinic? Many drug stores now have walk in clinics where you can be seen. Also, do you have a family service agency where you can get couseling? You do not want to put your children in foster care. It would be bad for them as they need you and if you did put them in you might not be able to get them back so I would proceed very cautiously about doing that. Where is your Mother? Do you have any other relatives or even one friend who can give a little help. Please keep posting and let us know what is happening. You need to do some work on this situation yourself as the problems cannot resolve themselves. Try to take good care of yourself.
Kitty, I had another thought. If you have chronic pain are you able to apply for SS disability benefits? You might look into that to see if you can get more financial help.
Post Edited (ShynSassy) : 7/8/2008 4:57:52 AM (GMT-6)
Hi again Kitty, I think your dad is being threatening. I also think you can call his bluff. I don't know him but I suspect he is not going to want to go to court and pay all the costs involved. If he does not have a lawyer it is likely the judge will look at the complaint and throw out the case. I don't know what your court system is like where you live but where I am from which is a big city no judge would even bother with such a case. I would not let him take anything and I would not let him in your home. Make sure you have good locks - worth the money to change them and get dead bolts and chains. Then I would call the police and just inform them what is going on and if he appears at your door you can call 911. He sounds like an incredible bully and I think he is trying to scare you. Change your email, don't answer his calls, don't open your door. I really am serious about you contacting the police for help with this matter. You will be on record as having him threatening you. Take care and keep posting. You can do it - be strong!