Yes you can be happy at each stage of your life if you can except yourself for who you are and where you are in your life. You must love yourself first and then you can feel good and work on issues as they come up.
We raised 4 children and paid the tuition for the first year for the one that went to college. One of ours went into Marines and his college was covered by that. Our daughter went right into business and now runs her own successful business. Our fourth child died at 21 and his was taking part time classes and working. He had a scholarship that helped.
So as you can see it will depend on what your children decide they want when the time comes too. There is scholarship money out there and some pay full tuition.
The financial planner is good advice............... I hope you can feel happy and feel at peace too.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
thanks for your words of encouragement. I know logically it will work out --we have a good income --have had some setbacks due jobs being eliminated in buyouts but have always manage tokeep our head a float and have money in the bank. Believe me we will be applying for all possible scholarships. my youngest in extremely blessed-- a genius so he should get a scholarship I just can't get negative thoughts about some of the decisions we have made. I wish we had done different and it just plays overand over .. I wake up inthe middle of the night and that is the thought in my head. I am just tired. I have IBS and the pain is unbearable at times and I have seen multipple specialist and tried meds etc . nothing seem sto work for long. I am going on and on. Thankfullly I have a husband who loves me and is patient but I try not to keep going over my thoughts with him. He can't help and it frustrateds him --he wants me to have faith is us and god
Thanks I just don't know how to escape myself
Hi, I know how you are feeling as I recently posted a similar thread about being happy. I know that being happy involves what you put into life and following your goals but when you are depressed as I am it is hard to do. And add financial worries to the mix makes it worse. Do you live in a state that has a college tuition fund program that you can invest in? My state has this and it has been wonderful for many students. Of course you have to go to a state college. I think the idea of seeing a financial planner is a good idea. As for the thoughts that run through your mind what you did in the past is done and you can't go back and undo it. I know as I have questioned many things I wish I hadn't done but you have to let those things go and just concentrate on the future. It sounds like you have a wonderful, caring husband and great kids. I have 2 sons and that is my only family. One is a tremendous support and the other is more selfish and always puts himself first. He is supportive when push comes to shove and unfortunately he lives with me so he can be so difficult. Do you think having some therapy will help you with the thoughts that run through your mind? Having a neutral person to bounce things off of can be a great help. Just a suggestion. Keep posting and I wish you the best. Take care.
This is Kitt. If your worries and sx are affeting your quality of life perhaps it is time to see you physician and get a good medicla screening exam to see if there is something else going on with you. I do not know if your on any meds but that maybe a consideration.
Things will get better but do advocate for you and check in with your physician.
Please keep us posted.Hugs