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how to stop the pain
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   Posted 7/14/2008 5:03 PM (GMT -7)   
I am a mother and wife .  I need to snap out of this   my husband has been supportive he will listen but I hate being this way to him  He doesn't undestand because he has never been depressed.  He feels whatever life gives him -he can work out with the gifts god gives him. 
 
I can't -  I have obsessive thoughts over and over ..I wake up and the can't sleep.  I feel i am destined to be this way.   I had bulemia.  I don't have a great self esteem  Got in trouble for being fat.  wasn't as smart as my brother.  My husband say sI should be proud.  I worked hard fro my masters degree.
 
I know I am lucky.  what scares me now that i have been on these board is reading the stories of spouses who love there spouse but can't take it and leave.

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   Posted 7/14/2008 5:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Do you see a therapist or psychiatrist? I had problems with obsessive thinking and now I take abilify and it really helped me. I don't think that way anymore. And it didn't cause me to gain any weight. It is a mood stablizer. Talk to your doctor about it. And let your husband support you however he does. Tell him that you love him.

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   Posted 7/14/2008 5:43 PM (GMT -7)   
 
Hi this is Kitt.  I have reread your other posts and I saw some great advice in those threads.  I agree with Karen, you need to seek professional advice on how to deal with your obsessions. 
Please make an appointment and consider therapy.  We are here to support what ever treatment you choose but please kick the "stinkin thinkin" to the curb. You and your husaband are a couple and just because other husbands cannot cope does not mean your husband will end up that way.
 
Stay in the moment, it is possible, just keep practicing it.
 
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Kitt

 

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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/15/2008 3:19 AM (GMT -7)   
HI there,
 
Firstly I want to congratulate you on getting your Masters degree! Getting a degree is very hard work (I have just finished mine) and I imagine that a Masters is much harder. It doesnt matter how smart you are compared to your brother. What matters is how smart you are. Do you have the brains and qualifications to pursue your chosen career? If so then your smart enough. If you dont have the pieces of paper to tell you your smart but you know your smart inside then thats good enough too.
 
Depression is something that 'normal' people think they understand but when they try and support someone who is depressed, it kinna goes pear-shaped because they dont quite understand. Your husband sounds very supportive of you and it sounds like he is doing a reasonable job. Have you tried telling him what he needs to do to help you? I would definately seek professional help for your Self-Esteem issues. So often, a good self esteem can lift all sorts of other problems and so I would start by trying to deal with that.
 
Please keep talking
 
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how to stop the pain
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   Posted 7/15/2008 3:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for allyour kind words and advice I am just so tired anothe nigh tof mainly being up. i do't know I just don'tknow I need to be bette I have 3 kids depending on me. I don't to cause them pain

getting by
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   Posted 7/15/2008 5:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Just remember sweetie,

One day at a time, you can do it. And you have us to help you.

best wishes for a wonderful day,
Karen
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djdaz_1985
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   Posted 7/15/2008 10:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Karen is right. Try not to take steps that are too big for you. There is no point in rushing if you end up back at the start line.
Everyone has a guardian angel. They help pick you up when you fall, comfort you through your times of need and help you appreciate the times when things are going well.
 
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