Like getting by said, try and explore options of medications and/or counseling. Counseling has been wonderful for myself. I would really recommend it to you.
I feel like you do alot, though my problem is that I'm alone. Im not married, I dont have kids, and that makes me feel bad. Kind of the opposite.
I dont really know what else to say other than try finding a good comfortable counselor. It may sounds scary, and most adults I've talked to are hesitant about
the idea because they feel they are too old to be going to counseling. But you never know the help you can give yourself until you go out and explore a little.
Maybe you don't need medications at this point, I would say try the therpay thing and see where it takes you from there. I cant stress enough (from personal experience) how wonerful counseling is!
Try listening to some mellow music to relax yourself and don't be so hard on yourself. People love you and you sound like a wonderful caring person. Don't be afraid to ask for help if need be.
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