I would encourage him to go back to his physician and get help. I know this is really rough on you and you may at some point need to choose if you can stay in this relationship but for now if you could hang on a bit, he can receive help throgh therapy, and medication.
Keep posting and know we are here for you.
Gentle Hugs to you
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety, Panic & Depression *~*
This is great news that he has asked you to go with. It will help you understand the disorder so much better. Just keep an open mind and you will need others to help support him as you cannot be the only one. It will drain you and you need to take care of you.
Good Luck and my prayers go out for you.
My sister has also been diagnosed with Bi-Polar disorder and started Lithium yesterday! What a coincidence! Lithium is a well tested drug and although its old, it has a good track record. I hope things improve for both of you.
Lilee, I know you are trying to be supportive and help your boyfriend through this difficult time. I think it is good you got him to a therapist and on meds. I want to give you some advice that you are probably not going to like but it is true. Are you planning marriage to him? You say you are going back to school and have student loans and you may have to support him financially. Are you going to take out more student loans for this? If you have student loans you can never stop paying them and if you don't pay your monthly payments the loan may get an increased interest rate. If you don't pay you will be in default. If you have private student loans they can charge you 15 - 16% interest rate. If you ever declare bankruptcy you may not do so on a student loan. It is something you have to pay always. I don't think it is a good idea for you to move in with your boyfriend at this time. You need to take care of yourself and get yourself through school. If things don't work out with him are you going to put yourself in debt for the rest of your life? I know this sounds very harsh but times are very tough right now with the economy and if you are not going to marry this man and spend the rest of your life with him you have to be a little selfish right now. Maybe it is time for him to contact his family and see if they can give him some emotional support. If they understand his diagnosis maybe they will be more willing to help him through this difficult time. If you get into debt it will affect your credit score and if that happens you may not even be able to rent an apartment. I hope you will consider what I have told you and think all of this through very carefully. Sorry to be so hard on you - I don't want you to be put in a bad position. It might be time for you to contact your family and get their advice. They may be able to help you think this through more carefully. I'm sure your family will want what is best for you. I know you may not agree with me but I don't want to see you suffer. Take good care and post on what you are doing.