My first reaction is to defend my wife, but oddly this is behavior i have seen in others and said "how is that posible" how can anybody do that! Huh!....Well..take care of me stay well and only then can i take care of my daughter. Love my wife, she is a wonderful woman in my eyes, but know my EYES ARE WIDE open. Its hard! but its getting better.
I have been thinking what Shy and Karen have said about abuse.....Abuse!...When I say abuse, not the physical but the mental. A long slow persistant verbal drubbing. Dont get me wrong! I care about her deeply and on some level her issues have manifest into what she does. But I am understanding that I have really let myself fall prey too challenges and let this depression get worse. I have had some friends, family (even her family) skirt this issue before and either I poo pooed it or I was a man and that cant happen, not to me! I know henpecked, but this may be the reasons my depression deepend. I am not one to believe in repressed feelings but emotionally this string of conversation has awaken even more tears and feelings. Like my thearpist says your in this room, let it out! Honestly up until a few weeks ago I had no concept what the thearpist wanted. Its like finding your darn keys that you have been looking for, but in this case it only took me about two decades find.