Is that doctor an idiot? Or is that the norm for where his is? I know that some cultures do consider it normal for a young man to go out drinking every night.
I remember that when I was married to my first husband (who died of cancer in 2000), we didn't talk all that much. All I had was my dogs. But then I started doing things alone and it actually made me stronger. I walked them every day, I had three. So I got good exercise. I learned about unconditional love. I started feeling better and looking better. It actually backfired on him and I became a better person because of it. But he was like your husband. He had his life and I was there to pick up the pieces and make him happy. So I know how you feel. He didn't do anything for me at all. Life revolved around him.
But things are different now. I have a good man, who loves me. He is kind to me and takes care of me. I can do less for myself and around here because of fibromyalgia. And he carries the extra weight. I consider myself very fortunate.
I guess that I am saying that when I was alone all the time, I learned to love myself. So some good come out of it. And I was a lot heathier. I was able to work outside doing physical labor, I was cooking three meals a day. I did nothing for myself though and that was sad. But I really appreciated things when I got them. Oh well, this has turned into something about me, I didn't mean for that to happen. But I hope that you can be happy. You deserve it.
Did I miss the part about you developing a new pain and the meds? Please tell me what is going on dear friend.
I know you feel down but remember there is light at the end of the tunnel and we will not leave you alone. You always have us to count on.
Your hubby and family are not going to change I fear so can you let go of that and just love yourself for the wonderful person you are.
You do not have to please others, just please you. Let the others make their own happiness.
Gentle Hugs to YOU.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Oh Sweetie, I am sorry I missed the part about the return of the cancer but please see my post under my thread re my sister............there is hope and there is power in prayers and in believing.
Don't you give up my dear lady. You have come so far and I know how hard it is. Life seem like it has dumped enough on you already and now this.
Do stay with your MIL as long as you want. Your hubby is a big boy and he can handle himself................you need the break and the time for just you.
Know I am praying for you and that you are in my heart. I understand your disease to well.
Dear Jane, Hello sweety. I do know how hard it is for you as I watch my sister being poked and probed. At this time it looks like she would not be ready for surgery until November. The tumor on her ovary is the size of an orange and she has many masses throughout her abdomen. She had a pericentisis today and they withdrew 2850 cc of fluid. That always also helps her to breath easier.
I wish I could be with her more right now but my hubby had is Prostate Cancer surgery on the 28th of August. He is doing very well. I just can't be gone over night until next week.
Now as for you my sweet lady, let the sun shine down on you and warm your heart with all the love we are sending your way. Your HW family is always here for you. Ships full of prayers are on their way to you so know you are truly in good hands.
I hope the kindness you've given to others returns many times to you.
I am so sorry you are in such a dark place but do look up and see the light. WE are all here for you. We will light the way to help you through this pain and depression you are living with.
My sister is not doing well................She has huge pulmonary issues and if she needed to be intubated and on a ventilator she only has a 10 % chance of ever coming off. So basically we are down to chemo. If they ever felt she could have surgery and for that she would have to be intubated......nasty merry-go-round. She is a fighter thow and we support that. She wants so much to get back to her home 500 miles from here.
I am so proud of my niece as she has not left her Mother's side unless I am there to relieve her.
It was August 13th she was brought to the University Hospital.
Now you...............I am proud of the guts it took to make that appointment and now you keep it..............your go and even if you feel awful give this Doctor a chance to help you.
Self confidence usually is based on how well or not so well we've done in previous situations. It is how we feel about ourselves. Our self worth is based upon our previous performance . We all tend to base our own personal values on how successfully we perform in different situations and we often want a perfect performance of ourselves. If we don't live up to our perfect standards, we end up lowering our opinions of ourselves.