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NEM
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   Posted 8/22/2008 1:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Im pretty depressed right now.
 
I am trying to lose weight, but it isnt working! (this is mainly because of my medication Im taking for ulcerative colitis). Well, it is working, but it is going very slowly. I want to be thin by september so I can start the school year feeling great about myself but I dont think that will happen :(
 
I feel fat all the time. I exercise daily. Even when I eat when I am hungry I feel bad!
 
Is there any way to get myself to relax and stop feeling this way constantly?

ShynSassy
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   Posted 8/22/2008 4:24 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Nem

I think that you might want to switch your diet and maybe think about joining an exercise club, something that you will have help in keeping motivated.

Also, have you talked to your doctor about the meds/weight gain concerns? Is there anything else they can give you that won't make you gain weight?

I have been fighting an eating disorder for many years,and one thing that I find that works is eating small snacks throughout the day... I take carrots to work with me,and if I get hungry I will snack on those.
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NEM
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   Posted 8/22/2008 6:01 AM (GMT -7)   
I actually eat very healthy and I eat 4-6 small meals a day. But even when I know I am eating normally and healthy, I still feel guilty when I eat. It feels like I have some sort of eating disorder cause I feel guilty when I shouldnt. I know I shouldnt feel bad for eating when I am hungry but I do.

Ive talked to my doctor and he said that the best thing I can do is just get good exercise and it will take time for the weight to come off. Ive already lost weight, but it's just taking much slower than it use to for me and I hate it!

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   Posted 8/22/2008 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
That is okay if it is taking a while, the faster that you lose, the faster that it can come back. So be patient with this process.

hugs, Karen
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sheryl=jk
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   Posted 8/22/2008 10:24 AM (GMT -7)   
I am too fighting the same battle, an feel guilty no matterwhat i eat. the only excerise i can really do is in the pool. My knees hurt too much. Ieat little snacksthruout the day, but its taking so long for the weight to come off.
last year i gotreas ick and he weiht came off real quik, but once i got better i gained it all back andmore. So i agree the faster you lose the faster it goes back on, so losing slowly is good, the slower it takes to come off the longer it stays off. so i am in the same boat as you, a my self esteem isnt to good, i maybe subitute teaching in the fall, and i dnt really have any clothes to wear , im too big to fit in them. cry
 
God Bless,and have a Great Day!!.......Love.....Sheryl
xcema,hypermobile,Chronic Bronchitus,Fatigue,Positive ANAFibro-05--Had surgery on left & right knees 06, Interstial Cystitis-06 Spondlylosis/Disc Degernation Disease severe arthitis lower back -08,implantedInterstim-06 hysterectomy & IBS-06 Arthiritus-04 Depression-04GERDS/ Hiatial hernia -07   Anxiety-07 Gastroparesis-08--Occasional Migraines
 Reglan,Protonix,Prozac,Wellbutrin,Erthomyicin,klonipin,occasional phernergan, loratab, zanaflex  marrried 2 children, 1 with mild autism, Bipolar(9),  Abilify, Buspar, Celexa Son(13) is bipolarw/migraines, Topamax, ZantacGod plz grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference..." Plz help HW to help others by donating: http://www.healingwell.com/donate/


NEM
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   Posted 8/23/2008 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   
sheryl=jk said...
I am too fighting the same battle, an feel guilty no matterwhat i eat. the only excerise i can really do is in the pool. My knees hurt too much. Ieat little snacksthruout the day, but its taking so long for the weight to come off.
last year i gotreas ick and he weiht came off real quik, but once i got better i gained it all back andmore. So i agree the faster you lose the faster it goes back on, so losing slowly is good, the slower it takes to come off the longer it stays off. so i am in the same boat as you, a my self esteem isnt to good, i maybe subitute teaching in the fall, and i dnt really have any clothes to wear , im too big to fit in them. cry

sad If you dont have any clothes that fit you well, just but 2 or 3 pairs of black slacks; they are simple and you will have something to wear everyday. And you can just match them up with nice shirts you may have. This way you have something to wear for your job while you are trying to lose weight so you can go on a shopping spree for a bunch of cute outfits  :)
 
I wouldnt feel so self concious of myself if the frickin weight from my waist would just come off! It is going slower than the weight im losing in the rest of my body. Im sooo close to being able to fit in my old jeans (before my ulcerative colitis made me gain a ton of weight). I just need to have a slimmer waist and a bit more weight lost in the rest of my body. I hate it!! 

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   Posted 8/23/2008 3:58 PM (GMT -7)   
I know the feeling. I have the same problem. Just a few more inches in the mid section and I could get back in my jeans too. I have been trying, but it really does go slow.

Good luck,

hugs, Karen
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NEM
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   Posted 8/24/2008 4:11 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks :)
 
But is there any way I could stop feeling so self concious of myself? It seems much easier to lose weight when Im not obsessing over it (since im not stressed).

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   Posted 8/24/2008 8:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I think that once you accept yourself at the weight that you are at, you will be able to quit obsessing about it and start losing weight. I am strugglilng with that right now. I get afraid that if I do accept myself for who I am, I will stay that way. Though I know that not to be true. So we are both in the same boat. I still have yet to buy some clothes that fit me, instead of trying to squeeze into the ones that don't.LOL,. It really isn't funny, but if I don't laugh about it, I get depressed more. Just keep moving. try to stay away from foods and beverages that cause you to gain weight. My friend lost 65 pounds just cutting out the coke and coffee with creamer. Oh if I could just do that. I like beer too which is a no no. But I try to work it off by walking. It is hard, but lilke you said, if we could quit obsessing about it, it would seem much easier.

Best wishes for a lovely day,

hugs, Karen...
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   Posted 8/24/2008 12:24 PM (GMT -7)   

Nem,

I have a wardrobe in several sizes.  I hate the meds I am on as they also cause weight retention and I had a weight problem to begin with.  If you can lose 2 lbs per week that is good.  That weight will stay off better then the fast weight loss.

I understand your feelings over this issue.

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sheryl=jk
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   Posted 8/24/2008 1:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks NEM, yeah I may go to a thrift shop and get a few black slacks. And my friend gave me afew nice tops, maybe pick out a few more, if i goet the job i will ask my husbandfor a few bucks to do that, i cant wear shorts to wrok every day.
I miss being in jeans., When got sick as a dog and lost all that wait i was swimming in my jeans(figuratively speaking ofcourse, I have swam litterally in jeans LOL!!) but I lost all the weight being sick, and when it comes of fast like that i goes right back on and more, iwent down to  from  down to decent weight and was looking real good.
But being sick wasnt feeling real good. But once I got better i was able to eat, i wasnt eating becasue i was so sick(gastroparesis). But i got on some good meds to help me, and felt better and started to eat aagin, and the weight just went on real, quick, and I cant get much exercise because my knees hurt real bad, and y back. but right now it mainly my knees, So my pool is my only exercise really and i hate the sun it gives me headaches so i will only go when its overcast out. My gastro who i just saw this week said need to lose weight, well i got quite abit to lose, he said go on high protien low carb diet, but you have to be real careful about that, i get dizzy sometimes when doing that diet in the past, so i cant cut out carbs completly, but I am limited on how i eat my veggies, i have to have them cooked or they make me sick.
Anyways they say the slower it comes off the longer it stays off, i hope i just start getting it off, im at unhealthy weight for my height.
 
God Bless,and have a Great Day!!.......Love.....Sheryl
xcema,hypermobile,Chronic Bronchitus,Fatigue,Positive ANAFibro-05--Had surgery on left & right knees 06, Interstial Cystitis-06 Spondlylosis/Disc Degernation Disease severe arthitis lower back -08,implantedInterstim-06 hysterectomy & IBS-06 Arthiritus-04 Depression-04GERDS/ Hiatial hernia -07   Anxiety-07 Gastroparesis-08--Occasional Migraines
 Reglan,Protonix,Prozac,Wellbutrin,Erthomyicin,klonipin,occasional phernergan, loratab, zanaflex  marrried 2 children, 1 with mild autism, Bipolar(9),  Abilify, Buspar, Celexa Son(13) is bipolarw/migraines, Topamax, ZantacGod plz grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference..." Plz help HW to help others by donating: http://www.healingwell.com/donate/

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