Anxiety on topof depression

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CheerDad
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   Posted 8/24/2008 7:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I have a chronic illness and have had since I was a child. Over the past several years have come to the realization that I have been depressed for years and left it untreated. I am now in both talk and drug therapy and it has made a world of difference in my life. But over the past several months I have been introduced to a constant feeling of anxiety. The doc put me on Xanax for it and it helps take the edge off, but I still feel like I am always walking on egg shells. Not a paranoia that something bad is going to happen, more of what will I mess up next. There have been some changes at work and I report to someone that is controlling and treats all mid-managers at my level like we are children. I know this contributes to the anxiety at work, but wonder why it continues when I am home.
 
Thanks for letting me vent. I hope you all find the peace in your life that I am searching for.

We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.

 
Randy

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getting by
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   Posted 8/24/2008 7:40 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Cheerdad,
 
I am sorry for your situation at work.  I never was good at accepting changes like that at work.  You might have to humor him, being that he is your immediate boss, but not to the extent of losing your own integrity.  I am sure that you will find a way to not ruffle feathers and still do your thing.  It might take a little psychology on your part. 
 
I would imagine with the way you are being treated at work that it would put you in a mood that you end up carrying home.  Have other people had this problem with your new boss?  Maybe you could all get together and come up with some solution, like going over his head?  It really frustrates me that this is going on because I have been through it.  So I am probably not the best help right now.  But these things happen though they shouldn't.
 
I am sorry that I am not much help, I probably shouldn't even have responded to this post.  Hopefully somebody else will come around that can be more objective at this point.
 
I really hope that things work out for you.
 
Hugs, Karen
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CheerDad
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   Posted 8/24/2008 10:09 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for your thoughts Karen. Yes there are several others who feel the same as I do, but they are not as willing to fight this battle. I have spoken with HR and there are avenues I can take with them but I am not sure they would be of any benefit. And the problem is the he is a she and she is going to make darn sure I as a man know she is in charge. Going over her head is not an option because the Deputy City Manager is the one I would need to go to and he is the one that appointed her to the position. My biggest focus in therapy is learning to cope and adjust. I only have 6 yrs before I can retire with full benefits and so I refuse to let some "dragon" lady force me to act on emotion rather than logic.
We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness.

 
Randy

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getting by
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   Posted 8/25/2008 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Randy,

It sounds like you have this situation under control. Please forgive me in my last post. I let the situation get to me. I have been in this situation before. I ended up quiting my job but did get unemployment from it. So that was a plus. But I know how it feels when you have your job under control and somebody new comes in and changes everything.

Best wishes for a wonderful day.

Hugs, Karen
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FamilyGuy
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   Posted 8/27/2008 6:48 PM (GMT -7)   
My work anxiety follows me home as well Randy. I can't offer you advice, only commiserate with you. I've tried to hold my tongue at work, but I have been known to use my "out loud voice" from time to time. In the short run it feels good but nothing good ever comes from it. I hope you can find a way to cope until your retirement.

Thoughts and prayers are with you my friend,
Jon,  Co-moderator for Crohn's Disease and Depression forums
 
"The man who insists upon seeing with perfect clearness before he decides, never decides. Accept life, and you must accept regret." -- Henri-Frédéric Amiel (1821-81), Swiss philosopher, poet 
 
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