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dancingrain
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   Posted 8/27/2008 7:29 AM (GMT -7)   
 

Post Edited (dancingrain) : 9/19/2008 12:39:06 PM (GMT-6)


Confusedli
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   Posted 8/27/2008 8:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Dancingrain,

It sounds to me like your very lonely - can't you do something to meet new people, such as take a college course or excersise class or persue a hobby?

I think you need to try & put this guy out of your mind, as hard as it may be.
Confusedli
 
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Confusedli
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   Posted 8/27/2008 8:53 AM (GMT -7)   
I know what you mean about always wanting more - I'm a bit like that too - always feel like something is missing! Not sure why!

anyway this guy is no good for you at all.

Not sure how you can break the addiction to using the internet chat room. Its hard. Can you maybe try & block that particular site from you computer so you couldn't access it if you wanted to?
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


getting by
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   Posted 8/27/2008 9:34 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Dancingrain,

I thnk that confused is right, you need to stay away from the site. You are just inviting more trouble. And you don't really know this person. Keep your families best interest at heart. But do this for yourself.

Best wishes,

Karen
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getting by
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   Posted 8/27/2008 1:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Dancingrain,

I am so happy that you are going to stay away from the site. Like you said, you don't really know this person. And if they gave you the impression that they were a woman for so long, who knows what they are up to. That is deceipt on their part. I am really glad that you are distancing yourself from this person. It could mess up your family if you don't.

Luv and hugs, ...Karen
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genniefstr
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   Posted 8/27/2008 6:16 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello Dancingrain,

Good to hear you want away from that site. Maybe you could check out the schedual for depression chat here & make new friends. I"m new here, can't type fast but i'd try to be a friend.

 

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Aurora60
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   Posted 8/27/2008 6:44 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Dancingrain, I agree with the others that you should stay away from that site, just block it out. Now also try as hard as you can to stay away and after a while things will ease up and you won't want to go there anymore.  You are so lucky to have a husband who loves you and 3 children.  They should be the main focus of your life right now.  If you are feeling depressed you might want to look into some counseling.  Having a neutral person to talk to can be very beneficial.  Also, have you had a complete physical exam within the past year?  It might be good to see your PCP and make sure you are healthy.  Maybe your dr. can prescribe some meds.  This forum is a great place to come to.  You will make so many friends here and you will be surprised at how much people care about you and your problems.  I try my best to offer suggestions that will help someone to feel better or improve their situation.  Are your children in school?  Do you have enough time to yourself where you can do an activity or hobby?  I find that if I have something to do, like needlepoint is my hobby, I can occupy my time and feel better as I have accomplished something.  I know you are hurting right now and all on this forum are here to comfort you.  I know only too well what lonliness is.  I have a terrrible time with feeling lonely and it is hard to overcome. But when I get that way I post on here and ususally there are replies that make me feel better.  You can post anytime and I will always be glad to answer you.  Take good care of yourself and let us know how you are doing.

Hugs, Aurora


sheryl=jk
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   Posted 8/29/2008 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
I just wanted to say welcome to the forum and keep posting, thereare lots of gret people here who wll listen and offer advice. I do agree counsling is probably a good thing.This caht room its like an addiction for you, and wth any addiction its hard and it takes time and help. Were hereto vent to anytime.......
 
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getting by
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   Posted 8/29/2008 11:35 AM (GMT -7)   
I honestly think that this guy is playing with your mind. Don't trust him. But he did say one thing, if it is destiny, you will meet sometime, but that is only if it is meant to be. Be careful. And I agree, counseling would help you through this. It is an addiction and it isn't easy to stop. Remember that we are here for you. Take care, and keep posting.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 8/29/2008 2:30 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello Dancingrain,

Welcome to HealingWell and the Depression forum.

I do understand your problem as I had someone I chatted with frequently and it went way to far.  I was addicted to talking to this person.  It took me away from my worries and cares and I could pretend I was someone special to this person.

When this person wanted to meet, I knew things had gone way to far and I was dancing with danger.............stranger danger as well as realizing that I had become addicted to chatting.  So I told this person good bye and have a good life.  All the person said was, it was fun while it lasted.  Just a game to play to the other person and in reality it was for me too.

Dependency on any substance often causes mood-altering side effects when the addicted user is separated from the substance on which he or she depends. I felt like I wanted to change my mind but I forced myself to erase all info on this person so that I could not retrieve it..............

Coming here to HealinWell was much more suited to me, it gives me a chance to meet people and to help many.  I don't have to depend on one person showing up to chat with and I feel I am surround by the love and support of the membership.

I hope you can find this kind of peace but you will need time to get to a point where you can let go completely of the chat line as you were dependeent  on it for your daily fix and a boost to your self esteem.  You are grieving the loss of the connection you thought you had with this man.

Letting go is one of the hardest things we have to do in life.

Bless you and keep posting.

Kitt

 


 

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