Empty Nest Syndrome

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Momalways
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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 9/5/2008 8:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi....I never posted before but, feel like I really need some support.
My eldest daughter is in her 2nd year of college and my son is a senior in high school.  I am already dreading this school year because I know that he will be going away to college next year.
I am very sad and I miss so much being a Mom to little ones.
I have been an at home Mom and very busy with the PTA for many years.  I feel like that is all going to go away and that no one will need me anymore.  I love being a Mom more then anything in the world.....and now I feel like its going to be over.
I would love to hear from anyone that has any suggestions....thank you all so much.
Momalways

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   Posted 9/5/2008 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   
My dear Momalways,

I know that this must be killing you to watch your babies grow up. But this is normal. They will always need you in their own way,but it is time for them to leave the nest and fly. Know that you are always close in their hearts. It is just their time to grow up. They will be fine and so will you.

You have us to talk to at any time. Feel free to vent, or just come on to talk. We are open 24/7.

Maybe you could find some interesting things to do to occupy your mind and your time. Pick up a hobby, maybe take a class. Anything to take your mind off of the kids being gone.

Best wishes to you,

Hugs, Karen
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sheryl=jk
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   Posted 9/5/2008 9:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Momalways, as Karen said we are here any time for you. My children still got some growing up to do, son in 8th grade daughter in 4th.
Is there not maybe something you can do with children, so you will have young children in your life? just a suggestion
One thing comes to mind is the library, where ours is at they frequently have an adult reading to young children at certain hours of the day.
Maybe check some things out , that you may be able to volunteer( or get paid ).
Maybe help with girl scouts, boys and girls club etc.
Just throwing out some options there.
You will be ok, and so will your children, they will always need you, and you them.
Good luck, and think of this maybe as a positive experience...
 
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   Posted 9/6/2008 2:07 PM (GMT -7)   

Momalways

Hugs for you sweetie.  I know this is hard but make this year  fun and memorable for you son.  Get right in there and help him plan his big change.  Remember he will be back during breaks and holidays.

Will his school be far away from home?

If you love being a Mom you may want to check into the Big Brother Big Sister program.  Also there are places that are looking for families to take a special child for the week end.  My friend does that and just loves it. You can arrange to get the same child to  come and stay with you.  The children are  al ages.

Yes shed those tears, it is good for you to get them out.

Is there anything you wanted to do but never got round to? A hobby you wanted to start? Throw yourself into it and don't look back.

 
Take care and keep posting to us.
Kitt
 

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Aurora60
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   Posted 9/9/2008 9:29 AM (GMT -7)   

Hi Momalways, First of all I truly understand what you are going through as I had a hard time with the empty nest syndrome. Although right now I have a 34 yr old son back with me which is company but he can be a real pain.  If you like being around young children can you volunteer at a local school or nusery school?  Most schools love to have volunteers.  Also, do you have a library where they have a morning story hour for young children?  Maybe you could read to them or start a group of your own.  I know there are many places that would love to have you as a volunteer.  If you start this year you will transition easier when your son does leave for college. How about other activities where you can join a group with women your own age, such as a book group or exercise class.  There are also many classes that you could take.  These are just a few ideas that may help you do get through a difficult time.  Do you work?  If not how about a part time job?  I always think getting out of the house is a big help in fighting depressing feelings.  Let us know how you are doing.  We all have to let out children leave the nest and form new lives for themselves.  Just think, someday you maybe busy with grandchildren!  Take care.

Aurora


Momalways
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   Posted 9/9/2008 9:33 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you all so much for your advice and thoughts.  I am going to try so hard to make this a very special year for my son and hold my emotions as much as possible.
So many of your suggestions are wonderful and I appreciate you writing back to me.
Thank you, Momalways

stkitt
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   Posted 9/9/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -7)   

Momalways,

I am gald you are going to make this a good year, kudos to you.  I really enjoy my children and now that they are older I love to spend time with them but they are so busy.

We are here for you so please keep posting and if you get stuck, we will help you out.

Gentl Hugs

Kitt


 

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