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Disenchanted__
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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 9/15/2008 5:11 PM (GMT -7)   
Okay,
well.
Lately i just started going back to school (high school), and its a new school (because i moved) so i dont really know anyone and they dont know me.
And when i get to school i become so depressed because everyone has their little groups and Cliques, and im to afraid to talk to people, because im afraid that they will find out that im depressed or that i have an anxiety disorder, im not really sure what to think anymore. I dont want to go to school for the rest of the year not having any friends, but i dont want to go up to people and try talking to them and be rejected as a friend ( because this has happened to me in the past). I dont know anymore. Im sick of going into the bathroom stall crying just because i have no friends, even though i have started going to this school about 5 days ago. I guess one cant make friends this fast. But i just want to be able to have someone to talk to when im in lunch break or something. All they do is stare at me, (probably because i am the "new girl".)
I dont want people to know that im 19 also, because most people in high school arent 18 years old.
and i dont want to give up this fast because this is my last chance to graduate and by all my means i want to. But i feel that i cant go on like this alone. I need moral support. =[

enWayen
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Date Joined Apr 2008
Total Posts : 585
   Posted 9/16/2008 1:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej Disenchanted,

I know what you are going through, since I felt the same for a couple of years. I found that smiling works the best, just smiling. If you can get yourself to smile while walking through the school, people will start talking to you, just because of that. They won't ask, why are you smiling, but they will talk to you because you look friendly. Plus, smiling will also make you happy :).

And since you have moved, it is obvious that most people have friends already. If you are able to, just sit down at a table with a few girl/guys that seem nice. Because they will be there, you just need to find them. And that is something you sometimes have to do yourself.

Since I just started university this month, I am also in some similar situation. I moved out of the house and know no one except my room-mate. And there are a lot of students at what I do, so it is hard to connect at the beginning. I decided for myself that I will just talk to everyone that seems nice, say "hi", etc. And people respond very positive to that. When I was depressed, I really thought they would find you stupid, but people like others that look positive.

I hope you will do a bit better, and maybe talk to someone this week! And of course feel free to say/ask whatever you want.

All the best!
Erik
Acceptance is the key

Existential depression and Insecurity

Try to keep smiling! :)


NightWish
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Date Joined Sep 2008
Total Posts : 129
   Posted 9/17/2008 9:56 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Disenchanted,

I agree that looking happy might help people to know that you are friendly. I'll bet they want to talk to you and get to know you, but are probably afraid of rejection, just like you are.

Walking up to a group of people to introduce yourself is hard to do. Is there any opportunity to talk to people in your classes? Usually there is some group work involved, which is an excellent way to get to know people. Some of the best people I met in high school were those who sat in front of or behind me in class. It usually starts off talking about whether or not you understand the assignment or something related to the class, and then you can throw in a question, maybe asking if they're involved with any clubs or organizations at school, and that gets you talking about all kinds of things. It wouldn't even hurt to ask if you can join that person at lunch.

The first week is hard. Hang in there and let us know how it goes, ok?

NW

stkitt
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   Posted 9/18/2008 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   

Disenchanted__

Hey there, this is Kitt.  Great advice from the members.  Change is always hard but do be proactive and be friendly.  Smile as that is sure to draw people to you. It says I am friendly and I see you.

Keep posting as we support you.

Hugs

Kitt


 

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