in a relationship with a depressed person

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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 9/19/2008 4:25 PM (GMT -6)   
i am a man who has been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now. She is dealing with a minor case of depression but she tells me that her depression stages are occuring more often than before. I want to be there for her so i need to understand more about this illness. Can anyone please refer me to a book so i can better understand what depression is, and maybe give me some tips to do. I feel more and more often i have to answer the same questions over and over again. We are dealing with the same problems all the time. And i am feeling it is getting more annoying or harder for me to deal with the same issues time after time.
She is also dealing with a trust issue from her previous relationship. She does not trust me 100 percent which is very difficult to understand. i have to answer some stupid questions that after over 2 years of being together one might think that this shouldnt be the case at all. And it is the same questions over and over again, but formulated differently. I guess she does this to see if i am consistent with my answers. But i love her and only her, but how can i make her understand this.

I am very grateful for any help. ANd if you have any books that you think can help me please tell me.
thank you

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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted 9/19/2008 4:57 PM (GMT -6)   


Welcome to HealingWell.  I am glad you want to understand  your partners depression.  This is truly a difficult disorder to live with but most people work with thier physicians and therapist can live a very nornal life.

The most popluar book right now appears to be Understanding Depression By Patricia Ainsworth.

Another place to look for resource books is on the right you will see a green box that says Resources.  There is a lot of material available.

It sounds to me like your partner is feeling insecure and depressed right now. That could be why she keeps asking you the same question, not that she does not trust you.  She is looking for validation that you care.  Depression is frightening. Many people with depression are afraid of abandonment.

I hope this helps you in some small way. 

Take care and keep posting.




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