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noonoonoo
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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 9/30/2008 6:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there.

I know there are scheduled chats on Tuesdays but I only just found this website. I would just like to chat to someone. I feel stupid doing this... like I'm making myself feel down. I can't explain it. I feel like I'm making myself think I'm depressed but I don't know. This is the first time I've really tried to talk to someone - I haven't even been to a doctor/therapist yet. Well, I kind of went to one a few years ago but it didn't work out. I don't want to go to a doctor until I've talked to someone about how I'm feeling at the moment. I feel like I'm being an attention seeker, but I promise I'm not. It feels easier being anonymous. Is there anyone out there that I can chat to?

Noonoonoo

Aurora60
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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 9/30/2008 7:17 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Noon,  This is a good place to talk to someone as the people on this forum are very caring and understanding.  Have you ever been diagnosed with depression?  Are you in good physical health? Maybe you need a complete physical with you PCP and can get a good recommendation for a therapist.  If you have the right one they can be very helpful and being neutral a therapist can see your problems in a different light and explain ways of coping or changing your thinking.  I don't know how old you are or what you do - job or student?  I luckily found the right therapist for me and she has done wonders for me over the years and I mean years as I first went to see her when I was getting divorced.  And that was 25 yrs ago.  OK, showing my age but depression can hit you at anytime and some of us older gals have been through a lot of experiences.  One thing I decided when my husband left me was that I could wallow in it or try my best to come to terms and lead a decent life.  It hasn't always been easy but you get out what you put in. And I have had many happy times and my ex and I are on great terms and I get along very well with his 2nd wife.  So if you want to chat you can post here and there are always people to answer and I am always willing to help in any way I can because I have been helped so much here.  The HW people are truly my friends and I hope you will feel that way too.  Take good care of yourself and let us know how you are doing. And Tues. afternoon chat session is a good way to get to know people.Also, remember, it may take some looking to find the right therapist but i'm sure there will be one that is a good fit for you. Once you start to talk it gets easier.

Aurora


noonoonoo
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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 9/30/2008 7:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for your reply Aurora. I am thinking about going to see someone this week but I'm not an open person at all, not even with someone who would keep my information confidential, so I thought it might be easier to start off on here. It's great to know that being on HW has helped you. I must admit, I have always been skeptical of therapists. I am from the UK where the prospect of therapy and talking to people is not openly praised - the general attitude is 'Get over it - stop making excuses and sort yourself out'. Moving to America, I feel there are a lot more opportunities to talk about things. I just don't know whether what I'm feeling is significant enough to go and talk to someone about it... I mean, it must be to an extent, as I'm on this website. But I feel like I'm being a hypochondriac.
Oh, just so you know, I'm 21 and I'm a student. I will def. be on here next Tuesday for the chat. It'll be nice to get some more perspectives on my situation and I'll have* hopefully* spoken to someone by then.

Thanks again,
Noonoonoo

Tapestryloom
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Date Joined May 2008
Total Posts : 169
   Posted 9/30/2008 7:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Welcome! I am new too. Looking forward to meeting you in future postings and possibly chat.
Remember; It's the healthy people who seek help.
Carolyn
I am a mother to 4 children; James 11 mo.'s, Davey 2 1/2 yrs,
Dana 4 1/2yrs, and Anne 9 yrs.  I am currently studying to become a natural childbirth educator.... and just trying to figure out where my priorities are right now.


getting by
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   Posted 9/30/2008 8:48 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Noon,

I rhink that you will be happy that you came here. Everybody is so kind and understanding. It is easy to open up here I think because you are anonomous. So feel free to talk, you would be suprised at how much better you feel.

Keep posting, and I hope that you stick around.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


Liv5
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Date Joined Sep 2008
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   Posted 9/30/2008 9:45 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey,
I just started here too and I was hoping to talk to someone as well. I'm not sure if I'm depressed but a lot of people have died in the past year and I do feel sad a lot. I would be interested in talking to you if you wanted to talk to me. Maybe we can tackle this together.

Aurora60
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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 10/1/2008 11:51 AM (GMT -7)   

Liv, I would be happy to talk to you any time you want.  That's what this forum is for to help us get out our feelings and give comfort to one another.  I am so sorry that you have lost people in your life who meant a lot to you.  It is never easy to lose a family member or friend.  I can understand how you would be feeling sad.  I have lost most of my family.  Of course, I am a lot older than you but the feelings are still the same no matter what our ages.  I have lost all my grandparents, both parents and both sisters.  I have my 2 sons and an Aunt but that is my family now.  I know it may sound trite but time is the healer of all wounds and unfortunately time goes by at a slow pace when we feel bad. But as the time goes by things will start to improve.  I have 2 sayings that help me through these times.  "Between grief and nothing i'll take grief."  And "Grief is the price we pay for love."  If we didn't have love we wouldn't have any feelings.  So try to understand that you often don't have control over a situation but you will learn to go on.  Experience is a good teacher.  I hope I am not sounding to preachy, just wanted to help you if I could.  Post any time and I will be glad to answer back.

Aurora


getting by
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   Posted 10/1/2008 12:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Liv,

Welcome to the HealingWell depression forum. You definately have come to a good place. I think that you will really like the members here. We all get along well and everybody is so kind and caring.

I am sorry for your losses. I just recently lost my nephew to suicide. It was horrible so I know how you feel. I have been going to my share of funerals in the last few years. I am growing weary and sad to lose so many people that I love. I am sure you are too.

You might have a more of a situational depression. That can happen to people who are going through what you are going through. Which can be treated. Also there is a good chance that it will go away in time.

Either way, I wish you the best. Keep posting, we are here for you.

Hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 10/1/2008 2:06 PM (GMT -7)   

Welcome Noon and Liv

You've found a safe, caring , and reliable support community for people battling Depression. We have many members here who will be glad to lend an ear, offer information, and provide support for people who need it.

There is a great book you might want to look into:

Understanding Depression  By Patricia Ainsworth.  You might try your library or local book store.  You can also order it through our Resources, Books. (Look to the Right)

Depression is generally ranked in terms of severity -- mild, moderate, or severe. The degree of your depression, which your doctor can determine, influences how you are treated. Symptoms of depression include:

Sleep disturbances -- usually insomnia (for example, consistently waking up very early in the morning) but may be excessive sleeping

A dramatic change in appetite, often resulting in either weight gain or weight loss

Fatigue and lack of energy

Feelings of worthlessness, self-hate, and inappropriate guilt

Extreme difficulty concentrating

Agitation, restlessness, and irritability OR inactivity and withdrawal from usual activities

Recurring thoughts of death or suicide

Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness

Major depression -- five or more symptoms listed above must be present for at least 2 weeks, but tends to continue for 20 weeks. (A mood disorder is classified as minor depression if less than five depressive symptoms are present for at least 2 weeks.)


 

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Ryuiichi
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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 10/3/2008 7:57 AM (GMT -7)   
hey i was just wanting to let you know that im willing to listen to you and talk to you.

Ryuiichi
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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 8
   Posted 10/3/2008 8:06 AM (GMT -7)   
hey there. im new as well. ive been needing to talk to some one just like you are because my past couple of years have been the worst and no one seems to understand the fact on how hard it is to talk to someone that has no idea whats really going on. i would love to be that person to help in anyone i can.

Dismaril
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Date Joined Oct 2008
Total Posts : 10
   Posted 10/4/2008 10:17 PM (GMT -7)   
I wanted to let you know as well that I am willing to listen to anyone talk! I am going through a rough divorce and questioning my self everyday!
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