Hi Noon, This is a good place to talk to someone as the people on this forum are very caring and understanding. Have you ever been diagnosed with depression? Are you in good physical health? Maybe you need a complete physical with you PCP and can get a good recommendation for a therapist. If you have the right one they can be very helpful and being neutral a therapist can see your problems in a different light and explain ways of coping or changing your thinking. I don't know how old you are or what you do - job or student? I luckily found the right therapist for me and she has done wonders for me over the years and I mean years as I first went to see her when I was getting divorced. And that was 25 yrs ago. OK, showing my age but depression can hit you at anytime and some of us older gals have been through a lot of experiences. One thing I decided when my husband left me was that I could wallow in it or try my best to come to terms and lead a decent life. It hasn't always been easy but you get out what you put in. And I have had many happy times and my ex and I are on great terms and I get along very well with his 2nd wife. So if you want to chat you can post here and there are always people to answer and I am always willing to help in any way I can because I have been helped so much here. The HW people are truly my friends and I hope you will feel that way too. Take good care of yourself and let us know how you are doing. And Tues. afternoon chat session is a good way to get to know people.Also, remember, it may take some looking to find the right therapist but i'm sure there will be one that is a good fit for you. Once you start to talk it gets easier.
Liv, I would be happy to talk to you any time you want. That's what this forum is for to help us get out our feelings and give comfort to one another. I am so sorry that you have lost people in your life who meant a lot to you. It is never easy to lose a family member or friend. I can understand how you would be feeling sad. I have lost most of my family. Of course, I am a lot older than you but the feelings are still the same no matter what our ages. I have lost all my grandparents, both parents and both sisters. I have my 2 sons and an Aunt but that is my family now. I know it may sound trite but time is the healer of all wounds and unfortunately time goes by at a slow pace when we feel bad. But as the time goes by things will start to improve. I have 2 sayings that help me through these times. "Between grief and nothing i'll take grief." And "Grief is the price we pay for love." If we didn't have love we wouldn't have any feelings. So try to understand that you often don't have control over a situation but you will learn to go on. Experience is a good teacher. I hope I am not sounding to preachy, just wanted to help you if I could. Post any time and I will be glad to answer back.
Welcome Noon and LivYou've found a safe, caring , and reliable support community for people battling Depression. We have many members here who will be glad to lend an ear, offer information, and provide support for people who need it.There is a great book you might want to look into:
Understanding Depression By Patricia Ainsworth. You might try your library or local book store. You can also order it through our Resources, Books. (Look to the Right)
Depression is generally ranked in terms of severity -- mild, moderate, or severe. The degree of your depression, which your doctor can determine, influences how you are treated. Symptoms of depression include:
Sleep disturbances -- usually insomnia (for example, consistently waking up very early in the morning) but may be excessive sleeping
A dramatic change in appetite, often resulting in either weight gain or weight loss
Fatigue and lack of energy
Feelings of worthlessness, self-hate, and inappropriate guilt
Extreme difficulty concentrating
Agitation, restlessness, and irritability OR inactivity and withdrawal from usual activities
Recurring thoughts of death or suicide
Feelings of hopelessness and helplessness
Major depression -- five or more symptoms listed above must be present for at least 2 weeks, but tends to continue for 20 weeks. (A mood disorder is classified as minor depression if less than five depressive symptoms are present for at least 2 weeks.)
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