May I suggest you don't drink as it lowers your inhibitions and you start doing things you would not do if your were straight. He did ask you not to call but you have apparently bombarded him with calls and texting when you were under the influence. It is to late to be sorry and sad, but learn from this that you cannot force someone into doing what you want. No meant No to him obviously. You can only move forward from here. We all make mistakes.
I think at this point you should just let him be and start working on how you are going to increase you own self esteem and love yourself.
At your age I did a lot of the same kinds of things out of desperation only to find I had just pushed someone further away. My mistake and I paid the price and learned to change my behavior.
Take care and keep taling to hun.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Post Edited (stkitt) : 10/12/2008 8:00:04 AM (GMT-6)
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 10/11/2008 9:52:42 PM (GMT-6)
I am so sorry that my post made you feel worse. That was not my intention. As I noted at the bottom of my post I have made the same mistakes as you only probably much worse so I was just speaking from experience.
We often waste way too much of our time and energy focusing on what we don't like, what we're worried about, or what we think needs to be fixed, changed, or enhanced.
There are great things happening in your life and around you all the time.
Celebrate the good stuff around you. Moving on is hard but I do believe in you and I think you can do this.
I am glad you are ok and what a great profession you are working toward. I know it is a long haul and a lot of studying but in the end how proud of yourself you will be.
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 10/12/2008 9:39:18 AM (GMT-6)
If he really cares for you he is being manipulative and controlling IMHO. He has written the rules and you are to follow them.
Let me throw out a couple of questions for you to think on.
Are you happy in the relationship? Sit back for a moment and think to yourself 'Am I happy in my relationship?' If you are happy, then great! If you're not happy then you need to ask another question. Ask yourself 'Can I foresee myself ever being happy in this relationship?'
If you can see yourself being happy if some small changes are made, then it might be worth your effort to get some counseling. I want to mention here that the small changes must come from inside you. You do not have the power to change anyone else (including this man).
You posted "He's done this so many times before where we talk almost every day and then randomly he tells me he doesn't want to talk to me. It's like a cycle." To me this feels like a very controlling and manipulative person. But I can only advise you from your side of this situation as I do not know him at all.
The more you keep texting him it shows him you are under his control and he will let you hang there.............don't text, don't think or try to figure him out. Take care of you.
Just my 2 cents worth.
Post Edited (confusedgirl22) : 10/12/2008 3:55:08 PM (GMT-6)
I know how you feel, like your whole life is messed up. I promise you this is not the guy that runs your life, you are the only one that can do that. Shed the tears and then wash your face in cold water and go study. the more you call and text the more he sits there and gloats that he is in control.
If this is truly the way he is, I would kick him to the curb and jump back into life. Find someone who treats you with respect. Texting and calling is a waste of time.
I know this message has been repeated over and over so please know we care but the final call is yours.