Good Morning Erik,
I am right here for you and I do understand how your feeling. I have had to battle my low self esteem for years and it has caused me anxiety and depression............that feeling of " Will I ever be good enough"
Self-esteem can be hard to define. More than just feeling good about yourself, taking pride in your accomplishments or liking what you see in the mirror, self-esteem is concerned with the way we judge our own worth.
We tend to look at the equation backwards. We think that how we look dictates our level of self-esteem when in fact it is our self-esteem - our ability to see ourselves as having value – that dictates how we react to the face in the mirror.
Low self-esteem does not necessarily lead to depression but studies have shown that the two often go hand in hand. In fact the World Health Organization (WHO) uses low self-worth in its description of depression. Low self-esteem makes you your own worst enemy. Thoughts of "if only I were a stronger person, if only I was funny or popular, if only I was strong enough to fix this" crowd out everything else. Even if we receive praise, the voices inside our own heads discount it. Like Julia Roberts said in Pretty Woman "the bad stuff is easier to believe."
Keep talking to us and ramable away................we are hear for you to share the good and the not so good.
Take care my friend.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Erik, I have read your posts and I understand that you are feeling down right now. That happens to all of us. As you say acceptance is the key and right now you probably have to accept the way you are feeling. You have so many things going for you. You are young and when the time is right someone will come along for you when you least expect it. The Erik I know who answers my posts is a very knowledgable and intelligent person. I know that is who you are. And look at the wonderful experiences you have had. Try to ride out this period and stay in the moment as Karen says. Keep busy and go outside and get some fresh air and listen to the birds. I have always known you to be such a positive person. And i'll bet you are very attractive. I know right now it seems like you are just trying to put on a good face but I think you can work this out and get back to feeling good again. Between grief and nothing i'll take grief. Just a way of saying that you have to experience so many different things in life. Otherwise you don't feel anything. Keep posting and let us help you through this time. You are very important to all of us. Try to take good care of yourself. My thought on the hair stylist, she was probably in her own world thinking about whatever she might have to do. I know you want to solve others problems but right now is the time just for you.
Hi Erik, I too am glad you are feeling better today. Sometimes you just have to take things one step at a time. This world is a strange but wonderful place and we have to keep in mind that what we do with those qualities given us is what will keep us strong and help us to go on. You are a very good person and I know you have a lot of inner strength. Just take care of you and as you can see already you are getting better.
Someone has said so much better then I could:
Finish every day and be done with it.You have done what you could.Some blunders and absurditiesno doubt have crept in;forget them as soon as you can.
Tomorrow is a new day;begin it well and serenelyand with too high a spiritto be cumbered withyour old nonsense.
This day is all that isgood and fair.It is too dear,with its hopes and invitations,to waste a moment on yesterdays.