Hi Willow, I read your post and am sorry for all you are having to go through right now. From what I read am I correct in thinking that the state or city government is taking your parents income into consideration for you? That is not right. If you are an adult you should be able to apply for aid on your own without having to give any of your parents information. I would check further if I were you. Also, as far as medical bills go, if you don't have the money you can apply to the hospital to get your bills reduced to the minimum if you have no income. At least where I live they put you on a payment plan that is manageable and if you can't afford it they reduce your payments. Have you applied for medicaid and Social Security disability? Also, have you looked into what grants your state might have to get you into your own place and continue to pay for it?I am only going by what happens in my state. If you have a disability here you are entitled to apply for grants for living expenses if you make under a certain amount of money. Are there any group homes where you apply to live? I am only tossing out some ideas to see if they can help you. Your father has no right to treat you the way he does and your mother should stick up for you. How about going to a shelter for help? Or possibly legal aid to see what they can do for you. I know there are agencies out there in your state who will help you. It just takes finding the right place. I hope I haven't overwhelmed you - I just want to help as much as I can. You deserve to live a happy life and be on your own. Please keep posting and let us know how you are. Know that there are many people here who care about you and want to see you well. Take care.
This is Kitt, and I am not in a good place to give you advice right now. I do know you need help and you have come to the right place to find members that know what your going through and where your coming from.
I am going to be back home on Tuesday night so I will try to give you some sound adivice then. Meantime, stay in the moment, don't let anything knock you down. There is an answer and we will try to help you find it.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
Dear Willow, I am so sorry that you are unable to get more help than you have. I was hoping some of my suggestions would help. What about a women's shelter? Is there one where you live and could you go there? It might be better than sitting in the dark with your parents. I think your parents are not being fair to you. I wish there was something I could do to help you but the truth is I feel helpless. However, there is one thing I can do and God willing maybe you will get some help. I am going to put you at the top of my prayer list. I strongly believe in the power of prayer and keeping a strong faith. When times are tough know that God carries us at those times. You will be in my thoughts and prayers and I do so hope for something to come along for you. Please try to take as good care as possible of yourself.
Willlow, it's me again. You say the DPA requires you to list all the people in your house. Well, aren't you staying in your parents house? I would think they would take that into consideration. They are not living with you, you are living with them. Don't they own the house? What have your parents done to help you? It may sound unkind if you leave them but they won't even let you have a light on. I don't know your whole situation but your parents don't sound like they are doing you any good. And if you have suffered abuse you have every right to leave without explaining. I may be wrong and apologise if I have overstepped the bounds. Also, you say you are on medicare.Are you 65? Medicare if for people 65 and up. But what about going on MEDICAID. Wouldn't that help you more? Is your disabiity enough to get you a room somewhere else so you can apply for more support? If you could somehow get on your own you might be able to get more support. Just a few ideas that popped into my head after I finished my other post. I'll keep thinking of something and hoping for help. Again don't mean to be overzealous and unkind just trying to think of how to help. You are a decent and worthwile person who deserves to live peacefully.
Many hugs & prayers,
Hi Willow, I understand your situation better now and see why you need to stay where you are. I just want you to be safe. I think it is wonderful that you have a puppy. Having something to love can get you through some hard times. I hope that your situation will improve, in the meantime please take very good care of yourself. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing.
Gentle hugs & prayers,