Hi Sadmama, I know how you feel about gaining weight. I gained a lot of weight when I took my mother into my house and took care of her for 10 years. I relieved my stress with food. After she passed I went to a diet group (dont want to mention names) but the people there were incredibly supportive and the leader taught us proper proportions and just weight management. It isn't dieting, it is a life style change. You can go on the internet and find many good diets and also good low cal and low fat recipes. I have lost 40 lbs and still have more to go but I have a big iincentive since my son is getting married next year. So if you have a goal to work for it makes it easier to change your habits. Just try to do a few things at a tiime. Don't try to undertake some huge diet plan.That can set you up for failure. I find drinking tea (no sugar) and vegetable juice are both things that fill me up in between. Also, have containers of veggies cut up and fruits like melon which is very low cal. Look upon this as a life style change and not diet. Learning portion control is a big thing. And when you eat put your fork down in between bites. also after a meal wait at least 15 minutes and you will find you are not hungry. Sometimes we eat out of boredom. So Karen is right - take up a hobby and keep your hands busy. I needlepoint and I get so absorbed in it that I find hours have gone by and I wasn't hungry. Also, walking is one of the best exercises for losing weight. Start out with a 10 or 15 min. walk and build up to it. You will find you can't wait to go for your walk. It releases endorphins in your brain which make you feel better. I hope I have been of some help to you and given you some ideas to think about. Keep posting and let us know how you are doing. I am always willing to answer any posts. Try to take good care of yourself. You are worth it!