Going through a depressive episode is hard enough, but top that off with IBS, and its no wonder your having trouble sleeping. I'm relieved to hear that your IBS has calmed down since starting to work from home. I have an IBD, so I know about the discomfort that stress can do our digestive systems.
What do you mean by Sub-Conscious Depression? Is this different from a "normal" depressive episode? How does it work? Your sub-conscious is depressed, so it is working to sub-consciously sabotage yourself? That was a lame attempt at a joke. I've never heard of someone diagnosed with Sub-Conscious Depression before, so I really am curious about how they diagnose that.
I'm going to take a stab in the dark here and say that your physical pains and illnesses are manifestations of your mental dischord. I have a tendency of internalizing stress, anxiety, anger, and depression, and sometimes my body aches from head to toe. You say that you feel like you've been ill for 4 years. My first question is whether or not you have a therapist of psychiatrist? Are you currently taking any medications?
Is going to bed so late having a negative effect on your relationship with your wife? If so, that is another piece of stress to add in to the mix. Do you sleep in late, or are you waking early and running on fumes the rest of the day? Have you tried any relaxation techniques to help prepare yourself for bed? Maybe drink some valerian tea, do some relaxation exercises, and then try to go to bed earlier?
Since you have a diagnosis, I guess you do have a doctor. I'd suggest you let him know exactly everything that is going on with you right now, and see what he thinks. He could prescribe something to help you fall asleep earlier if you needed it.
The only person who can really help yourself right now is you. You've made a step in the right direction by opening up here, you should congratulate yourself for that. Now take the next step by getting some medical support to help yourself get through this period. I hope you can get a decent nights rest pretty soon. Take care of yourself my man.
36 y.o. male
Diagnosed w/ moderate UC in May '06
Meds & supplements:
Asacol, Florastor, VSL#3, Wellbutrin XL, Prozac, multi-vitamin, Allegra, Lialda, Colocort enema every other night, Prednisone (down to 5mg), flaxseed oil, L-glutamine.