after 14yrs i feel the need to give up...

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givingup1977
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   Posted 10/21/2008 4:22 PM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry....for posting outside site policy...

Post Edited (givingup1977) : 10/22/2008 3:02:06 PM (GMT-6)


behindtheseeyes00987
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   Posted 10/21/2008 8:44 PM (GMT -7)   
Givingup-

Please don't-don't give up.
You've had to endure much pain in your day, but this hopefully has, or will, make you a much stronger person. I know that it's cliche, and everyone says that, but if you've gone through what you have and are still here today that you are stronger than you will ever realize.

One thing is for sure-you should NEVER feel guilty or responsible for what has happened. And for your son, once again, not your fault. All you can do is be the best mother you can.

I can't imagine what it feels like to feel like this and be pregnant. Instead of thinking negatively you should be caring for yourself. Don't leave your son and your soon to be baby out there all alone.

I don't know you, but just from reading your post I konw that you are a wonderful beautiful and strong woman who can get through this.

I will pray for you. In the meantime, I hope that you rethink some things. Please don't let your mother's attitude or actions of the past have a present affect on you. Please seek some professional help and also know that we are all here for you...whenever you're feeling low and want to post, go right ahead. I'll continue to keep checking up and pray for you.
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getting by
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   Posted 10/22/2008 8:41 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Giving up,

I am sorry that I had to edit your post. But we aren't allowed to talk about sexual abuse and suicide in depth. Also could you please not type in upper case letters, some people think of it as shouting and it is harder to read. Thank you for your cooperation.

Sweetie, I really hoope that once you have your baby that you will change your mind. I know that it is hard for you right now, but things will get better. I am hoping that seeing your beautiful child will change your way of thinking. I know that you feel that they would be better off without you, but that isn't true, children need their mothers. And it sounds like you are a good mother with a lot of compassion and kindness.

Please keep posting, a lot of people have found hope here. Everybody is so kind and compassionate and they can hopefully persuade you to change your mind on the way that you are thinking. We all care about you here. We want you to continue living your life to the fullest for yourself and for your children. Please don't give up on life.

Hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 10/22/2008 9:03 AM (GMT -7)   

Hello Giving up,

Welcome to HealingWell.

I know it seems like there is no way out of your black hole but you can't give up and children are not always better off without their birth Mother.  You have Depression and treatment is available.

I am going to post some numbers here for you to use, contact someone on the list and tell them exactly how your feeling.

There is help our there and you just need to get the strength and courage to ask for it.

The US Suicide Hotline 1-800-784-2433

NDMDA Depression Hotline | Support Group. 800-826-3632

Suicide Prevention Services Crisis Hotline 800-784-2433

Suicide Prevention Services Depression Hotline 630-482-9696

AAA Crisis Pregnancy Center 800-560-0717

Parental Stress Hotline | Help for Parents 800-632-8188

Suicide & Depression Hotline | Covenant House 800-999-9999

Please know we are here for you and keep talking to us.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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givingup1977
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   Posted 10/22/2008 1:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Dear Karen,
I am sorry about writing about things that are not permitted on the site...i felt like i needed to get out somethings...I am also sorry about typing in uppercase...I never seem to get anything right...

ediekristen
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   Posted 10/22/2008 4:10 PM (GMT -7)   
Givingup,

I didn't get to read your post before you edited but I just wanted to respond to your "I never seem to get anything right"... Please try not to get that down about it, you weren't aware and you were just venting and I hope it felt better to get some things out. We have all made the same mistake and slipped up and said things that weren't allowed, it happens. Please don't let it discourage you from posting here anymore... I would like to know more and this is a really great site, full of wonderful people with some of the best advice I've ever received. If you want to vent more, we are still here to listen. Please stay with us.

Female, 23, Ulcerative colitis (pancolitis) since 1999; GERD; gastritis; osteopenia in femur head & lumbar spine from long term prednisone use...

Current Meds:
Lexapro 10mg, Sulfasalizine 3000mg/day, Azasan 100mg

 
 


getting by
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   Posted 10/23/2008 9:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Givingup,

Ediekristen is right, dont' let this discourage you from posting. We are here for you. I just wanted to let you know why I had to edit your post. You didn't do any thing wrong and please don't say that you never get anything right, you came here and that was a good thing. Like I said, we are here for you. So please keep posting.

I hope that you have a wonderful day today.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


stkitt
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   Posted 10/23/2008 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey there Givingup,
Turn those thoughts around, try saying " I get a lot of things right...............I found this site and the members are great."
 
"I am still fighting for my life and want to make it better."
 
" I needed help and I reached out.........that was right"
 
You just keep on talking to us.  Using a board like this it is hard to be perfect as all boards are different so no beating yourself up my friend.
Hugs
Kitt
 

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mom9mom
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   Posted 10/24/2008 6:46 AM (GMT -7)   
cry  If you realy want to talk you can E-Mail me at .

Post Edited By Moderator (getting by) : 10/24/2008 10:14:19 AM (GMT-6)


getting by
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   Posted 10/24/2008 9:16 AM (GMT -7)   
I am sorry that I had to edit your email address, it is just that it isn't safe. You have your blue envelope so she can email you there. It is just that anybody can see your email addy here, but only members can go to your profile where your more protected.

I hope that the two of you can correspond, I think it is important at this time.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


stkitt
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   Posted 10/24/2008 4:24 PM (GMT -7)   

For Mom and Giving Up...........

to add your email address to your profile so that others can email you, you need to:

Click CONTROL PANEL in the blue bar at the top of your screen

Click EDIT PROFILE in the middle of the bar at the top.

You should already have an email in the box but you need to make sure that SHOW MY EMAIL ADDRESS is selected.

After selecting it, click SUBMIT and your done!

Mom it looks like you did your just fine.

Kitt


olderwomenrule15
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   Posted 10/24/2008 5:39 PM (GMT -7)   
DO NOT GIVE UP!  I am new to this forum--in fact, you are my first post.  Please write back and we can chat!  I, too, am in a terrible depression.  We are not alone.  Thank goodness for this forum!  

stkitt
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   Posted 10/24/2008 5:49 PM (GMT -7)   

olderwomenrule15

Welcome to HealingWell.  I love your name.  Thank you for posting to Giving Up. I agree with you, she cannot give up as now that we have met her we want her in our lives.

We have a new members forum if you would like to do a short or long intro about yourself. We thrive on new members.

Welcome
Kitt


 

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givingup1977
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   Posted 8/18/2009 6:57 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear Everyone who has responded to me...I want you to know that I am alive and well...I have been seeking the treatment that I needed and have a good medication to assist me so I can be the best mom for my kids...It isn't about me anymore...and I felt that I was being selfish in letting the depression get me...so I challenge myself everyday...mostly I stay busy because the depressive thoughts are usually triggered by negative thoughts...so I am surrounding myself with optimistic people and living my life to the best of my ability every single day...I can say for once in a long time, I have found happiness...I hope that for all of you...I recommend doing things that you normally wouldn't do...I have really bad anxiety when it comes to talking in front of people....but I challenge myself to do something outside my comfort zone...and so I do Partylite shows...:)....so I have a crowd to talk in front of...I wish the best for everyone...thank you for caring at that time...and God Bless...

Tirzah
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   Posted 8/18/2009 8:09 AM (GMT -7)   
Up,
I am so glad to read that you are doing so much better. What an encouraging story. Thank you so much for sharing it. Please keep posting, if you're up for it, as we need all of the positive stories we can get. :)

peace & blessings,
Frances
Moderator -- Depression Forum


stkitt
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   Posted 8/18/2009 12:18 PM (GMT -7)   

GivingUp No More,

Your post brought tears to my eyes, tears of happiness for you.  You have battled depression and won.  You challenged yourself and gone outside your comfort zone, awesome.  Congratulations to you and what an awe inspiring post for all of us.

I am very proud of you.

May all your hopes and dreams come true.

Gentle Hugs
Kitt


 

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THE HAPPY TURTLE
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   Posted 8/20/2009 7:26 PM (GMT -7)   
hi giving up no more. i could not read your original post, but i read all the others- i want to say that you are very courages, i am so glad that you are seeking assistance. keep fightin' and posting. with loving compassion. jamie.
 
dx, mdd, severe borderline personality disorder.
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