Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
It feels to me like you are having anticipatory anxiety. You start worrying how anxious and upset your will feel when he is out.
Why the mind tends towards the negative rather than the positive is a mystery. Yet, there is no doubt that anticipatory anxiety is purely a mind game. You can win the game if you are aware of your thinking and able to challenge the irrational, unrealistic thinking and replace it with more realistic thinking. Realistic thinking is not necessarily positive thinking, it is more objective thinking sometimes called scientific thinking because it is based on evidence, not conjecture. So, next time you start to feel anxious, become a scientific thinker and examine the evidence. You may find yourself pleasantly surprised to find the source of your anxiety vanish like clouds dispersing after a storm.
Many years ago when I was home with 4 small kids and my hubby would be out on his motorcycle, I would anticipate all kinds of things which included him talking to young slim gals.
I have learned to trust him and not get into that mode anymore but I did some really dumb thing on some of those occasions so you are not alone......
You have us now to help you recognize the behavior for what it is and help you move forward.
Hello and welcome to HealingWell. You've come to the right place to find people that have a good idea of what you're going through. Please feel comfortable posting in the new members thread.
I hope some of the advice givn to Li helps you too.
Stay with us and know we care.Kitt
I think you have the right idea..........it will take practice but I have faith in you.
One of the best simple ways to deal with Anxiety is breathing. Simple things like inhale to your lungs full capacity, hold it, then exhale imagining all of the stress to leave your body with the air that is exhaled. Getting yourself to a quiet calm place is another way to help and be able to breathe. Imagining a beautiful scene in your mind, counting to 100, counting your breath and trying to slow it are all techniques that really do help.
Another way of dealing with Anxiety is to be proactive with it. Understand what your triggers are. Think about them. Maybe write them down and the reasons you feel that they are your triggers. Try and focus on solutions to these triggers to avoid it happening in the first place. Maybe even get a loved one to help.
You are family here so just vent away and ask for help.
We got you covered.