blingbabed123 Some one help me.

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stkitt
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   Posted 11/5/2008 9:27 AM (GMT -7)   
 Posted by blingbabed123
 
Please will some one give me some advice im 19years old and have a 1 year old .me and my partner broke up when she was 6months old cause i found out he cheated with my best m8, but a few month ago i started to miss him so much and hes so horrible to me and now to make it worse hes going out with a lass who has a 1year old to he never asks how his daughter is always out on the drink has his daughter when it suits him.. i started going out with one of him sorta m8s n everyone has gave us nothing but crap..all his m8s n family calling me fat im 10stone and i dont want to eat anymore its mekin me so deppresed its like i cant be happy but he can be ive been left with everything and get no respect just grief they spread a romour i was a slag i have been with 2 people in 3 years this isnt a slag is it? i just want my family back and all this to stop its wreking my life all this crap i get all the time people saying im a bad mum and a drugge. i h8 drugs!! i love my daughter so much im trying to do whats best for her...i still love my ex tho i think bowt him all the time and i aint a ugly lass i no im not but his new gf is so ugly and drinks all the time no one gives her crap i hardly ever go owt n shes owt 3days aweek i dont get y he would want her and not me..my life was great b4 this bt now im finding it so hard i realy cant sleep cant eat i dnt no what to do everyone keeps digging at me threatning to take me cort i aint done anything but try my hardest!!y does no 1 say hes a crap dad when im a full time mum at college i need help i dont want to crack.. i used to be happy as owt i had everything i ever wanted ..i reli dunno what to do???????


enWayen
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   Posted 11/6/2008 1:10 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej Blingbabed,

You are in a awful situation right now, but please try to see the other side of that as well. Do you know what Barack Obama answered when he was given the question: "Do you still want to become president while the USA is so f----- up right now?". Obama said, "Yes, especially now our nation lies in ruins, because now it is easier to change, they want to change." Whether you are Democrat, Republican, or not politically involved, there is a truth in what Obama said. If everything is going well to a certain point, people aren't willing to change. So you can use this situation to change into something you never even dreamed of.

It is hard to change on your own, so please see a counsellor, or a local support group if that is possible. They can be such a great help in getting your life back on tracks.

I can tell you a philosophy in which I believe in, something that can make you more joyful. For instance, a football match. When it is over, the winner team is happy, the losing team isn't. Which means the football match itself contains no emotional charge, else everyone would feel the same. No, it is our experience and thoughts and reactions to that situation that give the emotional charge. So what I try to say is, that all the joy there will ever be is already inside you. At the moment, you just need a situation to trigger it. BUT, it is possible to trigger it yourself. Imagine the result of being happy all the time, no matter what happens. And it ain't very hard to achieve, as long as you believe in it. It just takes some time for you to practise at finding your inner joy, and to get new insights in how to find it, and why it is true.
This way, you won't rely on external sources for your happiness, but it will be in the one place no one can ever take away, your inside.

But like I said, you have to believe you can do it, keep faith as often as you can, especially when you are feeling down. I can help you if you want.

Ow, and I am sorry if I wasted your time with this, some people find this a load of bullcrap :-).

All the best Bling, and remember you are a good mom if you are loving and trying, no matter what they say!
Erik
Acceptance is the key

The World is but a reflection. Smile, and it will smile back.

Try to keep smiling! :)


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   Posted 11/8/2008 4:18 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey there, How are you doing.  We are all here for you so keep talking to us.  We know what your going through.

On weekends it is a bit slower on the boards but please stay with us.

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