I am sorry your going through this. I went through a divorce many years ago where the divorcee was a horrible person. So everyone blamed me, the wife for not keeping her husband happy. Bahhh to that one. It takes 2 people to make a relationship.
No one knows what goes on behind closed doors and we don't have to. You stated "Now that I'm on my way to loving myself, she's holding me back by bringing up stuff."
No one can hold you back accept you. You are the one running your life and you cannot blame anyone else from keeping you from moving forward.
Do you have a therapist or have you been dx with depression? If not you should see your physician for a good check up and ask for help in getting through this tough time.
Take care and know we are here for you. We believe in you so you work on doing the same thing.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*
yes i was dxd with MDD around 2 weeks ago. I guess what i meant by her holding me back is that she was the one who left, and i'm well on my way to moving on, but then she pops up asking to see the dog, or get stuff back. She threw most of my stuff away in the dumpster, because i told her i was not going to the apartment to see her, i just told her leave my stuff ill pick it up when you leave. i along with my dad and brother had to go dumpster diving for direct tv cable boxes, but the other stuff, i let it go. its not worth it. from that day on i did not speak with her. i left my phone in the drawer, having my mom check for anything important. just so happened she called yesterday wanting to see one of the dogs and get the tv and the wii. i actually never want to see her or speak to her again.
that's part of my story. i am hoping that i already hit rock bottom and am on my way up.
Thank you for clarifying for me that you wanted her gone and you are working hard at getting yourself back together.
I have done in and actually more then once. You can do this as you have the one thing you need the most, the desire to get better and go on to live a wonderful, meaningful life.
Remember the bad times (but don't forget the good): If there are moments when you want to go back to her because you feel as though you can't survive on your own emotionally, you have to stay strong, Just think of the worst things she did or said to you.
Take care and we are all here for you.