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snowflake
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   Posted 11/19/2008 7:08 AM (GMT -7)   
cry  Today i lost a little friend .Those of you who know me have heard me talk of little Bart .
This afternoon he was put to sleep he broke his leg and it was not able to be fixed .
So now he is permantly sleeping .
This might seem much to a lot of you but where i am at the moment it`s almost the last straw .
You see my daughter was incharge of him and his little partener as i`m away recieving furthur treatment for cancer .
I`m so angry with my daughter for the lies she told me about the dog being untied and that the dog was chasing bart when she told me he was tied up all the time .
This sort of thing happens all the time in our home but today was the final straw i just can`t take it anymore .
My husband has not spoken to me in ages the family has fallen apart in varing degrees .
I just do not want o face anyof them but have no where to go .
Life really sucks and there just does not seem any point to anything ,
I know when i go home i will take my anger out on my daughter but not in a physical way it`s just not me .I want her to leave but know hubby would never kick her out eventhough there has been numerous threats .But he never follows through with any of his actions never has done so in the past .but i know one of us will leave and most probably it will be me but not in the way they would expect .
I just can`t do this anymore .
restless. cry cry cry

getting by
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   Posted 11/19/2008 9:58 AM (GMT -7)   
Jane,

You have got to hang on. I know that things are hard right now. But they will get better. Your daughter will move out in time. I am sure that eventually she will want to move due to her career, or even maybe meet a man that she wants to be with. Just don't give up.

We are here for you my friend, and you mean so much to us. So hang in there, keep going from day to day. And keep posting to us.

Please, remember we are your friends.

Luv and hugs Karen
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Confusedli
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   Posted 11/20/2008 3:07 AM (GMT -7)   
Restless,

Thats really sad about Bart. I don't know what kind of animal he was, but you must be really sad. So it must be hard to deal with the other stuff when you are already feeling bad.

I don't really know what you can do other then maybe get some space from your daughter & husband, by going for a walk or spending some time on your own when you feel upset.

I hope that you feel better soon
Confusedli
 
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enWayen
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   Posted 11/20/2008 4:32 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej Restless,

My thoughts are with you and Bart.
We will always be here for you.

Please take care!
Knuffel, Erik
Acceptance is the key

The World is but a reflection. Smile, and it will smile back.

Try to keep smiling! :)


snowflake
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   Posted 11/20/2008 5:18 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks everyone yesterday was a really bad day for me in so many ways .
Then to hear about bart ( who was a tiny joey that came to me when his mother was hit by a car he was so tiny i didn`t give him much of a chance but he defied the odds .He was such a lovely little joey and to loose him now was so devistated to hear this when i was away .)
I have been away from ome for a few days and feel so exhausted i just want to stop everything to lie down and just sleep not wake up .

Tomorrow i have to return home again as the daughter with me wants to be home to collect her parteners kids .it just makes things so rushed as now we have to leave here by 6am and the trip home if about 8hrs driving .
the next time i`m coming on my own i don`t care if i make it or not i want to do something when i want to do it not be dictated to by someone else .She could of got someone else to pick up the kids so i was not so rushed but hey we might not even make it time will tell .
The drs want me back here in three weeks things snot going so good but i really don`t care anymore as long as i can take the morphine it`s ok i can put up witht he pain .Nothing at home is ever going to change i know that .
restless
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getting by
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   Posted 11/20/2008 5:35 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jane,

I am glad that the morphine is working for you so that you can get out and do things. I know that you love your garden, and it is great to hear that you are able to go out and work in it.

I am so sorry about your joey. It is such a shame. I hope that this doesn't happen again.

I have a dog that is part australian cattledog. Do you happen to know the difference between a Queensland healer and a Blue healer, or are they the same? Just wondering.

I hope that you are having a good day.

Talk to you again soon.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 11/20/2008 9:42 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning Sweet Jane,

Of course I know who Bart was.  I still laugh at the stories of the joeys sneaking up and kicking your hubby in the tush.  I am sorry your sweet Bart is gone and I know he was your comfort.

Next trip leave daughter at home and go the day before.  Take your time.  Take many breaks and perhaps even stay over somewhere.

Also plan for some time away while you are there.  Find a nice clean facility where you might feel comfortable walking a bit, watching the tele and just not having any responsibilities.

I feel like you are being run over by everyone at home and it has to stop.  Do not offer yourself up as their sacrifice.

Get out and do things for you and kick your daughter out of your bed.  A joey would make a beter bed mate.

Love

Kitt


 

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snowflake
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   Posted 11/21/2008 9:48 PM (GMT -7)   
I returned home yesterday what a trip the only good thing was as i was driving along i saw a Koala walking along the road side .It was something i would never of expected to see .But there he was i stopped the car and went back to take some photos he was amazing and to see him free was such a great feeling .
I was frightened that a car would come along and run over him so we escorted him for twenty minutes until he came to the nearest tree .where he sat beneath it just so tired he looked over at us and then climbed the tree .I have some lovely pictures of him .Was so lovely.
Then when i returned home i was disguisted to see the state of my nice clean home that i had only left a few days earlier i just wanted to walk away and believe me was so tempted.
Today i have washed all day and am still washing .I have cleaned up all day while hubby did the lawns but these two lazy bloody kids have done nothing at all so i`m not doing anything for them at all .I really don`t care what happens anymore .
Poor little Maggies is just so frieghtened with Bart not there she stresses out so much now ,but have decided not to look after anymore while my daughter is living here .I even released the little bird i have been caring for for the past few weeks he is ok flying around with the other birds out where he came from .No more animals now i`m not going to argue and the anger i have towards my daughter is really effecting how i feel about a lot of things and i`m sure the problems i am having with hubby are a result of the anger .
My face is in so much pain atm the specialist burnt the inside of my nose with some acid .he did use local anesthetic but as i told him it does not work on me and it was just so painful .I`m going to lie down for a bit as soon as i finish the washing i`m just so tired all the time .
The weather has turned pretty cool here with these extreeme weather conditions this country has been experiencing for the past few weeks .Buti would prefer the cooler weather to the hot anyday .
Kitt poor Bart is gone and i feel so down because of it and everything .I think back to the last week when i went outside to find one of the little goats that i hand reared i found it standing ontop of the shed i have no idea how it got up there as there is no way it could climb .When i called it it just jumped off and ran over to me .Hubby said he saw how she did it he had watched her only hours earlier it was just so funny to see.Well my youngest lad today came home with another little goat he put it in the yard with my other three but then my daughter had to go up there and the new little jumped over the fence and ran away she just can`t stay away and not interfeer with other peoples things,he is going to be so mad when he gets home .
Well i had better go as the washing machine has just stopped and i have a few more loads to go before the day is over .
Restless
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getting by
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   Posted 11/21/2008 10:04 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Jane,

Seems like your daughter just can't stay to herself. I hope the little goat comes home.

How have you been? I have been okay. I got all of my wreaths just about done. Then I have to find another project to start or I will go crazy. I am hoping to ski this winter, cross country. If I ski, I feel warm throughout the winter, if I don't, I freeze.

Are you going to have to have other procedures done on your face? I hope that they aren't too painful. Is it a long way to where you get the procedures done?

That koala bear sounded cute. That would be so neat to see. I am glad that you had a camera on you.

I hope that you have a great day.

Hugs, Karen
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enWayen
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   Posted 11/22/2008 5:01 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej Jane,

It must have been wonderful to see the Koala. I would love to see those pictures one day. This might sound like a stupid question, but you live in Australia right? My friend is there now for another 5 months.

We just might need to switch places :-). I woke up and all around me was snow, like a thick white blanket. But I prefer the warmer weather, the 25 degrees Celsius or more weather.

Jane, keep talking to us, and have a wonderful day!
Knuffel! Erik
Acceptance is the key

The World is but a reflection. Smile, and it will smile back.

Try to keep smiling! :)


snowflake
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   Posted 11/22/2008 9:06 PM (GMT -7)   
Sorry to everyone here but i`m not going to post anymore this will be my last post .
My daughter has found this site through searching the history on the other computer and now repeats everything i write .I just will not let her do it to me again .
Thanks for all your help but sadly i have to say good bye .
To all those who have replyed to my posts it has been a safe e place for me to come and vent over the time i have been a member i just want to say thank you for everything .
Take care .This has been a wonderful site to come into .
Restless
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getting by
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   Posted 11/23/2008 11:30 AM (GMT -7)   
Restless,

I am so sorry, I will get ahold of you via email or facebook. Unless she is getting into that too. You don't deserve this. You are a wonderful person and you deserve some privacy. I think your daughter has a lot of growing up to do and I hope that she reads this.

I am so sorry,

LUv and hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 11/23/2008 12:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Jane,

How about Momma has a brand new name and start posting in different forum....................

If you would like I will come down and help you teach the goats and the joeys how to kick your realatives butt. skull

Your place is here with us.  You can go into your profile and change your user name and anything else you want to edit.

We cannot this  person take away what helps you.

Love

Stkitt


 

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