Sick of always worrying

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Confusedli
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   Posted 11/24/2008 9:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey Guys,
 
Everything is going so great for me at the minute, I feel like my relationship is finally coming togther, my job is good, I have nothing to be sad about. Yet I am always worrying, thinking about what might go wrong, like today I was worrying about when me & my boyfriend are going to see each other at christmas - it's like 4 weeks away and it's really bothering me, I constantly stress about trivial rubbish & it is so so tiring!  I think it is rooted in insecurity to be honest, but I don't know where to start in eradicating that - apart from talking to my counsellor which I am doing, and it's helping - but not enough!! I just want to be able to relax for a change & take life as it comes, but I never can!
 
anyway just needed a little rant!
 
Li
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getting by
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   Posted 11/24/2008 11:25 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Li,

I think that you are doing a lot better with not worrying than you use to do. A whole lot better. So I think this is just a little anticipation anxiety, and I think that you can get it under control. Take each day as it comes. I know that you will have a wonderful Christmas with your boyfriend. So No Worries.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 11/24/2008 3:49 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Li,

I think you may have a bit of anticipatory anxiety.

Anticipatory Anxiety

Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.

Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying

Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties

Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue

Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.

Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.

Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.

Make an effort to stay focused on what's happening now. What do you see, hear, and smell? How do you feel? Truly be 'present' in the moment! That will help you keep the anxiety down.

Most people with depression have some anxiety as they go together so well. :(

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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Confusedli
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   Posted 11/25/2008 3:06 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks,

I think sometimes it's because I get bored at work, I have to much time to think about stupid things. So I think I need to try & fill my time at work a bit more!! I might try bringing my ipod to work aswell as if I have music in my head then I probably won't have so many thoughts!

I try to realistic self talk & I end up with like 2 voices in my head arguing with each other!!! But at least that is better than blindly listening to the irrational one!
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


getting by
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   Posted 11/25/2008 9:07 AM (GMT -7)   
I think you are right on Li, keeping your mind busy is the best thing. You have gotten a grip on this, just keep practicing.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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Thomas2
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   Posted 12/5/2008 10:59 AM (GMT -7)   
I too worry all the time, and have too much time to think, I have found a way, at least for me to not think about things so much. When I am alone some where, any where I can I listen to music even sing along, although I am not real good. It has help me not to worry so much and keep my mind off bad things...maybe give it a try...see if it works for you sounds like a simple thing but has helped a lot!

Mazfire
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   Posted 12/5/2008 12:49 PM (GMT -7)   

 

 

                                                  'Sick of always worrying'

 

                                              couldnt have said it better myself.

 

                 Peace, love and blessings headed your way. i hope you get through this rough patch.

                                                                Maz XX
            'He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.' (Psalm 147:3)                  
 
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