Holiday's are not so "Merry"...Disaster!

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Bailey2008
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   Posted 11/25/2008 2:46 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Everyone,
 
I'm SO sorry that I've not posted for a while.  I want to reply to all of the wonderful folks here who supported me and encouraged me regarding my last post re: "Anticipatory Grief - Very Scared."  Again, many of you here know most of my story, and I don't want to make this post too long.  Last week, and the week before, I was having some pretty bad 'female" problems.  I was bleeding badly for over three weeks.  Just in the past 2 days, it seems to be taking a break.  I was getting lightheaded and was totally exhausted from becoming pretty anemic.  Everytime I lift anything even remotely heavy, like groceries, or go out an run errands, like picking up prescriptions, getting my own groceries, etc... I have MAJOR problems and the bleeding and pain become too much to handle.  I tried to come here and touch base, but was too ill.  I've missed all of you!
 
There's always a crisis where I'm living, with my mom and stepdad.  Now that the Holiday's are near, the dysfunction and oppressive depression, negativity and tension in this house has tripled!!!  I used to love Christmas, and I still do love it for "the real reason for celebrating Christmas", but since my grandmother died years ago, each Christmas has gotten worse and more depressing.  My mom really tries to make things nice.  My stepfather is a HUGE problem.  Last year I got him a few gifts, as I've always done, and he opened them, did not say thankyou, and then on Christmas morning, he got up and left the room and went to bed, not saying a word to me or my mom.  There is no-one else but the three of us.  It was so incredibly hurtful.  Before last year's Xmas, things were bad also, but I kept trying.  I try to get him (and both parents) nice things that they can use, and my stepdad has been getting more mean, ungreatful and down right nasty.  Of course it really hurts me, but what I can't handle is seeing how badly it affects my mom.  She'll just start to drink alcohol. 
 
Now there's the issue of weather to put up the Christmas tree or not.  If we don't, it will be the first year ever that we've not had any christmas decorations, and would not be doing the tree together.  We used to make a nice day out of it.  I've already been TOLD that I "better not get him anything!!!"  I'm not going to.  But, growing up with violence since I was 3-4 years old, I've become the peacemaker.  It's a very sad sad time how for my mom and as usual, my sdad is acting so cruel.
 
Then there's the stepsister issue.  She no longer will come to this house to see her father.  She never liked coming here anyway b/c of what she calls, "the Oppressive Negativity" in this house.  She's emotionally stronger than I am, and can say "no"...She's the only one that my sdad will talk to and be nice to, even though she's not nice to him...and has stolen from all of us here, etc... 
 
I just know Christmas morning is going to come and it's going to be so sad!  The bit about Christmas is but only one of the many problems going on here...but I needed to vent about it.  I still must get out of this house and find a place to live that will take my puppy too.  He's all I have that makes me happy and I love him so much.  I need help.  I know things are very hard for everyone, and I'm praying for you all!  I thank God I have all of you to come to and to vent to.
 
God Bless you all,
Kathy K.
 
Thank you ALL so much for being here
Fibromyalgia, Myofacial Pain Syndrome, RSD-CRPS, 11 herniated discs w/ multiple pinched spinal nerves, Osteoarthritis, TMJ, Sleep Apnea, CFS, Narcolepsy, Hypothyroidism, Asthma, Insulin Resistance, Major Depression, Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, Bilateral Peripheral Neuropathy (cause unknown)...LONELINESS & POVERTY (lol...)

Other than the above, I'm in great shape!


Aurora60
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   Posted 11/25/2008 5:14 PM (GMT -7)   

Dear Bailey,  Not sure of what to call you as you used to post as Willow, now you are signing as Kathy K.  Which is your name?  Now that we have that over,(please do answer that question) your posts are all so similar.  I know you are in a very bad place.  First of all you need to have the bleeding checked out.  It could be something serious or maybe you have fibroids that cause a lot of bleeding.  That should be your first thing to take care of.  Next,  you need to go to the HUD website that Kitt gave you.  It is a wealth of information and probably a way out of your home situation.  If you are supporting your parents then their income cannot be considered as yours.  I somehow get the feeling you listen to advice given you but you do not follow through with the suggestions.  I do not live near you. otherwise I would come and get you and get you out of that house and help you get your own place.  We can only give you so much advice, the rest is up to you.  You need to check out as many resources as you can possibly find.  There are so many out there. And you have a computer and can look up all these things.  I am sorry Christmas will be sad for you.  Isn't there at least one friend you can call to get together with?  If your step father doesn't want to put up a tree then why don't you and your mother do it?  You do seem to get around and you must drive if you go to the grocery store and do errands.  I do hope you will forgive me for sounding so harsh but your reality is very harsh.  And unfortunately you are the only one who can pull yourself out of it.  If you go to SSI or low income housing they truly cannot count your parents income and house as yours because you are paying them and essentially supporting them. So your income should be the only one to consider.  You must tell these people that fact.  And you need to alert someone that you have been abused.  Maybe it is time to get the police involved. I don't care what your step father thinks.  He has treated you horribly and it is time someone knows about it.  I have one other idea for you where you might find friends. You mentioned that your mother has started drinking.  There must be an al-anon group in your area that you could go to.  They are accepting of everyone and you will meet people and may find some friends and help. I truly hope you will try to find help for yourself.  What is your option? To live like this forever? I am sorry for being so straight forward with you.  I truly want to see you have a better life - I know it is possible.  Please keep posting, I know you need the support and I will always answer you.

Gentle Hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 11/25/2008 5:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Willow AKA Kathy A,

I think that Aurora is making a lot of sense. You have to advocate for yourself. We are here to help you with suggestions and advice, but you do have to try to do something about your situation.

Another thing I would like to add is that you are projecting negativity in your thoughts. You mustn't look at it like it is going to be a bad situation before it gets here. Know that even though it hasn't been the best situation in the past, that it could be good this time around. Though it seems like your good intentions are not recognized. Maybe it would be better if you didn't buy gifts if they are not going to be appreciated. I know that you would like to do something nice, maybe it would be better if you volunteered at a church organization or a soupline.

I hope that you feel better and that we have helped you some.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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Aurora60
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   Posted 11/25/2008 6:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi again Willow, Karen has made some very good points.  There must be a church near you where you can go for Christmas Eve services.  That would be a way to lift your spirits.  Also, if there is a soup kitchen or some organization where you can give a few hours of your time on Christmas I think that would make the day better for you. I have volunteered at a soup kitchen and I can assure you it really puts things in perspective when you are feeding hungry, homeless people.Look for places to volunteer in your area.  You could find out about these possibly from your library or chamber of commerce or if you have a township office.  So many places are in need of volunteers it might be a good thing to do on other days too.  It would get you out of the house.  And then you can start to think more positively.  The more you do the more people you will meet.  And it could open up all kinds of things for you.  I know you have a lot of pain but helping others can take your mind off of yourself. Even going to the library to sit and read would be a fun thing to do. Most libraries have some comfortable chairs where you can sit and just browse through the books and look at the magazines.  They even have all of the newspapers to read.  I know as I used to work in a library. I personally volunteer at my local Senior Center.  I have made so many interesting friends and the Seniors love to talk to me, I think because I am much younger. I work the reception desk so I see everyone coming and going and direct people to their classes or appointments or give tours of the building.  I always feel so good after I have finished my shift for the day. These are just suggestions but they are simple ways to get away for awhile and get away from your home stress.  I hope you will consider this.  Sending you my prayers and hope to hear from you.

Gentle hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 11/25/2008 7:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Aurora has made some very good suggestions. I hope that you take them into consideration.

We all hope that you feel better and that your holiday season is what you are hoping for.

You can do this, I know that you can. And we are here to support you through your ventures. This could be the beginning of something good.

hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 11/25/2008 9:13 PM (GMT -7)   

Hello Willow,

I am sorry things are still rough for you but you are the one that has to take care of you.  I think it is time for me to start my holiday thread.  You are not aone in how you feel about the holidays but you are the one that can make changes in how you feel about it.

Why are you doing things that you know will hurt you and you will get kick in the teeth by your stepdad?  Donate the money you would spend on him to a charity of your choice. Don't expect him to be loving and caring.  All you doing is proving your right, your feelings get hurt and he does not give a hoot.

If he is mistreating your Mom then call your county  services to report your Mom as an vulnerable adult.

We down sized from a big tree to a very small tree as now we go to our children's houses.............and they have big houses. We are still happy.

Please do call HUD and put some work into helping yourself.  We support you but rewriting the same posts over and over to you is not helping you, it is only enabling you to continue to remain stuck in one place.

Bless you

Kitt


 

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Bailey2008
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   Posted 11/25/2008 10:28 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Everyone,

Thank you all so much for your honesty and guidance.  I've been involved in al-anon and ACOA for 20 years.  I used to get to meetings at least three times a week.  I will look into the Hud housing...it sounds like a good idea.  I'm on the list for the County's Housing Assistance for over three years and still there has been no openings.  I keep in touch with them regularly.  I only need an efficiency, but at this point I could not move w/out taking my puppy Bailey with me.  He's such a sweetheart and he really is the only good thing in my life.

Oh...My real name is Kathy.  I was using the name "Willow" for a computer name for anonimity.  Sorry for the confusion.

I do get out a lot.  Unfortunately, it's not for myself.  I've kind of gotten myself stuck in the 'caretaker' role.  If I don't go for groceries, many times we'll go without.  My mom and stepdad are not the type of people who would ever accept any help from the outside and they don't have visitors anymore.  My mom doesn't like having people in her house and many won't enter b/c of the intensity of cig smoke. I've lost friends b/c of my sdad's crude sexual comments toward any female friends I've had here.  I've stopped inviting anyone into this house b/c I know I'll lose that friend.  Unfortunately I've had too much experience in that area.  I need a friend desperately.  I have tried many many times to move away, even leaving the State 3+ times. For reasons beyond my control, I ended up back here.  I have no other family at all.  My real father was my best friend and my rock.  I was going to live with him when my health got too bad for me to work, but he died.  I found him dead on the second morning I was there.  I hadn't even unpacked my things.  Having no place else to go, I found myself back here where I grew up, with my mom and sdad.  When I go out it's usually later in the afternoon's or evening, when the pain is a bit more manageable.  I usually end up sitting in my car for at least 45 minutes to an hour or more, before being able to drive to my next destination, b/c of the pain.  I sit and wait until I feel that I can get into the store, pharmacy, etc... and use eyedrops to try and hide the red eyes I've gotten from crying b/c of the pain and the depression.  It's not easy for me to get out, but I'll never stop trying as long as it's safe for me to drive.  I keep stretching and moving and won't give up, no matter how bad the pain is.  It's embarrassing when people come up to me in the grocery store and ask if I'm okay b/c they see that I'm sweating badly, having trouble breathing and leaning heavily on the cart, b/c the pain gets to be just too much to handle.  I've been to the emergency room for help, but was not able to sit until my name would have been called.  I wait usually 4 hours and then can't take it anymore before I must lay down...first in my car, and then when I'm able, I try to get home fast as I can, safely, and go back to using the ice packs/heating pad, and just praying hard to God to make the pain stop.  I've also told my doctor about the bleeding/female problems.  He told me that "even if they did find something wrong, that I could not afford to get proper treatment..."  I know he's right b/c I've witnessed this kind of thing all too many times when I was a nurse.  My faith is strong though and I believe the Promises in the Bible, where Jesus say's that; "He will never give us more than we can handle...", My favorite is:  "I will never leave you, nor forsake you."  I apologize if I've offended anyone here by speaking about my beliefs in my Higher Power.  My faith is all I have left.

I swear to God on the Bible that I have tried to get Medical Assistance, Food Stamps, etc... 3-4 times and each time I've been denied.  The DPA worker denied me each time, telling me that I was over the income limit b/c they honestly DO count my parents income against me.  In PA, the Dept. of Public Assistance's criteria for giving one help, goes by the income of "all of the people living in the same household."  If there is another way I can get around that rule, I'd be more than greatful for any link/documentation/etc... where it says something/anything, where I could fight their decision. 

The decision about the Christmas tree has been made by my mom.  Things got pretty bad here earlier today.  They have a beautiful artificial christmas tree, but it's become too heavy for my stepdad to get down from the attic and my mom can't do it.  It's just too heavy, and now my mom is getting to the point where she doesn't want to celebrate at all.  My mom and I do exchange gifts, but I will not be getting anything at all for my sdad.  Not to be ugly, but he's already warned us not to get him anything and we won't b/c he just gets ugly.  There's no reason for me to call the police.  The abuse is no longer physical.  It's severe emotional abuse.  I have already called the County's Women in Crisis number, but was told that they're so busy they can only help the women who have been being beaten by their spouses, boyfriends, etc...  I just need help to get away from the emotional abuse and also need better control over the chronic pain and depression.

I apologize for my posts being similar.  I thank God for the computer.  It's my connection to the outside world.  I guess I've rambled a lot huh?  I just need to vent, and I do take all of the guidance and advice seriously and I am trying hard to help myself.  I just need strength, a major decrease in the pain so I can carry through with your wonderful suggestions, and really need friends. 

I hope everyone here is doing okay.  My thoughts and prayers are with you all!

Thank you all so much,

Kathy K.

 


Fibromyalgia, Myofacial Pain Syndrome, RSD-CRPS, 11 herniated discs w/ multiple pinched spinal nerves, Osteoarthritis, TMJ, Sleep Apnea, CFS, Narcolepsy, Hypothyroidism, Asthma, Insulin Resistance, Major Depression, Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, Bilateral Peripheral Neuropathy (cause unknown)...LONELINESS & POVERTY (lol...)

Other than the above, I'm in great shape!


Bailey2008
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   Posted 11/26/2008 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi again Everyone. I'd like to apologize for "posting the same thing over and over again." I 'thought' HW was a place I could come to for support, caring & kindness. I appreciate all eveyone here has to offer. Is ANYONE else here TOTALLY ALONE in this world? If I go to the ER and they ask who contact in case of emergecy, I have not one person to list. I wld pray that no one else would ever be in a situation of being utterly alone in this world. Maybe I've come to the wrong support board. Having to live 24/7 with excruciating pain, maybe I should stick to that support forum. I'm not asking for pity & certainley not for someone else to handle my life for me. I was just hoping to find the comfort of understanding & support. I've been 100% honest w/ everyone here when I relay that I "have done...have gone through all of the steps, that everyone has suggested to me. I'm NOT lying abt "the Dept.. of Public Assistance holding my parents income against me since I live w/ them." If anyone wants to beleive that I'd lie about soomething like that, I don't know what to say.
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I hope this reply has not caused hard feelings! I didn't mean for it to.

I hope everyone is well and of course I'll continue to pray for you all.

God Bless,
Willow (aka: Kathy)
Fibromyalgia, Myofacial Pain Syndrome, RSD-CRPS, 11 herniated discs w/ multiple pinched spinal nerves, Osteoarthritis, TMJ, Sleep Apnea, CFS, Narcolepsy, Hypothyroidism, Asthma, Insulin Resistance, Major Depression, Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, Bilateral Peripheral Neuropathy (cause unknown)...LONELINESS & POVERTY (lol...)

Other than the above, I'm in great shape!


Aurora60
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   Posted 11/26/2008 3:51 PM (GMT -7)   

Bailey, your post suggests that you are feeling bad about the replies you are getting.  No one here is by any means trying to hurt you.  I understand you have a lot of pain and are very lonely.  But if you did have to go to the ER you know you have contacts.  You have your Mother and you have a stepsister.  In a dire emergency I cannot believe they wouldn't respond to you.  I feel I have given you a lot of ideas and suggestions. I just don't know what else to tell you.  And it seems that no matter what I tell you, you still do not do any of the things we have suggested.  Have you truly contacted HUD?  Don't you have a church where you can go and talk to a minister?  You said you used to go to al-anon.  Why not go back?  The truth is we can't do the actual work it takes for you to find your own place.  You are the only one who can do that.  I went through a terrible time in my life when my son, who has epilepsy had uncontrollable seizures.  I had just finished cancer treatments.  So I wasn't feeling too good.  But I went through every thing I could find out about epilepsy, found a new neurologist, contacted the Epilepsy Foundation and found an epilepsy counselor on how to handle our situation.  I even found a place that has a group home where he could move to if something were to happen to me.  What I am saying is that I exhausted all the possibilities I could think of and find, including looking at all the info on the internet.  I'm sure you have heard the saying "God helps those who help themselves."  If you want to improve your situation you have to be very proactive and really get out and find anything that will help you.  It does you no good to feel bad but not take any actions.  You have only mentioned one place you have tried.  Keep askiing - one thing leads to another and another.I know your mother, in her heart truly loves you.  You do have a roof over your head, food, and a sweet puppy.  Please don't be angry at any of us who have tried to help you.  This is a very caring group of people and they have helped me more than I can say and I am truly grateful.  Please don't abandon us.  We do care. You will be very proud of yourself if you can make some small changes. Nothing happens overnight.  Just take it one step at a time.  And please keep posting here as all of us are very concerned about your well being. I know you came here for support and understanding and I think many of us have listenend and supported you.

Many hugs,

Aurora


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   Posted 11/26/2008 4:51 PM (GMT -7)   
To be honest, I don't really know what to say. I feel that we have been trying to offer suggestions. That and advice is all that we can do, other than keep you in our thoughts and prayers. We can't change your situation and we can't counsel. We can hope for the best and be here for you. We can also try to understand. I know that the holidays are hard. They are hard for everybody. And the economy is bad. I imagine that you are getting impatient with your situation. But all that you can do is look for another place and try to make the best of things until you can do so.

Aurora is a pretty sharp cookie. I think that she has offered the best advice that she can as well as Kitt. I on the other hand probably haven't been as much support because I don't know all of the resources. I think what is being said, is that even though it isn't, it seems like you should be able to say that you are renting and are a tenant. Maybe because it is family, you can't do that. But it just seems like it is an unfair system. Being that you are the only one in the family that is trying to get some assistance, and you have finances such as bills, rent, food, you should be eligible for some help. But we believe you when you say that you can't. Hopefully things will free up soon. Hopefully there will be more programs, places to move to and jobs. We just have to hope for the best.

There are programs for medication help and doctor bills, but they don't always tell you about them. That was the situation with our family. But fortunately somebody clued us into some things, and sure enough the progams were there. Here it was called tencon. That meant it was a program for ten counties.

So Bailey, I really don't think that anybody was trying to hurt you. We were just offering help in the only way that we know how. But you do have to inquire, and bug people. Ask questions and then ask more, because they are not going to offer any information. And what they give you in one respect, they take away from you in another. It is really tough to get ahead.

I offered advice about not buying gifts for your sdad, because he isn't going to appreciate it. He is only going to make your holiday suck. So ignore him. As long as you are living under their roof, you are going to have to put up with their lives. And the way that they are use to doing things. Do you pay rent? If you pay rent, then there are different rules. Such as drawing up some contract distinguishing what the rules are. Do you contribute food? You should be able to eat what you want, but you will have to cook it and clean up the mess. So there has to be give and take here. It isn't always going to be pleasant, but it is a place to live until you find something else. You may have to put up with some things that you don't like. Or just go with the flow. Try to anticipate that it will be a good holiday. Maybe not the best. But figure if there isn't any arguments, that is good.

I hope that I am not sounding harsh, but I only know what I read. And can only respond with the advice that I see fit. I am not a counselor, just a person like you with depression. Donating my time to try to help others.

I hope that you too have a happy holiday. And I hope that you stay with us, but you should do what you feel is right for you.

Hugs, Karen
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ryn
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   Posted 11/29/2008 2:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Kathy,
I am new here, I have just come in occasssionally since I joined and I think this is the first time I have posted here.
Your story reminds me of when I was a kid. I was in much the same situation as you. I don't know how old you are I was only in the seventh grade. My 'salvation' came in the form of a school counselor that talked to me about my missing so much school. I had already missed 36 days and it was not even Christmas vacation yet. I would lie and say I was sick but when I was in her office that day I finally broke down and told her about how my mom was drunk most of the time and I just didn't care if I was in school or not. Social Services took me away from her and I went to live with my aunt. Losing me was what finally made my mom turn her life around she started going to church and alcoholism treatment. Everybody has to have their own reason and desire to change their circumstances. Everyone has to make their own choices. I do think that depression is hereditary, my mom was very depressed that is the reason she drank. I have relatives on my dad's side also that were very depressed, one commited suicide and others have problems with alcoholism. It sounds to me like your mom and sdad also have a problem with depression. Kathy you need to get help for yourself to get out of the depression and also medical help. Have you ever contacted a depression treatment center? I don't know what your state offers in crisis counseling but I do know that if you contact them and tell them you are in crisis they have to help you. If you tell them your story and your financial problems and your medical conditions the least they can do is give you contacts for the help that is available in your area. I still have problems with depression I probably always will, they say it is a chemical imbalance. I still have not found the right formula of antidepressants to help, but I keep trying. I have been in treatment 3 times so I do know that they will help you if you are in crisis. Good luck Kathy I will be praying for you too. .... Ryn
Ryn


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   Posted 11/29/2008 9:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Ryn,

You have given Bailey some very good advice. I am sorry for what you have gone through but it sounds like you are getting a grip on your depression.

I want to welcome you to HealingWell. I am so happy that you have joined us. Keep posting as we are all here for you.

I hope that you have a wonderful day.

Hugs, Karen
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   Posted 11/29/2008 4:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Kathy,

Hello, this is Kitt.  It feels to me that your situation and depression is seated in your emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse is the most common form of abuse - & yet least talked about. Part of the reason it is so easy for people to overlook is that so that much of what is considered normal & acceptable forms of communication is in fact abusive. Many people don't know that they have been - or are being - emotionally abused. In addition, a lot of emotional abuse doesn't appear to be severe or dramatic, although its effects can be.

Emotional abuse is a series of repeated incidents - whether intentional or not - that insults, threatens, isolates, degrades, humiliates and/or controls another person.

It may include a pattern of one or more of the following abuses: insults, criticisms, aggressive demands or expectations, threats, rejection, neglect, blame, emotional manipulation & control, isolation, punishment, terrorizing, ignoring, or teasing.

Emotional abuse cuts to the core of a person, attacking their very being. Emotional abuse, if frequent enough, is usually internalized by the victim & leaves them feeling fearful, insignificant, unworthy, untrusting, emotionally needy, undeserving & unlovable & as if they were bad, deserving of punishment & to blame.

Survivors of emotional abuse often have a hard time understanding why they feel so bad.

The abuse may not sound like much & often people around them will minimize the experience, telling them it's not so bad. But a climate of disregard for a person's feelings, where one is subjected to constant or frequent criticisms, being yelled at, or being ignored - has a deep & profound effect, attacking the very self-image & confidence of a person.

Tell someone what is happening to you.

• Recognize that the abuse is not your fault.

• Try to see yourself as others do—not as the abuser does.

• If you attend school, seek out support from a teacher or school counselor.

• Stay in touch with friends and family members who reinforce a positive image of you.

• Find a safer environment if threats increase or you fear for your safety or well being.

Make an appointment with social services and make sure they know about your abuse. Explain your parents lifestyle, the exposure to the smoking and how your s-father  uses sexual comments in front of your friends.

 Your signature includes all of the following dx: Fibromyalgia, Myofacial Pain Syndrome, RSD-CRPS, 11 herniated discs w/ multiple pinched spinal nerves, Osteoarthritis, TMJ, Sleep Apnea, CFS, Narcolepsy, Hypothyroidism, Asthma, Insulin Resistance, Major Depression, Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, Bilateral Peripheral Neuropathy (cause unknown)..

Contact the advoctes for these dx and ask for help.

Call Hud, get on every list you can for help.  They are out there you just have to look for them and never give up.

You are not alone, we are here to support you but I am going to ask you to please start working on finding help and letting us know who you have contacted and the response you got.

What you find out may help others in your situation.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt


 

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