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   Posted 11/25/2008 9:18 PM (GMT -7)   
How to Beat Holiday Stress.  Everyone join in and contribute your thoughts, practices and how you will make 2008 a peaceful Holiday Season.
 
When you have depression you need to really take care of yourself and ask your family and partner to stand by you for support. 
 
Preparing feasts, attending parties and shopping obsessively can place even the most even-keeled under pressure. rolleyes

Later this month, many will begin preparing holiday feasts, attending parties and shopping obsessively for the perfect presents, all while counting blessings and enjoying the company of family and friends.

Millions will also spend it focused on reducing stress instead of spreading cheer.

From long lines to even longer lists, there are numerous opportunities to become mired in holiday strain, but experts say it can be overcome by tailoring festivities to your liking, as opposed to mimicking the grandiose displays reflected .

It's easy to get caught up in the enthusiasm of the holidays. However, if you don't take time for yourself, you'll quickly get burnt out and stressed out. Give yourself the gift of "alone" time. Fifteen minutes of solitude, without any distractions, may refresh you enough to handle the tasks at hand. Take a walk, listen to calming music, or meditate, or as I do, come here and post your feelings and thoughts as this is your private spot.

I have given up guilt and found I feel oh so much better during the holidays.  Bakers Square makes good pies and so it goes.  I cooked the huge meal every Christmas for 32 years and then I decided it is my family I was to spend time with not who makes the best green bean
casserole.

Share with us ways to remain in the moment during the holidays.

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   Posted 11/26/2008 6:37 AM (GMT -7)   
My holiday stress comes from shopping. And this year we don't have a lot of money. But those grandkids expect something from Santa.

I am a last minute shopper, yeah me. Often the prices are better, but they run out of the cool things. But I finally told mysself, "what is the worst thing that could happen?" The worst thing is that the gifts are late, well that just stretches things out and makes it seem longer for the kids. How many do you think would be happy to receive something after Christmas. I think a lot of them would. It would make the holiday seem longer.  Plus they remember that gift that much more. So no worries here, if I am late, it is better late than never. Plus there are huge sales.

I hope you all have a stress free holiday.

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Aurora60
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   Posted 11/26/2008 12:27 PM (GMT -7)   

I usually get the holiday blues but I have learned ways to beat the bad feelings.  First of all most of us are in much better shape than those who have lost their homes whether it be from hurricanes, mortgage meltdown or fires.  Think of those poor people who truly have lost everything.  It puts things in perspective.  The economy is bad so we all have to scale back. I have only my 2 sons so that makes it easier at least for gifts.  And I have told them we are only having a few gifts this year and I will fix a nice dinner and we will enjoy our tree and all of the decorations.  I am always alone on Xmas Eve but I have learned to get by.  I sit by my tree, pick up something special to eat and watch some Xmas movies on TV.  I am finding this good down time for me without all the rush to ger somewhere I don't really want to be and I don't have to get dressed up.  So it is possible to turn a situation around for the better.  Think of the poor and homeless who have to stand in line for a holiday meal and how much they appreciate this.  I have volunteered at a soup kitchen so I know how much these people need and appreciate what we do for them.  Most of all, thank God for the blessings we have.Do just one thing for someone else less fortunate and you will benefit so much more.

Aurora


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   Posted 11/26/2008 1:11 PM (GMT -7)   
That was so well put Aurora,

We do need to think of others less fortunate than ourselves. The situation seems to be getting so bad lately, that I am just thankful that I have a good husband and a roof over my head.

I remember many a holidays that we didn't have anything. One time a friend of mine asked me what I got for Christmas and I had to make something up because we just didn't have the money for the holidays. I don't know why I didn't just tell her the truth of the matter. I guess that I was embarrassed.

There are so many people without homes, who got flooded, or like you said they lost their house in a fire. Mortgage problems, it is so sad. And working in a soup kitchen would probably put me to tears because of all of the homeless people, but I bet I would feel so good about myself when it was over. I often thought of doing something like that. I just have never taken the time out from the holidays to do it.

Aurora, you are such a kind soul. You have done so much for so many and you will be rewarded for it. I really hope that you have the happiest Thanksgiving ever.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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   Posted 11/26/2008 3:13 PM (GMT -7)   
For me this time of the year is just so stressful and it will really test me this year to the limit .
In years before having so maany to buy gifts for i did it all through the year ,
I would buy a couple of gifts when i had the money to spare or when i found something i knew that certain person would truely love ( and they did ).
For me to go shopping this year means a trip to the nearest shopping centre which is a good three hour drive just one way ( something i do not like to beging with ) .Then there are all the people for someone who has panic attacks just going to the supermarket this is going to be really difficult as there are going to be just so many people down there .
Ok to cope this year i have my valium which i only use when needed ...but more importantly i have a tiny mp3 player with the relaxation cd coppied onto it this has been my life saver over the past twelve months it helps to relax me and bring me back to reality.
Take time out just to sit a lot of coffee breakes are good .
This year we are going to the inlaws for three days as my MIL knows i need a rest ( hell they are ver in europe on their final big holiday in their lives ) so it will be good just not to have the stres of catering for everyone and she said it will only be a small christmas this year ( a good thing all round )
With no small children around this year we will not be woken at the crack of dawn so that little bit more rest will be great .
I would deary love to have all my children together for christmas but i know this will never happen again they and all those who the revages of this world have ended will never be far from our hearts .
For those travelling take care and stay safe may god watch over everyone at this hetic time of the year .
Snowflake

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   Posted 11/26/2008 4:10 PM (GMT -7)   

Just wanted to share with you something I did today.  I was rushing around getting what I need for my part for Thanksgiving.  I came out of the store and this young girl came up to me and asked for the nearest metro stop so she could get back to her university.  I explained that the closest stop was more than 2 miles away.  She asked about a bus but there aren't any bus stops close to where I was.  She was not dressed warmly enough I coud see, no mittens or hat.  I said come with me and I will drive you to the metro.  She got in the car with me and we talked a little.  She is from Taiwan - a long way to be away from your family.  She was so grateful that I drove her to the train.  It only took me a few extra minutes to take her but I really felt good about being able to help someone.  Everyone has an angel on their shoulder.  You never know when you will need one.  (however, i'm no angel, i'm just me.)

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   Posted 11/26/2008 9:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Aurora yes you are just you but what really sets you apart from most people out there today is that you gave time to care for someone else and that truely does make you a special person .To the young lass you helped she is safe and warm because a total stranger took the time to care .
Well done .
Snowflake

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   Posted 11/26/2008 11:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you Snowflake for your kind words.  I saw someone in need and I didn't even think if I am safe doing this. I just wantd to help somone who was lost.  So often we don't think about others but there must have been an angel on my shoulder saying that it was the right thing to do.  That is what I mean about angels on our shoulders.  It is not a consience thing but a feeling to help others who are in need of help.  May you have a very peaceful and happy holiday.
 
Many Hugs,
Aurora 

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   Posted 11/27/2008 8:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Aurora,

You are such a kind and wise person. I am glad that you had the oppertunity to help somebody. I know that is what you are all about. Helping others.

Have a wonderful day.

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   Posted 11/27/2008 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Aurora i`m positive we all have an angel out there guiding us .
My belief came one day when i was showing a picture of my children who is sort of a psychic .Now she never knew me before nor any of my children but as i showed her a picture of each of my children she described them to a T .Then when i showed her a picture of my oldest daughter she asked me who was standing behind her with a hand on her shoulder .Now this was a picture of only my daughter no one else .
I asked her to describe this person to me and what she said truely amazed me she had just described my fathers mother .I was so shocked but relieved in another sence as it took a lot of worry from me as my grandmother was a wonderful caring lady who looked out for us even though she spent most of her time in pain all the time i knew her .
So to this day i do believe that we all do have an angel watching over us and guiding us .
Snowflake

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   Posted 11/28/2008 9:22 AM (GMT -7)   

There are truly angels here on earth.  Aurora, that was you being an angel, helping others.  Your always ready with a kind word and help for everyone.

Snowflake, I believe in your experience, there are people that can see what others cannot.  Thanks you so much for sharing.

Karen you are an angel of giving as your always making and giving things to others. 

I would love to be able to help the people who are in a bad place right now do to the economy. I pray that it will not get worse but I know my Christmas spending has had to be cut to 1/2 of what I normally used to spend and that is ok.  I do hate to put the  sales people  at the mall out of jobs thow.

Hugs to all and come on everyone............share with us.

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   Posted 11/28/2008 2:03 PM (GMT -7)   
I know what you mean about having to cut the budget on Christmas this year.  The economy is so bad we really do have to tighten our belts if we are going to make it.  Hopefully  things will start to turn around next year.  We are having a small gift giving this year, I am only putting on my list the things I truly need, some pens, a day planner, items that I need every day and that are not expensive.  I have a lovely dinner planned and since this year we are only 3 it won't cost too much.  We have to keep in mind all those who have lost homes and everything, joblessness, the homeless.  Let's try to help others by donating our time in some way, soup kitchen, gently used coats, a small donation, even a quarter or 2 in the Salvation Army kettles. When you help someone else you are truly helping yourself because you will feel good about yourself.  And lets not forget all the military servicemen and women who are doing so much to protect us and who suffer terrible injuries.  Send a letter to a serviceman through the military or help with making gift packages.  There is so much we can do. I truly feel the spirit this year is what we can do to make someone else's life a little bit better.

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   Posted 11/29/2008 4:45 PM (GMT -7)   

Right on everyone.  Come on all join in...........what will you do to keep the stress down and feel good over the holidays.

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   Posted 11/30/2008 5:02 AM (GMT -7)   
Thought I'd join in as well :).

Aurora, you are so right when you say we need to consider the less fortuned as well. It is easy to take things for granted and forget that not everyone in this world has the same luxury you have. I think that is the real Christmas spirit.

But holiday stress? I am so looking forward to holiday, to have some time for myself without all the worries about school and things. Also, holiday for me equals being at my parent's house with my little brother, and there are few things I enjoy more than that.

But I think it would be a good idea if we keep eachother updated on our situations here on HW :-)

Have a wonderful day everyone!
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Try to keep smiling! :)


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   Posted 11/30/2008 10:30 AM (GMT -7)   
I am a lister. I write lists for everything, but as long as I have it down on paper, I get it off of my mind.

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   Posted 11/30/2008 2:29 PM (GMT -7)   

Hurrah..take care of the needy and the people with illnesses who may be experiencing their last Christmas.

I have adopted the Cancer Hope Lodge and intend to donate time to help them with their Christmas festivies.  Most of the patients that are capable will go home for Christmas but not everyone can do that.

The Ronald McDonald Home is only a few blocks away and I am betting some new toys would be welcome.

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   Posted 11/30/2008 3:51 PM (GMT -7)   
Kitt,

You are such a wonderful person to give of your time and the toys to the Ronald McDonald house. You will be especially blessed for your kindness.

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   Posted 11/30/2008 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   

I have a friend who lost her son to aids/HIV several years ago.  I always make a donation to the aids charity here in his memory.  Also we have a chain of grocery stores where you can contribute food items to the needy.  I always buy a few extra things that people would like and some staples.  It breaks my heart to see people go hungry, especially children. And I never pass by the Salvation Army kettles without putting in a handful of change. Let's all pray that the coming year will show an improvement in the economy and that people will be able to get back on their feet and get jobs.

Aurora


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   Posted 12/5/2008 8:07 AM (GMT -7)   

Aurora,

Those are really special things you do. It makes me feel so good to read the way people handle the stress.

Happy Friday.
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   Posted 12/5/2008 10:45 AM (GMT -7)   
We as a Family decided this year to make Christmas about family and not presents, the kids will all get presents not as many as usual but we are commited to spending more time together this Christmas. My brother family and our usually buy gifts for each other kids, this year we will not do that but we will spend the day together, This is a very hard time for me as my father died 1997 on Dec 26th so Christmas has been a real tough time for me.

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   Posted 12/5/2008 2:00 PM (GMT -7)   

Thomas, I am so sorry about your Father.  I do like your making new traditions of your own.  that is what we are doing to.

I hope you enjoy your holiday and stick with us.
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   Posted 12/7/2008 8:47 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt
I have only been here for a few days but I already know joining was a good idea, I am here to stay:)

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   Posted 12/7/2008 9:19 AM (GMT -7)   

Thomas,

Bless you and your family.  It is good to hear you are finding the care and comfort of the HealingWell Family. I look forward to getting to knowyou better.

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   Posted 12/8/2008 12:23 AM (GMT -7)   
With 9 kids christmas became a nightmare along time ago.My kids like most had the gimmes,and even though we have always told are kids that there was not a santa claus (we wanted them to always know what X-mas and easter were realy about)It was always I want I want.So about 10 years ago we sat are kids down and told them that since christmas was about the birth of christ and he received 3 gifts (frankincense,gold,and myrrh)That from that year and every year to come thay would receive 3 gifts each and that thay should remember when thay opened there gifts that jesus recieved 3 gifts on the day he was born.We still do this. First it helps remind them what the day is really for second it helps keep the cost down third it keeps the stress down for me because I can get my shopping done in one to two trips. DEBBIE.
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   Posted 12/8/2008 11:36 PM (GMT -7)   

Great answers everyone..........keep it going.  We need to lift ourselves up.  Traditions of Christmas have gotten lost in all the commercialism IMHO.

The wreath has significant meaning for the season. It's circular shape represents eternity, for it has no beginning and no end.

Today, it is sometimes hard to remember the real meaning of Christmas. We get all caught up in the hype of Santa and his arrival. The wreath over the hearth brings a warmth to our hearts as we stop to reflect upon the true meaning of this very special day.

Whenever I look at a wreath I will think of each of you with special thoughts and prayers for a peaceful holiday.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

 


 

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