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Thomas2
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   Posted 12/4/2008 11:45 AM (GMT -7)   
I know this is a very hard question to ask because everyone is different. How long before you felt you were past most of your issues?
I seem to be on a roller coaster, I just had 20 days of feeling pretty good , not happy but not depressed either and then WAM! right back into a depression again, they keeping up my meds and adding new ones, all the side effects...... so hard to deal with

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   Posted 12/4/2008 12:05 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Thomas,

It has taken me years to learn to be happy. I was always thinking that I was fine, but didn't realize until I actually felt better that I didn't feel good. Does that make any sense?

Some people find the right medications quicker than others. I think it is different for all of us. But as long as you are improving, that is good.

You are doing the right things, with medications and with therapy. So you should be seeing results. It may be suttle and slow, but it will be sure. We tend to go from highs to lows with a blink of an eye. I guess that in life, we aren't going to be happy all of the time.

There is a lot of depression going on with the holiday season. So I think that would be normal if you aren't feeling your best. Try to hang in there. Things will get better.

I am sure you will get other replies to your question, so be patient. There are a lot of people experiencing what you are right now.

Hugs, Karen
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TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 12/4/2008 12:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Well, I have been on medication since May, my first I thought would work well.... but it didnt... I fell right back into depression so I had it changed, 3 months later I feel alot better. And now I realize how bad I actually was.

To answer your question, it is different for everyone so, its hard to compare yourself to all of us. Sometimes it take a while, sometimes it does. Sometimes it requires medication, sometimes not. Sometimes it includes seeing a therapist... You see where Im going?

Its really hard to determine what will help you feel better. Its really a trial and error time thing. I think the most important thing to do is to continue to recieve help and find out what helps you. You will know when you feel better. Do NOT give up! Keep thinking to yourself and repeat "I will feel better and I can get through this, I will NOT give up, and I will beat this."

I had to do that for a while. I know its really hard getting thru things and there is always a WAM moment...sometimes over and over, but keep fighting! Things are always happening and things will continue to happen, but you have to keep going and have hope that you can get through and one day you will realize that you feel better!

I hope that day is soon, you are doing the right things. Dont give up! Fight hard! Take Care!
Lyrica and Paxil (both working quite well might I add!)
   "Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
    "Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
    "Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


Thomas2
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   Posted 12/4/2008 12:30 PM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the thoughts. I am going to keep fighting and finally beat this. My breakdown a few months ago changed my outlook on many things, mainly my wife and how I had pulled away from her as bad as it was there have been some good things come out of it.
We are closer than we have ever been
I quit smoking 3 months ago
no caffine anymore
lost a bunch of weight because of the meds! (not hungry at all anymore) I forget to eat all the time
and even a few days where I could say I was happy.

I guess I am worried because those bad thoughts just will not go away, they just put me on Lithium to try to help that.

TeNNiSd0C09
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   Posted 12/4/2008 1:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Wow, thats wonderful! Ya know, it is ALOT of bad stuff and it really stinks having to go thru this kind of stuff, but I like to think of it as a learning experience.

1.) I learned to talk to people more and be a little more social!
2.) I am closer to my friends and teachers!
3.) I have a greater appreciation for people
4.) It has greatly added more passion for my dream of becoming a surgeon!
5.) I actually quit caffeine for several months! And I felt better!
6.) AND I can finally say that I am happy, not as worried, more comfortable, a little more confident, and tons more out-going!

7.) MOST IMPORTANTLY: I am ME!

So, its not always a bad thing. We just need to open our eyes to the good things that can come out of it! (thats easier said than done, I know!) But, your right, you will fight, and you will beat this! And I am SO happy that you are closer to your wife! Im sure she can help you alot by being there for you to lean on and to talk too! Relationships are so important! Im really happy for you.... You ARE on your way! Keep up the good work!! Take Care
Lyrica and Paxil (both working quite well might I add!)
   "Cracks in the concrete are just reminders that you fall apart no matter how strong you are"
    "Sometimes it is best to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve"
    "Im going to smile like nothing is wrong, talk like everything is perfect, act like its all a dream, and pretend its not hurting me."


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   Posted 12/4/2008 5:38 PM (GMT -7)   

Super advice by TeNNis.............you rock sweetie.  Listen to her, she knows of what she speaks.

Take care and hope you get on the right med.

Kitt


 

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Thomas2
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   Posted 12/5/2008 10:18 AM (GMT -7)   
TeNNis
Thanks so much, I hope I will be able to say all the things you have said. I am talking to my therapist at least once a week sometimes more. She told me she thinks we are getting close. One question I have that i am having a real hard time with, I have always been very hard on myself ( must ALWAYS be perfect you know) Every one tells me you need to forgive yourself....but no one says HOW???

Aurora60
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   Posted Yesterday 10:51 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Thomas, you have been given some very good advice.  One thing I feel is that I am not really searching so much for hapiness as I am looking to find contentment.  I have had a lot of bad things happen in my life and I have learned to work past all of those things even though I can't help but be influenced by some of them.  True hapiness is a not an easy state to achieve, that is my way of thinking, but I think if we can find contentment in our lives that it is a very good thing.  There is always going to be someting that happens as we go along but we have to learn to work through those issues.  I have had the benefit of a wonderful therapist. Have you every heard the expression "life is what happens while we are making plans?"  We certainly can have control over our lives, we just have to be accepting of the things that do go wrong and learn how to work around them. I hope this makes some sense to you and will help you.  Take good care of yourself and famly.

Aurora

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