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4everDangling
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   Posted Yesterday 4:49 PM (GMT -7)   
This is very hard because I would like to keep it brief. First of all, from the posts I have already read it does not sound like I am in any way alone. I guess misery loves company, huh? I have been taking meds for depression and other problems for a very long time. I am 40 yrs. old and can only see things going down hill. In and out of depression for as long as I can remember. Most people who meet me would never expect that I feel the way I do. I guess we all know how the world would like us to be. Smile, act polite, be positive, look happy.... It is becoming harder and harder to keep up the front. I guess I am looking for support and people who understand that depression is real and even debilitating at times and sometimes there are not clear answers as to why or how to fix these problems. Mostly I feel desperate, stressed and agitated.

I hope for the best for all people here and out there. May good thoughts and happy feelings fill you all.

getting by
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   Posted Yesterday 6:15 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi 4ever,

I know how you feel, I put up the same front, I am usually smiling and saying hello to everybody I see. So people do take the time to talk to me. Sometimes I wish that they wouldn't but I would rather appear happy than not.

But I do understand when it gets too hard to do that. But we just keep pushing on, because we are afraid to give into the darkness of depression.

I am happy that you have joined us 4ever. There is also an intorduction thread if you would like to post on it. But that is up to you. You started this thread and I am sure that you will be welcomed by all.

I hope that you are haveing a good day today.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


4everDangling
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted Yesterday 6:21 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank you. I actually thought I was posting on the introduction thread but I see that I was wrong. I will try to move it over soon. Again, thank you for the welcome.

getting by
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   Posted Yesterday 6:28 PM (GMT -7)   
You don't have to move it over if you don't want to. This is fine, I am just so use to telling everybody about the introduction thread that it just comes out. This is fine.

I think that a lot of times when we do put on our happy face, that it does help us to keep a positive attitude. Moreso than if we were to stay to ourselves and think about everything.

Take life one day at a time, stay in the moment.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


4everDangling
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Date Joined Dec 2008
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   Posted Yesterday 6:39 PM (GMT -7)   
No, that is fine. I should put it in the right place. You are kind and I feel welcome. I just posted over on the intro thread (I think). You are welcome to get rid of this one if you can. I have not checked to see if I can delete it.

Hugs back to you.

getting by
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   Posted Yesterday 10:07 PM (GMT -7)   
I deleted the other thread that you started, this is a good one, so lets keep it.

Hugs, Karen
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fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies


enWayen
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Date Joined Apr 2008
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   Posted Today 8:37 AM (GMT -7)   
Heej 4ever,

Nope, you are not alone. I think a lot of us here on HW tend to put on our "happy faces". There are few who can see through that mask. Once I finally opened up and told others I was depressed, they were in fact shocked as they though I was one of the happiest kids in school. Even when I felt everyone would had noticed my sadness, they only saw the face I was wearing.
With this, I want to illustrate how hard it is for others to know how you feel. There are so much wonderful people out there that are willing to lend you a helping hand, give you a hug, or help you in any other way. But our faces tend to be so good that they never see we need help. So maybe it is time for us to put down those masks, show them who we really are. Then we shall experience the love and compassion that is out there.

You could see it as a magnet. Negative attracts positive, but our "positive" happy faces in fact repels positive from others. Not because they don't want to share it, but because they never realize we need it.

4ever, feel free to write more about you and open up to the world!

Have a wonderful day!
Erik
Acceptance is the key

The World is but a reflection. Smile, and it will smile back.

Try to keep smiling! :)


mom9mom
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   Posted Today 5:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Eric what a great post.Its part of what I was trying to say in my post.Nobody but my family was awear that I was depressed except my family and even though thay new thay had no idea how bad it was untel I hurt my self.This forum is so great because we can come and talk to other people just like us who will really understand.So to 4ever I am happy that you found this forum so that you can talk to people just like you(like me).I hope you will find alot of people tp connect with.When you are down it helps to post on this forum.
Lost half of my small intestineJan.2008.Ilieostomy for 5 months then reverst in June 2008,Nerve damage to right leg,part of my right hip bone removed Jan. 2008,Cronic pain,hernia,infection in my back called discites,and depression.Gallbladder removed Nov,2008.Mother to 9 kids 7 boys 2 girls and 1 stepson.4 grandsons,9 grandaughters.4 of my grandkids I inherited from my twin sister who passed away 6 1/2 years ago from a blood clot after surgery.God has given me my life back after I almost lost it.Even though its a painful and sometimes hard road to walk I take it one step at a time and give thanks to god for every step I take.


mom9mom
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Date Joined Sep 2008
Total Posts : 489
   Posted Today 5:18 PM (GMT -7)   
Eric what a great post.Its part of what I was trying to say in my post.Nobody but my family was awear that I was depressed except my family and even though thay new thay had no idea how bad it was untel I hurt my self.This forum is so great because we can come and talk to other people just like us who will really understand.So to 4ever I am happy that you found this forum so that you can talk to people just like you(like me).I hope you will find alot of people tp connect with.When you are down it helps to post on this forum.
Lost half of my small intestineJan.2008.Ilieostomy for 5 months then reverst in June 2008,Nerve damage to right leg,part of my right hip bone removed Jan. 2008,Cronic pain,hernia,infection in my back called discites,and depression.Gallbladder removed Nov,2008.Mother to 9 kids 7 boys 2 girls and 1 stepson.4 grandsons,9 grandaughters.4 of my grandkids I inherited from my twin sister who passed away 6 1/2 years ago from a blood clot after surgery.God has given me my life back after I almost lost it.Even though its a painful and sometimes hard road to walk I take it one step at a time and give thanks to god for every step I take.


stkitt
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Date Joined Apr 2007
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   Posted Today 11:28 PM (GMT -7)   

4everDangling

Hello, this is Kitt. You have come to the right place to find members who know where you are coming from and what your going through.

You might be interested in this book:

Understanding Depression By Patricia Ainsworth

I have had Depression and Anxiey for 26 years and I know all about putting on my happy face and pretending I am happy go lucky when inside I am crying.  I am wishing I really was the person that acts happy and tries to keep others from knowing how I really felt.

I finally crashed and when I told people what was wrong they laughed and said yeah, right until the tears started to trickle down my face and then they believed.

I believe if you stick with us we can help you so keep posting and know we care.  You are not alone anymore.

Gentle hugs

Kitt


 

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