Dear Beany, I am so sorry to learn of the loss of your brother. As others have said it will take some time to get used to and there is no set time for how long you grieve for someone especially a brother you were close to. Have you thought about seeing a school counselor or a therapist to work on helping you deal wirh your feelings? Another thought, is there a hospice in your area? Most hospices have grief support groups and you do not have to have a family member who was in hospice to go to their support groups. The people who work for a hospice are very specially trained and if they have a support group that may be a very good place to go to. They often have groups for young people. You would find a lot of caring and compassion. There is also a group you can go online to, called Compassionate Friends. That is an organization that may offer the support you need. I am not trying to break any rules here, but I do think it is important for you to know where you can go to get help. I know you are devastated by this loss and you can come here any time and pour your heart out and there will always be somoeone to answer you. Again, please accept my sympathy for your loss. Try to take care of yourself too and go to your parents. This must be very hard for them to and they need you right now.
Gentle, caring hugs,
Please do call your friends or come here and just let your feelings out. You are with a family of loving members that have gone through your experience and still cry for their loved ones many years later. It is ok.
I know I used to get mad when people told me "it will get better in time". It does not make your loss easier but time dulls the pain.
Do you have a grief counselor, ask your teacher as they usually have access to a list of counselors?
Let those tears out, and they will come in buckets sweetie, that is normal. I had red eyes for months.
This time of year I still grieve for my loss and wonder how things might have been different.
Take our hands and let us help you.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depression& GERD Forums*~*