So Sorry about Chat Tuesdy......family problem

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stkitt
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   Posted 12/30/2008 9:45 PM (GMT -7)   
My Dear Friends,
 
I am so sorry I forgot to post the Tuesday Chat, please forgive me.  I am mixed up on the days of the week and I had bad news today.
 
I do not know if I can handle one more problem but if my Big sis Lyn can do it so will I.
 
My oldest son who lives on west coast told me today his wife wants a divorce.  From what he has told me I feel she may be Bipolar.
 
She has been getting credit cards that he knew nothing about and has charged them to the max.  One she charged up to $8,000.00. She won't tell him what she bought.  She is bound to go to college and has been in junior colleges for about 5 years now and taking out student loans.  She wanted to be a nurse but cannot pass the Nursing Assistant Certification.  She has flunked out of Nursing School.  Now she wants to sell the house and take the 3 children and move so she can attend University of Oregon to be a Pharmacist.
 
They have a 14 years old with Aspergers, a 12 year old and an 8 year old.  The special needs child needs to be in a stable environment and she was for years now all this has happened.
 
My DIL took nearly all the money out of their bank account so my son took her name off the account.
She has never worked which I thought was fine having a child that needs extra care but now I am beside myself and he is so far away.  Why is this happening to him again?
 
His first wife ran off with another man and she got custody of their daughter, my oldest granddaughter who I never get to see.  She is 22 now.
 
My son is an Electrical Engineer and he has been a good son and husband.  I know of many wonderful things he has done for his wife and family.
 
What can I do to help him.  It is breaking my heart to see him hurting so and he will probably lose everything he has worked so hard for.  He is 44 years old.
 
I know he is not perfect as none of us are but this is just not fair.
Someone please tell me what I can do to help him.
Thanks for reading
Kitt 
 

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Confusedli
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   Posted 12/31/2008 3:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Kitt,

I am sorry that you son has to go through this, it must be so hard, especially at this time of year aswell. I think if I was him the main thing I'd want from you would be someone to talk to and someone to listen to me. Just someone who he knows is providing him unconditional support.

It sounds like your DIL has a lot of problems of her own. Maybe she just needs some space to sort herself out.

I hope that you are ok, it sounds like you have lots on your plate right now!!
Confusedli
 
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"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain"


stkitt
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   Posted 12/31/2008 7:24 AM (GMT -7)   

Dear Confused,

Thank you for reading and no I am not ok, he is so far away and no family to help him. I talk to him when I can but right now my heart hurts so bad for him.

I lost my second son to a car accident, he died at the scene.  This one, my oldest left home right out of high school for the service and ended up settling on west coast as he loves it there and he lives on the ocean so his allergies are so much better but I have felt like I lost 2 sons as my first born is so far away and I am lucky to see him once a year...........

OK, pity party over!  I will wipe the tears and get on with life.

Thank you for the shoulder.

Gentle Hugs
Kitt


 

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getting by
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   Posted 12/31/2008 8:16 AM (GMT -7)   
Kitt,

I am so sorry to hear about your son. But please don't take too much on. Actually all you can do is be there for him. You can't change what has happened. Be there emotionally, but don't tax yourself too much. You have had a lot going on lately and I worry about you.

I forgot about Chat Tuesday. I was sick, and still am. So I haven't been on much. So please don't worry. You have nothing to be sorry for.

Take care of you... You are what is important right now. I wish you all the best.

Luv and hugs, Karen
  Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
 
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies

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