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Brum 29
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   Posted 12/31/2008 8:16 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all.
I really don't know where to start.  I am hurting right now. Everything is going so wrong. I want to go into the HR profession amd I have a very supportive mentor and friend to help me get there. However, because most other things have gone wrong, I keep thinking that I am going to lose this person as a friend.  They have been very supportive about my depression and I know I wouldn't have got this without them. I have problems with eating too and this is getting to me a lot.
 
I don't have a good relationship with my parents and the only other person I could speak to died in 2006 and I don't think I have grieved for my auntie properly to protect my family. I miss her so so much.
 
My mum suffers with depression quite badly and she quite clearly blames me for her depression because of my disability. Due to the lies I have had from her I feel I can't trust her or anyone else for that matter. 
 
I can't deal with all this anymore
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getting by
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   Posted 12/31/2008 10:35 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Brum,

Do you go to any counseling? Are you able to? You might want to talk to your doctor and set something up so that you can go to counseling. You need the extra support.

Another thing I can offer you is:
 
 
 
These are both free sites to help you with depression.  Check them out.  let us know how it goes.
 
Hugs, Karen


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Confusedli
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   Posted 1/1/2009 3:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Brum,

I think counselling would really help you too. It has helped me a lot over the last 6 months or so.

Also I think you need to learn to trust your friend, maybe you haven't been able to trust people in the past - but try & have some faith, they wouldn't help you if they didn't want to.
Confusedli
 
"The Optimist sees the rose and not its thorns; the pessimist stares at the thorns, oblivious of the rose."
 
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stkitt
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   Posted 1/1/2009 5:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Hey Brum,

The  sites that  Karen posted for you are really great.  I am slowly working through the CBT site.

You cannot cause other peoples depression so please don't put that burden on your shoulders.

Just keep talking to us and trust your friend to follow through on helping you.

Raise your head up high and know you are a good person.

Kitt

 


 

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SmurfyShadow
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   Posted 1/1/2009 6:55 PM (GMT -7)   
Brum hon, I'm sure just becaue you have disabilities there are good things about you. LIke common sense, you have enough common sense to want to get help. You know I have depression. My mum she saw the depression. I have Asperger's you see, its high functioning autism. I'm your talking and typing version. I always knew I was different, and it depressed me. Mum got a binder put a package of paper in it. Wrote a letter on each page at top of alphabet. Then I had the whole alphabet. After that, she took my positive charastics and put it witht he letter on the page. I had a whole binder of good things about me when she gave it to me. Last year, I snapped at my doctor didnt even notice depression was back. I had just lost a friend. I won a free ticket to counceling and medication. It helps, it really does. I am now a year later off medication and just go to counceling.

Brum 29
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   Posted 1/2/2009 12:04 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you so much for your help everyon. I am going to counselling, but things are very tough right now. I am certainly going to achieve my academic goals though.
I have visited the link posted. It is helping thank you.
I just keep thinking things will go wrong though. It is not good,
Thanks again.
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   Posted 1/2/2009 11:12 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Brum,

I am so happy that you visited the sites. Try to think positive, it gets us a lot farther. And remember that we are here for you.

Luv and hugs, Karen
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stkitt
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   Posted 1/2/2009 4:57 PM (GMT -7)   

Hi Brum,

Write a list of all the good things about you and in your life.........just brainstorm.  Write what ever pops into your mind and then look at it and know you have many wonderful traits.

A Journey of a 1000 miles starts with a single step.

Hugs

Kitt


 

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Brum 29
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   Posted 1/4/2009 11:37 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,

Thank you for all your help.

I am just so tired and I just wonder how much more I can take of this. I keep having flashbacks of a very difficult time in my life. I have a good group of close friends, but I can't explain things to them.

Thanks
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